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what will I say?

  • 18-05-2008 7:12pm
    #1
    Rockstar*
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    I am just wondering does anyone have some advice as to what I can say to girlfriend--we have had another fight which seems to be reocurring (its over her moodiness to be honest)

    My thoughts are running wild at the moment as I feel bad that I have hurt her by having a bit of a go at her during one of these but these moods are absolutely doing my head in....we've been togather 3 years and both of us are 25...Im afraid if I mention "taking a break" she may get the wrong idea and I would prefer none to find out such as her family/friends which I think they will if we were having this break.

    Problem is I really do not know what I want - these silly annoying arguments are happening too often despite promises to stop...I find it hard thinking of life without her but the fights are not worth it

    Thanks guys


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  • #2
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Could you try writing her a letter telling her how much you love her and how the little fights are upsetting you? Letters are very non-confrontational...


  • #3
    Rockstar*
    Closed Accounts Posts: 82 ✭✭Rockstar*


    A letter is a nice idea but there is nothing to put in this letter that has not already been said between us...on another point is a few weeks reasonable or unfair to ask for a break?


  • #4
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Well the reason I suggest a letter is because seeing things written down, without the distraction of the other person shouting at you, can be a lot more successful at getting a message across.

    Asking for a break is a bad idea IMO. The other person nearly always assumes it's a break up.


  • #5
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    I'm with dublindude, a break is practically code for break up. if thats what you want, grand but if you want this relationship to last then you're gonna have to get used to the idea of pulling through problems.

    The letter idea is good, or if you can reckon you can do it, have a CIVIL conversation and explain that you think your relationship is in trouble due to all these fights. Tell her that you love being with her but unless the fights stop, you can't see it happening.


  • #6
    yermandan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,068 ✭✭✭yermandan


    Hi OP,

    I agree totally with the other guys as in the 'suggest a break' idea will definately back-fire, unless you are sure that you actually want to break-up, in which case be very sure of your reasons and explain them clearly.

    You say that they are recurring arguments?? Would you care to share why they seem to be the same??(other than her moodiness)

    Perhaps some insight into the reasons for the arguments may give us a better insight into what advice to give

    Dan:cool:


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