Confused

Miss Pinky

Need some advice BADLY:confused:

Ok story is I was with this guy that i know for years a few months ago and he asked me out for dinner but then he never text me so i thought there was just too much drink on board and forgot about it.

But then he text me out of the blew three weeks ago asking how i was general chit chat,then chit chat turned into flirty texting.So about a week later we were texting on a Saturday night and he asked me to call to his house if i wanted to so i did and we got on really well.(nothing happened but he kissed me when i was leaving!;)) He asked me to call again on the Sunday night but i couldnt because i had plans already with family so couldnt change them.

So we had been texting away most nights really flirty text messages and then boom havent heard a thing from him since last Wednesday.I text him Friday and he didnt reply

So now do i text him or leave him or what the hell should i do........

I actually do really like him and am soooooo confused.
Why is he blowing hot and cold

Help Please!!:eek:

Radharc na Sleibhte

Pick up phone and ring.
Damn texts are so vague.
Give him a ring at the weekend, if you hear nowt.

c - 13

Pick up the phone and ring him. Once. If he answers chat away. If he doesnt and doesnt call you back, cut your losses. Simple as.

I hate texting...

Star Lord

I'm a big texter, but I agree, call the guy!!!

Heisenberg.

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Maple

Call him.

helimachoptor

honestly txting is great for friends, current partners... But these days people are very afraid of ringing someone that they want to go out with. Pick up the phone call him, If he doesnt answer leave voicemail. If he doesnt call you back f**k him. If he does answer ask him out. If he says no its not the end of the world.

Possibly he could just have been looking for a quick shag though...

Agent Smith

what this thread has to do with Confused.com a Insurance company i do not know!

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DamoElDiablo wrote: »

I'm a big texter, but I agree, call the guy!!!

Yeah im the same, and i have to say ringing him sounds like your best bet!

towel401

if he doesnt answer just like call from a different number and see if he calls that back. maybe he just gone awol for a while. he could come back next week

Miss Fluff

towel401 wrote: »

if he doesnt answer just like call from a different number and see if he calls that back.

WHAAAAAAAAT????????? Do not do this under any circumstances OP, unless you want to be whacked with a restraining order, this behaviour really wouldn't get you anywhere.

Phone him and ask him does he fancy hooking up. Simple as. If you can't face doing that text him once more saying long time no hear, fancy catching up at the weekend. If he doesn't reply.....move on and don't waste your time.

Talliesin

Miss Pinky wrote: »

Why is he blowing hot and cold

You are unsure about how he feels.

Why do you assume he is completely sure about how you feel?

towel401

Miss Fluff wrote: »

WHAAAAAAAAT????????? Do not do this under any circumstances OP, unless you want to be whacked with a restraining order, this behaviour really wouldn't get you anywhere.

Phone him and ask him does he fancy hooking up. Simple as. If you can't face doing that text him once more saying long time no hear, fancy catching up at the weekend. If he doesn't reply.....move on and don't waste your time.

eh? its a fast and efficient way of finding out if someone or something isn't interested anymore. they answer the call from the other phone and not the first one you can be pretty sure they're not interested. its not unusual for a person to have multiple phones these days, in this country phones outnumber people.

MagicMarker

Ok, first of all, if us guys like a gal, then we're going to text you. This guy seems to text you when he's bored with nothing else to do.

I say don't bother contacting him, delete his number, forget about him because he obviously doesn't think highly of you.

Maggie Simpson

Miss Pinky wrote: »

Ok story is I was with this guy that i know for years a few months ago and he asked me out for dinner but then he never text me so i thought there was just too much drink on board and forgot about it.

IMHO your first instinct may have been right.

Miss Pinky wrote: »

But then he text me out of the blew three weeks ago asking how i was general chit chat,then chit chat turned into flirty texting.So about a week later we were texting on a Saturday night and he asked me to call to his house if i wanted to so i did and we got on really well.(nothing happened but he kissed me when i was leaving!;)) He asked me to call again on the Sunday night but i couldnt because i had plans already with family so couldnt change them.

So we had been texting away most nights really flirty text messages and then boom havent heard a thing from him since last Wednesday.I text him Friday and he didnt reply

So now do i text him or leave him or what the hell should i do........

You text him, he didn't reply. Leave it alone.

Miss Pinky wrote: »

I actually do really like him and am soooooo confused.
Why is he blowing hot and cold

Help Please!!:eek:

He's not blowing hot and cold. He vanished for 3 weeks after you were together & then got in touch & didn't give you any reason why he'd never asked you out for dinner? Then you called around to his house & been doing 'flirty' texting. Sorry to be blunt but this guy seems like he's a bit of an ass and I really wouldn't text him again. He ignored your last text.....if he really liked you, he'd have been in touch by now.

Sorry if this seems harsh....just been there/seen this many many times!! It's the summer, everyone's out - get out & meet someone nicer!

