School Girl

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

My boyfriend gave me a lift into work this morning and as we were driving along a young girl of about 16
walked past in a school uniform. She was wearing white knee high socks and a shortish grey skirt. My
bf was in the middle of saying something when he did a double take and stared at this child (essentially)
with his tongue hanging out. Now I know that all men love the school uniform thing (Britney Spears - hit me!)
but this really bothered me. I didn't say anything but it's been on my mind all day.
Firstly, he's leering at a girl while he's sitting beside me. Regardless of age, that's disrespectful.
Secondly, she was so young, maybe 15 or 16 and he's 30 years of age.

I am actually kinda sickened by him right now and don't feel like seeing him tonight. Dramatic - maybe, the
way I feel - absolutley.

This is pervy, do u guys agree I have something to be bothered by?

KTRIC

To be honest at 16 most girls are for want of a better word "fully formed", he's a red blooded male of course hes going to look.

Nothing strange about looking.

Maggie Simpson

Schoolfool wrote: »

This is pervy, do u guys agree I have something to be bothered by?

I'd be bothered but on this basis - there is a world of difference between a 16 year-old in her school uniform & a grown woman dressed up as a schoolgirl in a school uniform.

If it was my bf, I'd think he was being a bit of an old perv......

Overheal

i dont think so. at 30 hes hardly going to start picking up 16 year old school girls.

might be worth it to pick up a uniform though

Dudess

Seems perfectly normal to me. It's not like she's a pre-pubescent kid. She's a very young woman now.

The Mighty Ken

Schoolfool wrote: »

I am actually kinda sickened by him right now and don't feel like seeing him tonight. Dramatic - maybe, the
way I feel - absolutley.

This is pervy, do u guys agree I have something to be bothered by?

What are you? The thought police? Do the guy a favour and dump him. You sound like a complete nightmare to be honest.

This is either a troll or you're too immature to be in a relationship IMO.

arse..biscuits

Thats completels natural, if you see a a girl in a skirt in the corner of your eye as you pass by, your head automatically turns.

Overheal

How long have you both been in a relationship may i ask

KatCookie

You have to ALWAYS make a comment..
Saying that she looks liek a slut kinda sounds like your jealous
but you should say something like " She's had a sex change" just to gauge his reaction.. maybe he'll stop?

Davei141

KatCookie wrote: »

You have to ALWAYS make a comment..
Saying that she looks liek a slut kinda sounds like your jealous
but you should say something like " She's had a sex change" just to gauge his reaction.. maybe he'll stop?

WTF? this thread is bizzarre, man looks at a 16 year old school girl...somebody call the police.

kowloon

Not much difference between 16 and 18 as regards maturity. Attraction and law are two very different things.
That's why ID is so important.

Dudess

KatCookie wrote: »

You have to ALWAYS make a comment..
Saying that she looks liek a slut kinda sounds like your jealous
but you should say something like " She's had a sex change" just to gauge his reaction.. maybe he'll stop?

That's ridiculous. Making ANY comment would come across as jealous.

cowzerp

Very normal,unless you had a daughter the same age, then it would be a bit weird, maybe.
or else im a big perve as i would have looked too!! she's a young sexual woman-in most mens favourite fantasy clothes, would you prefer if he looked sideways and pretended she was not there? i look but am very happy with my missus, simple, if they look good they look good. she sounds like she looked good!

KatCookie

kowloon wrote: »

Not much difference between 16 and 18 as regards maturity. Attraction and law are two very different things.
That's why ID is so important.

Yeah.. but shes's not going to wear a big sign that says UNDERAGE, DO NOT STARE!!
he wouldnt have looked if she wasnt good looking,
the Girlfriend wouldnt be bothered if the 16 year old wasnt good looking,
and the 16 year old only dresses like that to get attention from older men!

That is typical behaviour from the Boyfriend AND the girlfriend.. their reactions are understandable ... maybe not so typical behaviour of the 16 year old.. ah but sure.. theres always one =/ ..

my point.. as long as he doesnt try it on with any 16 year olds or anybody other than you.. dont worry about it. tell him gently that you didnt like him looking at her, dont make a big deal out of it as it will only make thing worse!

get over it or buy your own schoolgirl outfit tbh

simonrooneyzaga

KatCookie wrote: »

You have to ALWAYS make a comment..
Saying that she looks liek a slut kinda sounds like your jealous
but you should say something like " She's had a sex change" just to gauge his reaction.. maybe he'll stop?

dont do that

[Jackass]

I don't think that women understand that if it has blond hair bopping up and down, is in a short skirt and isn't fat we will look and leer. It's just the way our simple little minds work. And you should be more worried if your boyfriend doesn't do it infront of you...what's he trying to hide, eh? :cool:

IanCurtis

If she looked like a pre-pubescent, then be worried.

If she looked like a shapely young one, no problem.

The schoolgirl thing does loads for me, brings me back to the days when I would have loved that.

