Help asking girl out

LegacyUser

Hey,im in my 20s and work with this girl,get on well with her and we flirt away a good bit at work,i get the feeling shes into me somewhat and i do like her but my problem is i cant just ask her out,out of the blue.
1.Fear of being rejected-obviously
2.I've never asked a girl out before
Was gonna try and ask her out to the cinema today or something but just never got the chance.I was gonna try and just slip it into converstion to see wha she said and follow it up if it was looking good but again-didnt get the chance.
Any advice appreciated

J

RedXIV

Ok, here's a tip, fear of rejection happens if you make it sound like your planning a date so don't. be casual and above all be confident. act as though if she doesn't accept you have a million other options.

Now asking her out should be something easy. for the cinema, say something like "hear anything about (for talks sake) iron man?"

her "no.....not really" or "yeah i heard its crap" or "yeah i heard it's amazing"

you "Man, i'd love to see it, wanna come?"

her "sure" (done!) or "what like a date?" (you say "only a date if you wear a dress") or "ugh, iron man sucks" (you say, "right you pick a movie for us to see then")

Keep it smart, keep it simple and keep CONFIDENT!

best of luck OP

cunnins4

Just do it! You seem to be a nice enough chap. If she has been flirting, she won't say no. And if she does, who gives a crap?! Seriously!

What have you got to lose? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! But you've a lot to gain!;)

edit: and what he ^^ said!:p

GrumPy

RedXIV wrote: »

Ok, here's a tip, fear of rejection happens if you make it sound like your planning a date so don't. be casual and above all be confident. act as though if she doesn't accept you have a million other options.

Now asking her out should be something easy. for the cinema, say something like "hear anything about (for talks sake) iron man?"

her "no.....not really" or "yeah i heard its crap" or "yeah i heard it's amazing"

you "Man, i'd love to see it, wanna come?"

her "sure" (done!) or "what like a date?" (you say "only a date if you wear a dress") or "ugh, iron man sucks" (you say, "right you pick a movie for us to see then")

Keep it smart, keep it simple and keep CONFIDENT!

best of luck OP

Simple, yet outrageously useful advice.

(Date meh)

LegacyUser

I know it should be so simple and i know i have nothing to lose but just getting the courage up is what has to be done.

Posting on PI here before has helped me to do something i thought i could never do before in my own personal stuff so i said i would throw it up hewre just to see what people would say.Just had to talk to some people about it first,get it straight in my head.Ill see how it goes next time i work with her.

Thanks guys

entropi

OP, I found myself in that very same situation only around a month ago, yet i just went and asked the girl out, yes it was the first time i had asked a girl out, yes i did think "what about rejection?" in the end it didn't matter.

I asked her to see a movie, provided she choose the movie and i pay the costs. It was a nice night and i look forward to doing something fun with her again soon.

Just take the plunge, it's the only way and once the first time is out of your system, you will think to yourself " what was so hard about that?"

Irishcrx

RedXIV wrote: »

Ok, here's a tip, fear of rejection happens if you make it sound like your planning a date so don't. be casual and above all be confident. act as though if she doesn't accept you have a million other options.

Now asking her out should be something easy. for the cinema, say something like "hear anything about (for talks sake) iron man?"

her "no.....not really" or "yeah i heard its crap" or "yeah i heard it's amazing"

you "Man, i'd love to see it, wanna come?"

her "sure" (done!) or "what like a date?" (you say "only a date if you wear a dress") or "ugh, iron man sucks" (you say, "right you pick a movie for us to see then")

Keep it smart, keep it simple and keep CONFIDENT!

best of luck OP

This is good advice, follow it. You want to come accross as if you can take it or leave it, trust me most ladies love a guy who can take it or leave it. Try to pick your moment but don't put it off too long just during a conversation/ having a laugh just mention it and take it from there and remember if it's a no there's plenty more out there who would be more than happy. Good luck.

hatchy

just follow what the lads said ya cant do much damage if you;re confident,even if u aint just act like u are its the best policy!]

chuci

just ask her to anything a drink the cinema just keep it nice and casual. when i asked my boyfriend out it was to a gig so at least if we didnt get on we could enjoy the music:p if she has been flirting with you then i doubt if she will turn you down.

MIN2511

Ok, am confessing here... I was in a similar position last week and i sent the guy an email("Hey there, meaning to ask you but do you fancy a cup of coffee someday/time") and he politely replied me(not saying yes and not saying no) but later at drinks he told me he has a gf:mad:

It was my first time asking a guy out and i was nearly p*****on myself but i did it and now i know...

There is no time for should i, would i, could i; take the leap and all the best!

RedXIV

MIN2511 wrote: »

Ok, am confessing here... I was in a similar position last week and i sent the guy an email("Hey there, meaning to ask you but do you fancy a cup of coffee someday/time") and he politely replied me(not saying yes and not saying no) but later at drinks he told me he has a gf:mad:

It was my first time asking a guy out and i was nearly p*****on myself but i did it and now i know...

There is no time for should i, would i, could i; take the leap and all the best!

Fair play! at least ya initiated contact!

P.s wanna go for coffee someday?

RealistSpy

Ok....lets see for the guy.
Go to the girl tell her you have a spare ticket for the cinema ask her if she wants to come? If she says no that she is busy they say "ok, sure. Shame though I have being dieing to take you out for a while." Smile then just walk off. works 80% of time she should call you back.

MIN2511

REDXIV--- Yeah sure.... why not




NB:Sprained my ankle on Sunday so in crutches atm

RedXIV

RealistSpy wrote: »

Ok....lets see for the guy.
Go to the girl tell her you have a spare ticket for the cinema ask her if she wants to come? If she says no that she is busy they say "ok, sure. Shame though I have being dieing to take you out for a while." Smile then just walk off. works 80% of time she should call you back.

..............thats actually gold material there. OP! take notes!

MIN2511 wrote: »

REDXIV--- Yeah sure.... why not




NB:Sprained my ankle on Sunday so in crutches atm

Means ya can't pull a runner when i show up so

MIN2511

RedXIV wrote: »

..............thats actually gold material there. OP! take notes!



Means ya can't pull a runner when i show up so

Very true

Irishcrx

Red getting stuck in there, leading by example...good boy...

RedXIV

Just showing how easy it is

MIN2511

RedXIV wrote: »

Just showing how easy it is

Really... is it that easy

RedXIV

you haven't said no have you?

and before i get shot down by feminists everywhere, i said it was easy to ASK A GIRL OUT! I at no stage said any girl was easy, this is vitally important to understanding the situation.

and my safety as a man

Irishcrx

Them girls with the hurleys are the ones to watch, they can do alot of damage..