tired of things

LegacyUser

this may sound a bit weird or something but it been on my mind recently. does anyone esle just get fed up of things, fed up of their life, dont get me wrong now im not talking about ending anything, im just tired of my life or maybe my lifestlye. im 25, a student, single, been told im attractive, have great friends, a great family, it would seem that i have things pretty good but im just not happy. i just feel worn out or something. im not even sure how to explain what im feeling. maybe im bored iwth my life which i find strange because iv saw a fair share of the world, iv recently started a new course so i have new things going on on my life but even still i just dont feel right...

RedXIV

Just having a quick read through that post and the one line that stood out to me is the line "I've been told i'm attractive". This to me suggests resentment at being single which i feel could be the answer. Maybe you are looking for someone to share this new life with?

Irishcrx

We all get a bit bored of life from time to time, I myself at the min couldn't be any more fed up with my job, current house , car and not knowing what to be doing. But it hasn't really made me unhappy because I know it will pass and thing's will change.

As Red said are you tired being single? why not get out there and make yourself available, try an online dating site? Get some self confidence back running through your blood again. Take a look at the thing's that are making you unhappy and do something about them, if you don't make the change it simply won't happen an active thinker is a healthy thinker.

LegacyUser

ya know something i think your right, actually i know your right but iv never wanted to admit it. but i have tried to do that too but no luck for a long time with anyone i actually lreally like

RedXIV

whatswrong wrote: »

ya know something i think your right, actually i know your right but iv never wanted to admit it. but i have tried to do that too but no luck for a long time with anyone i actually lreally like

Just need to get out a bit and try the dating game my friend! http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055294582&page=2
This thread is from the ladies lounge and is the experience of going to a speed dating kind of thing. now it may not be your cup of tea but might be an idea to follow up on. that or if ya want i know a few single girls?

LegacyUser

iv tried the whold internet dating thing, nothing worked out, dont think speed dating would be my kinda thing, id never have the confidense and i know it takes a big leap but i really dont think that be it. there other circumstances too,im a very poor student and i cant afford luxeries, dont drive, rarely go out that kinda thing and i know if i dont go out i wont meet anyone but i really cant afford to and then in college most people are younger than me and any other people around my age are mostly involved with people. in a way iv gien up hope, been rejected too many times i think

RedXIV

whatswrong wrote: »

iv tried the whold internet dating thing, nothing worked out, dont think speed dating would be my kinda thing, id never have the confidense and i know it takes a big leap but i really dont think that be it. there other circumstances too,im a very poor student and i cant afford luxeries, dont drive, rarely go out that kinda thing and i know if i dont go out i wont meet anyone but i really cant afford to and then in college most people are younger than me and any other people around my age are mostly involved with people. in a way iv gien up hope, been rejected too many times i think

Now you my friend sound like a challenge. Let me put things in perspective for you, I have no money, zip, zilch, nadda. Till i get paid in 2 weeks. But today i initiated conversation, secured a date and have an idea of what i'm gonna do with my limited funding.
Money = not an excuse. I can show you how to get around that.
Non-Driver = same here, not a big deal.
Rarely go out = so what?
college people younger than you = not a big deal, most girls prefer older guys anyway.
been rejected too many times = i guarantee i can beat this number.

Trust me mate, if you WANT to get out of this, i'll can help ya as much as i can but you need to WANT to get out of it too, and not believe your time is up

LegacyUser

thanks red and please help me, im willing to take all the help i can get at the minute

RedXIV

Good man, now where abouts are you? if you're in Dub for example, are ya up for meeting up for a coffee or something? just so we can get your head around the idea that there's a womanizing machine just waiting to be unleashed inside you? if not, well you're gonna have to give me a real account or email address to work with

( Can't have the girls learning my secrets )

AARRRGH

Everyone gets tired of their situation every now and then. I think it's pretty normal. The problem, in my opinion, is when the tired feeling doesn't go away.

I know I'm always saying this, but...

Would you join a human rights organisation? There are three major personal benefits to this:

1. You will quickly put your life in perspective as you realise just how lucky you are. Probably 99% of the people in the world would jump at the chance to have your life.
2. Your life will gain a bit of meaning. You'll feel you can help people in need, and it'll give you something to focus on.
3. You'll make loads of new friends, and in particular, you'll meet loads of women. Human rights organisations are full of women...

kev_s88

OP i know exactly how ya feel.im a 19 yr old guy.took a year off before i went to college and worked for 9 months, but now that im finished working and im sitting at home with nothing to do im really getting tired of everything. theres no point in gettin a job cause im aways a good bit in the summer, my friends all work so they're never around and ive got nothing to do.and ive got no-one to share the burden with.....not for lack of trying!!

totally sucks ass

AARRRGH

Are you sure that's not just boredom?

When I'm bored I make another website. I know that sounds very nerdy, but creating something and then seeing people use it is very satisfying (and time consuming!)

All the web design resources you need can be found via Google...

JackieO

dublindude wrote: »

Are you sure that's not just boredom?

When I'm bored I make another website. I know that sounds very nerdy, but creating something and then seeing people use it is very satisfying (and time consuming!)