As Blur once sang "the mind gets dirty as you get closer to 30"

Maggie Simpson

[Jackass] wrote: »

I don't think that women understand that if it has blond hair bopping up and down, is in a short skirt and isn't fat we will look and leer. It's just the way our simple little minds work. And you should be more worried if your boyfriend doesn't do it infront of you...what's he trying to hide, eh? :cool:

it? You're some charmer.

zuroph

get a school uniform like hers and dress up for him. but post pictures first here so we can gauge if you've got the look right..


it doesnt mean he's a paedo, get over it!

KrazeeEyezKilla

It's completely normal to look. Only yesterday I nearly crashed the car because I was paying too much attention to a woman in a short skirt walking down the street.

The Sweeper

If she was six, I'd be worried.

As it stands, if she's teenaged and in a schoolgirl uniform, leave him to it. Though next time if it's bothering you try coming out with 'Stop dribbling dear, that's unsightly'.

Doctor DooM

Your boyfriend is human.

I've felt attracted to 16 year olds, then realised they were way too young and felt old. It happens. Don't worry about it.

Double standards TBH. I bet you'd have no problem looking at a 16 year old school kid if you thought he was good looking.

And being disrespectful? You're telling us that you've never looked at another man whilst in his company?

Can you say .. uh .. hypocrite?

Call Me Jimmy

OP do ye have an unused basement? If so ye need to trick yer boyfriend into going down there and lock him in. Over the years ye should fit the place with sanitation facilities, sleeping facilities and maybe a kitchen. Whatever you do, don't let him out.

MissHoneyBun

Im gonna be none too popular for this but what a pack of neanderthals.
If a short skirt is all it takes to grab the attention of you lot then what does that say about ye?
I agree that the OP is overreacting big time but for the love of God lads would ye ever quit that "we're simple creatures" sh1te. Ye're well able to be authorities on all and sundry on here so I'm not buying that crap for a minute :rolleyes:

Oh god. There's always one.

I hate all of this double standards crap. Women are as bad as men.

zuroph

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

Im gonna be none too popular for this but what a pack of neanderthals.
If a short skirt is all it takes to grab the attention of you lot then what does that say about ye?
I agree that the OP is overreacting big time but for the love of God lads would ye ever quit that "we're simple creatures" sh1te. Ye're well able to be authorities on all and sundry on here so I'm not buying that crap for a minute :rolleyes:

about the same thing it says about the girl who chooses to wear one to get attention (obviously doesnt apply in this case).

Sqaull20

16 lol

Alot of girls are at they're peak in terms of looks at 16/17..

MissHoneyBun

Deleted User wrote: »

Oh god. There's always one.

I hate all of this double standards crap. Women are as bad as men.

Look BoneyArse Im speaking for myself here not "mna na hEireann" so quit generalising. I, personally NEVER ogle at or drool over other men -I've more respect for my boyfriend than that. Annnnnnnnd, call me naive but he says he wouldnt be interested in gawking at anything in a skirt either and I have never, ever caught him doing so! So, no, it's not "something all men do" at all -thats just a cop out for the rest of ye that do

MissHoneyBun

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

Look BoneyArse Im speaking for myself here not "mna na hEireann" so quit generalising. I, personally NEVER ogle at or drool over other men -I've more respect for my boyfriend than that. Annnnnnnnd, call me naive but he says he wouldnt be interested in gawking at anything in a skirt either and I have never, ever caught him doing so! So, no, it's not "something all men do" at all -thats just a cop out for the rest of ye that do

Ha ha ha ha

Sorry.

Ha ha ha ha

Wait.

Ha ha ha ha

you're not generalising?

Ha ha ha ha

I'm sorry, but isn't that what you are doing about men. Once again, double standards. Also, if you have anything further to add please send me a pm, as we can deal with it there.

MagicMarker

Erm, seems like you're the one who needs to cop on and maybe get out of the pretty little bubble you're in.

Your boyfriend looks, plain and simple, he probably watches porn too!! shock horror!!! He just makes sure you don't see him looking.

Tar.Aldarion

Pervy??? hahaha.
He is a man...
This is normal.


She must have been savage mmmmMmmmm

MissHoneyBun

{quote=boneyarsebogman}Ha ha ha ha

Sorry.

Ha ha ha ha

Wait.

Ha ha ha ha

you're not generalising?

Ha ha ha ha

I'm sorry, but isn't that what you are doing about men. Once again, double standards. Also, if you have anything further to add please send me a pm, as we can deal with it there. {/unquote}

Gawwd ya make it so easy......

If you happen to READ THE THREAD BoneyArse you might understand that I have been referring specifically to the number of men who expressed those sentiments themselves. So maybe instead of trying to unsuccessfully tear my post apart, you might want to contribute to something a little more productive.

And no, I wont be PMing you either.

Tar.Aldarion

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Pervy??? hahaha.
He is a man...
This is normal.


She must have been savage mmmmMmmmm

I agree.

