I can not stand my friend!!!!!

irishboyuk

Ive been at uni in england for 3 years and I met a great bunch of friends in 1st year. However one of the Guys i met I now cannot stand. Initally we got along great as we are both gay. but i soon learned that in fact we are two completly different people with only one thing in common. Hes basically everything im not, materialistic, self obsessed, a very much in your face gay and proud of it. We share no interests at all, he likes kylie and girls aloud while i like U2 and Oasis!! the list goes on. Im not knocking him for his tastes or ways... it just not my thing!!
We have been sharing a house with another friend for the past two years and as time goes on im finding it more and more difficult to live with him... everything about him annoys me!!
the real problem is that I think he really likes me and doesnt know how i feel. I find myself hiding in my room some evenings just to avoid conversations with him. If i just look at him i get annoyed! its so difficult as he has never actually done anything against me or nasty for me too dislike him so mcuh. So i feel i have no grounds to feel this way. i just feel like we are two opposites that were thrown together back in 1st year. He bores me no end with his constant moaning and mindless chat i feel like screaming at him will you shut the fu*ck up!!! and if i did it wud be totally out of character for me! i just dont know what to do. do i carry on like we are best of friends all the while im thinking "i cant stand you, get out f my face" surely thats not far. but then telling him i hate him and how i dont value our friendship is very hurtfull thing to do... should i be honest ????or be fake and smile like i mean it??????

AARRRGH

I moved in with a friend of mine. I discovered he's a total scumbag. I moved out. It affected our friendship. But you know what? He's a scumbag so I don't give a ****.

1. Move out.
2. Stop being his friend.

There will be some short term discomfort, but long term you will benefit.

Good luck.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Just get out, lot of stress you're going through that *will* eventually come out.

Lifes too short, get out. is your lease full year or college year? Why not go home for the summer & use that as your excuse. Then find a new place when you go back in september

Though you could just move out, you're not an item & someone else is living there. Free human being and all that.

StandnDeliver

you get older and wiser,and different tastes etc take us on different paths so dont feel bad about it.I find counting in my head and deep breaths help situations like your explaining.No harm in moving out,maybe just fob this mate off until you choose to move out.

ballybay_eh

You don't seem to want to hurt this guys feelings so the handiest thing would probably be to just move out. Say you need your own space or some other meaningless cliche. And then drift apart. People do it all the time. Just loase touch. You've no doubt managed it before with various friends and enemies. Its natural. Just apply the same technique now. It might take a while but its an easy option. Plus when you're not living with him you won't find him anywhere near as bad to be around. Probably.

Good luck with it.

Gemini Sister

Have a heart. You could really hurt him. Or you could just graciously back away.
Try not to hurt him. He's obviously clinging to a 'gayer' identity than yours cause thats all he knows how to do? Yeah, graciously back away darlink. Tis better Karma

Gemini Sister

ballybay_eh wrote: »

You don't seem to want to hurt this guys feelings so the handiest thing would probably be to just move out. Say you need your own space or some other meaningless cliche. And then drift apart. People do it all the time. Just loase touch. You've no doubt managed it before with various friends and enemies. Its natural. Just apply the same technique now. It might take a while but its an easy option. Plus when you're not living with him you won't find him anywhere near as bad to be around. Probably.

Good luck with it.

Good call. Even if you outgrow you mates they're still your mates. Give the people you've met on the way up some respect.

wylo

I would imagine you will genuinely get to like him again if you move out, its your only option if you ask me

jane86

You grow up a lot during college and sometimes you grow out of friendships. You really have to stop hanging around with him if he is causing you so much annoyance.

As you said he was not nasty to you so you should not be mean about it. I think you should move out and maybe stop socialising with him slowly so you dont just suddenly cut him out.

chuci

just move out, if you dont this stress will cause you to explode and hurt him way more that just moving out now and just distancing yourself from him. plus if you move out you wont see him so often so he probably wont be that annoying in college.