meeting with someone from dating website?

andreac

Has anyone ever done this before? ive been in contact with someone from an online dating site and we have really hit it off. We hope to meet for lunch somewhere next week during the day in a public place. just wondering has anyone had any experience of doing this and if so what was it like?
thanks

aye

people's experiences of this will differ from person to person.
it more depends on the person you are meeting and how you too get on.
it will the same as any date, even if you met them in the pub the week before you wouldnt know much about them, so just go and enjoy yourself.
nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Maggie Simpson

andreac wrote: »

just wondering has anyone had any experience of doing this and if so what was it like?
thanks

I met my bf online last August. Our first date was great - he was really nervous but I was okay. We'd emailed eachother 3 times I think & texted a few times to arrange the meeting - I suppose it was about 10 days between the first email & the meeting - he didn't hang around! It was great - we went for coffee in the evening & then a drink & met on a Sunday night so no pressure to stay out late

Our second date was 2 days later and we've been together since & very very happy.

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Do tell someone where you are going & that you are meeting someone though - even though you may not want anyone to know, it's far better for someone to know. Just in case!

Meathlass

Go for it. I met my bf online, we emailed for about 2 weeks and texted for around a week prior to meeting up for a drink mid week. That was last Sept and still going strong. Like others have said it's the same as meeting someone you met in town the weekend before. You actually probably know more about him at this stage. If you've only been chatting to someone a day or so and they want to meet be wary but I think a few weeks of emailing and texting then meeting is the way to go.

tbh

You can get on with someone great over email / text, but not so much in real life. This is because you have ages to write and re-write messages so they seem perfect, but you don't get to do that in real life. Just bear that in mind. Also, I've met some really lovely girls for "blind" dates, got on fantastically well, but just didn't feel a spark. I think it's better to be honest if you feel like that. Other than that, just make sure your friends know where you're going and enjoy yourself.

chuckles30

It really depends on the two of you. It can be great, alright or awful. Just relax and be yourself. Lunch is a good idea, as at least you know that it won't go on forever if it's not working out. If you get on, then you can arrange another date and take it from there.

As maggie said, just make sure someone knows where you're going and who you're meeting. Anytime I've done it, someone knows where I am. If things are going well and I'm staying longer than I planned, I just nip to the ladies and send a text so that there's no panic.

kelle

My husband's cousin is happily married to a girl he met on an internet chatroom, since 2002!
Just follow the usual safety rules for first-time dating and you'll be fine, and you never know what may happen!

Izzyone

Go for it, I met my now husband of two years on an online dating site. You are right to go to a public place, also I think is important to let the person that you are going on a date with that if either of you are not enjoying yourselves you should finish the date. Nothing worse than sitting there waiting for it to be over... This didn't happen to me, we spoke for sometime before we met up and I fell madly in love and now we have two kids a house and a marriage under our belt.....

Judes

Met my bf almost 4 years ago through a site. 3 weeks of emailing/texting/long phone calls - the first date was great, I knew we were going to be friends no matter what happened on that date, I think you just get a feel for somebody through their style of writing. And he truly is my best friend - and a lot more. And if he reads this he's either going to a) cringe loudly or b) laugh loudly. I've pushed several other friends onto sites and I'm going to a wedding in December, due to my "meddling/encouragement".

Everybody is so busy these days, it's very difficult to meet somebody you have lots in common with. I never liked hanging out in bars as that's a false environment, i.e. a few drinks and you're either over-relaxed or full of bravado. Going out with friends - you're surrounded - so it's difficult for people to enter the circle of friends. Go to theatre/cinema/clubs/gigs - all non-talking environments.

One of my friends in London who originally encouraged me to go on line had a great way of viewing it as follows:- "if you're going to a function and have the dress and need a really nice pair of shoes to go with it, then you go in and out of shoe shops - but if you can't find the right shoes, then you go on line to buy..................." (Not that I'm comparing my bf with a pair of shoes - but you get the picture - trying to find something you like!!!

So I for one say to everyone GO FOR IT!!! And best of luck. Fingers crossed for you.

Delphi91

Judes wrote: »

...And if he reads this he's either going to a) cringe loudly or b) laugh loudly.

I did both!!!

...(Not that I'm comparing my bf with a pair of shoes...

Gee, thanks!...;)

MonkeyTennis

went one last week. It was really nice. Had emailed and chatted a good few times first. Felt like I knew them a little bit by the time we actually met. Must admit was glad we had a couple of glasses of wine to calm the nerves!!