Pub07

I dont know why people on this board keep saying dont text, call someone. Ive seen this on quite a few threads at this stage. Do the people who advocate doing this actually practise what they preach? If someone stops texting you, its game over, they're not interested, if they were they would reply, its as simple as that. As MagicMarker says, if a guy likes a girl, or the other way around, you can be damn sure they will reply/keep texting. I'd never call someone up if they stopped txting, I would feel like Im just pestering them...and whats the point anyway I know they're obviously not interested.

And there is absolutely nothing wrong with texting at this stage of relationship, which is basically the starting blocks. The last few women Ive seen it's all started with a bit of texting after getting their numbers when out. Calling up, basically, a stranger and trying to have a conversation with them over the phone when you dont even know them was necessary in the past when you wanted to ask someone out but these days its all so much simpler and easier with the power of texting

towel401

doesn't have to be. i know someone who disappears for months at a time and then always comes back like nothing happened. and doesnt really reply to anything in the mean time

she's a strange fish though. a very strange fish. probably not too many like that out there

biko

Phone could be off/lost/stolen/no credit ...
No way you will find out unless you ring him.

AngryBadger

Why don't you jsut take the iniative and text him to arrange something?

Why do you assume he should be contacting you?

From my perspective it seems like there was not a huge amount of motion on your part. The guy got in touch with you, ye met up, there was more texting, but nothing was happening unless he was suggesting it, at this early stage I'd be inclined to think "This girl isn't really interested, I've made my interest clear, but she's not reciprocating".

Granted he never got back onto you about dinner, but did it occur to you he might have been waiting for you to get back onto him?

So maybe he just felt there wasn't any motivation on your part, so why keep pressing the issue.

Call/text, show some initiative rather than waiting by the phone and hopinhg he'll call.

lolli

Op,

You have already text this guy and he hasnt replied so I wouldnt text him again, I would give him a buzz and ask does he want to meet up. If he doesnt answer he'll see he has a missed call from you and if hes interested he'll ring you back.

Please bare in mind though that people do get sick, they have things going on in their lives. If he doesnt contact you for a while it maybe that he has something going on in his life at the moment that is taking up his time, it might not mean that he is not interested.

Give him a buzz and see what happens from there.

Good luck!!

valz_walsh

Ya Id def call him too, little bit of chit chat, and then ask him out for a few drinks somewhere. Maybe his looking for you to make the next move.

Im a big fan of texting too, but if its only the start of a possible relationship, a phone call would be best.

Good luck!

Maggie Simpson

Sorry but I think you are all in cloud cuckoo land.

She hasn't heard from him since last Wednesday & sent him a text on Friday which he ignored. I think he's made his feelings quite clear & all this stuff about out of credit/no signal is rubbish when you're talking days rather than hours waiting for a reply. A few hours/a day is understandable. Days on end says something else........

towel401

not really. people not replying is a common occurrence. i even do it myself sometimes. and that doesnt mean i'm not interested in those people

Pub07

Maggie Simpson wrote: »

Sorry but I think you are all in cloud cuckoo land.

She hasn't heard from him since last Wednesday & sent him a text on Friday which he ignored. I think he's made his feelings quite clear & all this stuff about out of credit/no signal is rubbish when you're talking days rather than hours waiting for a reply. A few hours/a day is understandable. Days on end says something else........

+1. Obvious stuff really, don't know how some people cant cop on to this.
Guy who has been texting the op most nights stops contacting her on wednesday, she txts him but gets no reply friday, still no answer by monday - god if people cant see the writing on the wall here they must have a very hard time picking up hints. What does he have to do to let the op know he's not interested, take out an ad in the Irish Independant?

towel401 wrote:

not really. people not replying is a common occurrence. i even do it myself sometimes. and that doesnt mean i'm not interested in those people.

I take it you're talking about friends/acquaintences as opposed to someone you might want to start having a relationship with. Even still the most I'd generally leave it before getting back to anyone is a day, its bad form otherwise.

And if it is someone that you want to start seeing you'll be getting back to them in a lot less than 24 hours, why the hell would you be leaving it for days?

littlefriend

biko wrote: »

Phone could be off/lost/stolen/no credit ...

Come on - that just doesn't happen in real life. If a guy is into you you know all about it.
OP - I think you should just forget it. From what you have said you have been available to him whenever he has felt like contacting you ie not much effort required on his part. Getting in touch with him again on the off chance that he might be interested in you is a bit embarrassing. Take his number out of your phone and forget about it.

Oh and if he does happen to contact you again - let him do the running over to your house etc etc.

Predhead

towel401 wrote: »

eh? its a fast and efficient way of finding out if someone or something isn't interested anymore. they answer the call from the other phone and not the first one you can be pretty sure they're not interested. its not unusual for a person to have multiple phones these days, in this country phones outnumber people.

Eh it's a desperado/bunny boiler's way of doing of finding out!