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Break up-what now?

  • 20-05-2008 10:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Recently broke up with my gf of 3 years. My entire social life is built up around this relationship and now that she's gone it's damaged so many of my friendships. Everything suddenly seems so awkward and impossibble to deal with. I'm not sure how to even begin to get over this. Has anyone had to go through something like this? How do you cope when it's so hard to rely on others?


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  • #2
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    I know what you mean.

    Do you have any friends - old friends - who were kept outside of the relationship?

    Would you consider making new friends? e.g. join a human rights organisation, you'll meet loads of people, especially women :) there.

    I know you haven't said anything about feeling hurt, but this recent thread might be helpful: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055295416


  • #3
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,500 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    Unless you think there's a chance of getting back with this girl (which in all honestly, there probably isn't) then this is the chance to break free from old chains and definitly, as dublindude, said, time to join some clubs or something. I'm about to risk life and limb joining a Muay thai club on monday and i know nobody there so you're more than welcome to come with me and make an ass out of yourself as i intend to :D

    Break ups are hard at the best of times, and when you have no friends to help take your mind off her, it can be extraordinarly difficult. I urge you to go and do something fun and distracting. My offer stands if you want it, or hell, even if ya just want to meet up for a drink, gimmie a shout....although if you're not in Dublin, it could be tricky :o

    Hope this helps

    Red


  • #4
    Heisenberg.
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  • #5
    Irishcrx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,861 ✭✭✭Irishcrx


    Hi OP,

    Has anyone gone through this?...Yes we all have and yes it's very tough but it's part of life. The problem is when you wrap your life up with someone you love for so long sometimes you cut out friends etc thinking it will never end , but sometimes it does. Call your friends tell them what happened, see if they want to go for a drink and get your social life back on track.

    The worst thing you can do is sit about moping, it'll only make you feel worst, get active, join a club, a gym and in time your wounds will heal...they always do.

    I've been in long term relationships and been friends afterwards, it can't happen right away as you both need time to get yourselfs together and move on but never say never.

    Chin up and good luck.


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