Pix or it didn't happen.

Gawwd ya make it so easy......

If you happen to READ THE THREAD BoneyArse you might understand that I have been referring specifically to the number of men who expressed those sentiments themselves. So maybe instead of trying to unsuccessfully tear my post apart, you might want to contribute to something a little more productive.

And no, I wont be PMing you either.

And if you read my posts, you would realise that I am referring to the OP, not to other women as you so wrongly tried to point out by tearing my post apart, as you put it.

See, it's fun to be condescending, is it not?

Doctor DooM

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

Look BoneyArse Im speaking for myself here not "mna na hEireann" so quit generalising. I, personally NEVER ogle at or drool over other men -I've more respect for my boyfriend than that. Annnnnnnnd, call me naive but he says he wouldnt be interested in gawking at anything in a skirt either and I have never, ever caught him doing so! So, no, it's not "something all men do" at all -thats just a cop out for the rest of ye that do

He does. He is just good enough that you don't see. Men are very easily visually stimulated. It is in their nature.

It's nothing to do with neanderthal nature and TBH if you think it doesnt happen for the vast majority of people- male or female- you are living in a very rose tinted world.

There is no male celebrity you drool over then, no?

MissHoneyBun

Deleted User wrote: »

Women are as bad as men.

So this isnt you referring to other women, no?
Secondly, can you find where exactly I said you were referring to other women and not the OP?

MissHoneyBun

SDooM wrote: »

He does. He is just good enough that you don't see. Men are very easily visually stimulated. It is in their nature.

It's nothing to do with neanderthal nature and TBH if you think it doesnt happen for the vast majority of people- male or female- you are living in a very rose tinted world.

There is no male celebrity you drool over then, no?

No there honestly is not any "celebrity" I drool over.
And I never once said that I didnt believe the majority of people do it.
I simply said that I was speaking for myself and wished to clarify that no, not "all people" stare at women in skirts. And you can speculate all you want over my boyfriends take on this but he just isnt that kind of guy.

Doctor DooM

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

No there honestly is not any "celebrity" I drool over.
And I never once said that I didnt believe the majority of people do it.
I simply said that I was speaking for myself and wished to clarify that no, not "all people" stare at women in skirts. And you can speculate all you want over my boyfriends take on this but he just isnt that kind of guy.

To paraphrase Shakespeare, be careful if you place people on pedistals because the only way for them to go is to fall. It is a matter of biology in males that they look at women. Now your BF might be a gentleman and doesnt do so in front of you, but truly you are fooling yourself (and misleading the distraught OP) if you are trying to say this is the normal state of affairs.

BTW, I seem to recall my first GF saying she drooled over no males, and I never admitted looking at girls to her.

MissHoneyBun

SDooM wrote: »

To paraphrase Shakespeare, be careful if you place people on pedistals because the only way for them to go is to fall. It is a matter of biology in males that they look at women. Now your BF might be a gentleman and doesnt do so in front of you, but truly you are fooling yourself

SDooM, if that's your opinion then so be it but I find it a little strange that you can tell me something so definite as "you are truly fooling yourself". You know nothing about me or my boyfriend or indeed, our relationship. So for you to make personal comments based on sweeping generalisations is a tad redundant. Why do some of you guys on here have such a hard time accepting the fact that maybe this is something not all men do? Seriously guys, believe it because I can name more than a few. And if ye want to delude yourselves that I'm fooling myself so be it.

IanCurtis

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

And you can speculate all you want over my boyfriends take on this but he just isnt that kind of guy.

Get me a revolver with two bullets...quick.

Tar.Aldarion

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

SDooM, if that's your opinion then so be it but I find it a little strange that you can tell me something so definite as "you are truly fooling yourself". You know nothing about me or my boyfriend or indeed, our relationship. So for you to make personal comments based on sweeping generalisations is a tad redundant. Why do some of you guys on here have such a hard time accepting the fact that maybe this is something not all men do? Seriously guys, believe it because I can name more than a few. And if ye want to delude yourselves that I'm fooling myself so be it.

Yeah, they don't watch porn or jerk off too.

Doctor DooM

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

SDooM, if that's your opinion then so be it but I find it a little strange that you can tell me something so definite as "you are truly fooling yourself". You know nothing about me or my boyfriend or indeed, our relationship. So for you to make personal comments based on sweeping generalisations is a tad redundant.

You were the one who called men neanderthals (generalising?)for looking at women: you used your bf as an example. I am merely pointing out one is unfair and the other unlikely. Im trying to point out it simply has nothing to do with the calibre of man or your relationship- men look, its a biological instinct-but admittedly I might have gone too far. My apologies. Its getting OT and I will leave it there.

wandatowell

jesus this generalizing is serious business

I think it's fair to say that this thread should be locked now before it turns into an argument. The initial question has gotten a response from different sides.

Wibbs

This is heading too far into AH waters for my liking. The OP has enough of an answer by this stage. Any issues with that OP PM me.