All the web design resources you need can be found via Google...

I know this is totally off topic, but is it possible to teach yourself web-design over the iternet. I did a very basic course (flash - i think) in college - but that wasn't today or yesterday.

I'd love to have a go at creating a few web-sites.

AARRRGH

Yes, it's totally possible. That's how I learnt.

The best way to learn is by practicing. Just slowly build up a website.

Start with HTML, then learn CSS, then learn something like PHP.

littlefriend

OP - don't hang this on the fact that you are single - if you aren't happy with yourself you probably won't be happy with someone else either. It sounds like you are jumping between things to try to make yourself feel better. The thing is that traveling around or starting a new course or trying to get a girl or new friends or whatever isn't going to fix you. You need to reall dig yourself before everything else falls into place. I went travelling loads of times thinking that I'd get rid of that feeling but I discovered that I was still the same person no matter where I was - things/places/relationships won't make you happy unless you are comfortable in your own skin.

Ok so I'm taking it that you aren't depressed as such just a bit bewildered about life and where you are headed? Your posts sound quite defeatist and it is exactly that attitude that is going to keep you in the same head space.

Sometimes I get like that too - usually lasts a few days or it could be a few weeks. At some stage though, I hear myself being negative about something totally normal or rejecting suggestions because *sigh* poor me etc etc. When I hear it I think I sound like such a pain in the ass so I try to flip everything around in my head into a positive thing. Like right now I have a big problem with my back so I can't work so, apart from being in pain most of the time, paying my mortgage is a huge stress - there is no point in me moaning about it - that is not going to change the situation it'll just make me miserable and panicky - instead I'm trying to think that its great not to be working during the nice weather. Thats just a small example and it probably sounds like total do gooder-y crap but it beats sitting in my house thinking woe is me and all that.

Another thing that helps, (and believe me I am beyond astonished that I find this enjoyable) is exercise. The whole endorphins thing is true. As I am typing this I am looking forward to going for a run tonight. When I say run I really mean a kind of jog. I have to wait until it's dark though because I look so ludicrous trying not to collapse from being so unfit. If I wasn't going to do that tonight I'd probably be feeling a bit low now because I'd just be sitting in on my own. So that is a good one for lifting up your mood.

You say you've been rejected lots of times - do you think that this has anything to do with your negativity? A negative person is like a rain cloud whereas a happy person has a 'sunny disposition'. Rain clouds make people run for shelter, sun attracts. Wow that is the cheesiest thing I've ever said!

Anyway, I know that this reply is a bit off the wall, I just have so many things to say that I can't structure it properly. I'm babbling away typing as I think. Just for a few days try really hard to be positive, read a couple of inspiring books and enjoy your friends. Once you start giving off a good vibe the girls will arrive - just don't focus on them for the moment.

LegacyUser

You're not the only one OP. Im a 24 year old female, graduated from college last year & now a 1st yr postgrad, but something about my life just doesnt feel right & i really dont feel happy. In fact my life just seems like one big bore. I feel like im drifting from a lot of my old friends and dont get much of a chance to meet new people, which isnt helped by the fact that im not all that confident a person.
Ive been telling myself that things will get better but im beginning to think that its up to me to make them better...so if anyones got any suggestions on how to do so, please do pass em my way:)

ilikecake

I am in the same situation and I have been thinking about this very deeply for a while.

I think the problem is that I have lost touch of who I am and what I enjoy in life. I used to think - education, family, friends, job, house (the traditional stuff) is what will make me happy in life. You know, everyone else seems to be out there with fancy houses, cars, getting married and having kids. Is this happiness? Is *having* things happiness? What makes me think that having it all will make you happy? Alexander the Great, Emperor of the World, that could have anything or anyone, was he happy?


What right do I have to be happy? I cannot absolutely know that I am meant to be happy? When I think about this I become even more unhappy!

How is the dirty child running shouting in the street, without a concern in the world, a lot more happy than I am? What secret does he have that I don't? Is happiness innocence? Or perhaps happiness is just simply being? Perhaps I am already happy and I just confused and out of touch with my inner child?

AARRRGH

Some people are happy to float around, others need some kind of purpose.

I have my own personal answer to the meaning of life question (don't ask!), and it has helped me find a certain level of peace. It has also helped me live my life the way I want to live it. That means not doing the traditional career/kids/house thing. Basically not doing what everyone else does because they're too afraid to be themselves.

I think you need to figure out what's important to you, and what kind of life you'd like to be looking back on when you're old and tired. That's the life you need to start living.

Forget what other people are doing and just focus on the things you like. A good place to start would be the hobbies and dreams you had when you were a teenager.

littlefriend

dublindude wrote: »

Some people are happy to float around, others need some kind of purpose.

I think you need to figure out what's important to you, and what kind of life you'd like to be looking back on when you're old and tired. That's the life you need to start living.

Forget what other people are doing and just focus on the things you like. A good place to start would be the hobbies and dreams you had when you were a teenager.

He is right about this and his suggestion to do some work with a human rights organisation is a good one. Too much time thinking about yourself is not good [that isn't a slight on you OP - I mean unless you have dependents you can get very caught in a cycle of thinking about yourself]