Worrying too much?

LegacyUser

I think I AM worrying too much, but my head is all over the place this morning so I'm going to go ahead and write this post...I (a girl) had sex for the first time last night - well, when I say that, it wasn't 100% successful i.e. my partner was unable to enter fully, it hurt me, etc. - you get the picture. We used a condom; I'm not on the pill. After the, ahem, not-quite-sex, we just fooled around a bit...

Now I'm not upset that things didn't go 100% OK, I'm aware that this happens and that it takes time for things to go right. I've just heard so many horror stories about accidental pregnancy etc. that I can't get past that fear and just enjoy things. Was I foolish to sleep with someone without being on the pill? For the record, I'm in my early 20s.

Meathlass

Sounds pretty much like my first time! It's very common for it to hurt at first which makes you tense so the guy usually can't enter you properly. Trust me, it will get easier. Why don't you go to the doctor and see if you are suitable for the pill. Using it properly and condoms is as safe as you are ever going to get.

LegacyUser

Meathlass wrote: »

Sounds pretty much like my first time! It's very common for it to hurt at first which makes you tense so the guy usually can't enter you properly. Trust me, it will get easier. Why don't you go to the doctor and see if you are suitable for the pill. Using it properly and condoms is as safe as you are ever going to get.

Yeah I realise that the first time is always awkward...it's the safety aspect I'm hung up on. Condoms ARE safe, aren't they?! Considering that last night was not a roaring success and all

I'll look into the pill. Is it safe to carry on trying before going on it though? Or am I just completely paranoid? (apologies for all the questions!)

Beruthiel

bitworried wrote: »

Condoms ARE safe, aren't they?! !

Accidents happen. The condom could split or tear.
If I were you, I'd be on the pill and using condoms before I even thought about having sex.
That way you can actually relax and not worry about getting pregnant.

Meathlass

I'd wait until I was on both. Sounds like you're too anxious to enjoy it properly anyway otherwise. Just remember to use both properly.

GirlInterrupted

Meathlass wrote: »

I'd wait until I was on both. Sounds like you're too anxious to enjoy it properly anyway otherwise. Just remember to use both properly.

Very true, nothing like knowing you're safe to help you relax.

AARRRGH

bitworried wrote: »

I've just heard so many horror stories about accidental pregnancy etc. that I can't get past that fear and just enjoy things. Was I foolish to sleep with someone without being on the pill? For the record, I'm in my early 20s.

If you didn't really have sex, and you used a condom throughout, it's really really unlikely you are pregnant.

Even if you are pregnant (which I don't think you are!), what will worrying accomplish?

Relax, and take things a lot slower. There is no rush.

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone. I'm just a worrier by nature and I'm finding things a bit overwhelming at the moment. I've seen a doctor so that's a step in the right direction.

@ Dublindude, you're right - worrying about the consequences of last night won't achieve anything and as the chances of anything being wrong are slim to none (apologies for the graphicness but he was nowhere near inside me when he, er, finished) I'll get over it...

[WoW]

if he wore a condom and you didnt really have sex i wouldnt say your pregnant so dont worry . my advice would be to def go on the pill before you do anything else because condoms split. (a LOT IMO)