resentment

allthingsgreat

Hi. I'm posting because I'm in a new relationship of 6 months.

I decided to put this in bullet-point form as it works better I think.

-My partner complains that he is the most tired he's even been in his life since he's met me. He works 12hour shifts and I've always been very caring and didn't put pressure on him to see me when he was tired. So now:

- We see one another once-twice per week if I'm lucky, when he has a spare couple of hours we'd go for coffee maybe.

-Haven't been on a proper date in a while.

-He plays mind games, at times saying things that could lead to an argument but I don't play along.

-He also doesn't answer most of my calls. Or most of my text messages.

-I thread on egg-shells every time I try to talk to him.

I dont know what advice i'm looking for here but if anyone has thoughts on the above lines do reply.

RedXIV

Obviously i don't know the full story but from what i've read lass, this relationship is not going to work. There may be 100's of good things in this relatioship but him resenting you for making him tired, playing mind games to wind you up and ignoring your attempts at contact all point at a relationship not worth having.

You sound like a nice girl, go get yourself a fella you deserve.

MagicMarker

If i were you, i wouldn't even break up with him, just don't contact him. Because he obviously doesn't give a crap. Move on and stop wasting your own time.

Loopy

Walk away. I'd rather be single than deal with that shit..

Jet Black

I worked 12 hour shifts, I was completely wrecked. Still spend most of my time with my gf. Sounds like you have been putting up with this for too long. Work is a poor excuse not to be seeing someone and hes basicly ignoring you.

imho dump him and cut the ties.

lushballs

You are not being valued in this relationship and deserve so much better. Sounds like you are doing all the work in this relationship and he is not allowing you to do much!
If you are having difficulty cutting the ties back off and see what he does. Let him initiate contact. My hunch is he will drift away. Let him go.

sharkie2008

looptheloop wrote: »

Walk away. I'd rather be single than deal with that shit..

+1 he sounds more bother than he's worth, move on and find someone who'll appreciate you

raemie21

He's not that into you.

The Mighty Ken

If he was a car, I'd crash him. If he was a book, I'd burn him.

Colonel_McCoy

He is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. If he is ignoring your calls and texts bin him!!


My grandmother once send to me "Put a high price on your head, not a for sale sign"


Walk away a relationship should make you happy

davyjose

Colonel_McCoy wrote: »

He is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. If he is ignoring your calls and texts bin him!!


My grandmother once send to me "Put a high price on your head, not a for sale sign"


Walk away a relationship should make you happy

Good advice. There is no excuse for ignoring you. It doesn't really say true love IMO.

Overheal

You dont sound where you ought to be in his list of priorities anyway. Besides if its at the point of egg-shells that says something. I would actually look into breaking it off if thats how its going to be.