Bit of a problem here!

LegacyUser

Ok im a 25 yo guy, quite good looking and a bit of laugh.

Im just out of a 7 year relationship with my gf, so basically I havent a clue on the whole chatting up girls front. Now I have absoutly no problem approaching a girl and talking away and having a laugh with her, but I just cant ever close it ie get a kiss/number etc - i just become to embarressed or something.

My mates have now started to make an issue of it, they cant believe that every night we go out I would chat away to loads of single birds and have a great laugh with thme but would never end up scoring them or anything. In fact since my break up in November i havent kissed a single girl!!!

Ridicoulous and its starting to get me.

Anyone any tips or advice? i need to get over this blockage I have

corcaigh07

itll happen. you're doing the hardest part with aplomb by the sounds of things so relax and forget about treating women as an object of desire. if its really such an issue, you could just get pissed and score on the dancefloor of a club with "easygoing" women. you wont know what your doing except getting rid of that dam blockage! EG Copperface Jacks in Dublin

AARRRGH

You sound exactly like the sales person who does everything right but then gets nervous when it's time for the client to sign the contract.

According to the sales books, the sales person should hand the customer the contract and a pen, and then stand there silently until the contract is signed.

I think you need a similar tactic.

When it comes to sealing the deal, make a conscious effort to say, "Do you want to give me your phone number?", smile, and wait for her reply.

Pub07

Thegerminator wrote: »

Ok im a 25 yo guy, quite good looking and a bit of laugh.

Im just out of a 7 year relationship with my gf, so basically I havent a clue on the whole chatting up girls front. Now I have absoutly no problem approaching a girl and talking away and having a laugh with her, but I just cant ever close it ie get a kiss/number etc - i just become to embarressed or something.

Just say "Shure [insert name here] I might get your number off ya and give you a shout sometime" when either of you is leaving, it is as simple as that.

corcaigh07

or even just say"sssooooo...." deep eye contact and smile. if your as good at talking to girls as you say, they will lunge in!

niavie

First off, ignore your mates! Keep doing what your doing. It sounds like you have it covered all you need is a bit of patience and it will happen when your ready. 7 years is a long time and I think that sometimes it takes a while to get over the emotional stress of a break up and letting that person go. Subconsciously that can sometimes hold you back, so just hang in there.

BraziliaNZ

You are what Ruud Van Nistelrooy is to Thierry Henry. Thierry will spend all night chatting up the girl, buying her drinks, maybe dancing with her, but at the end of the night Ruud will come along, throw her in a taxi and take her home.
Just go for it, all they can say is no.

Overheal

Thegerminator wrote: »

Ok im a 25 yo guy, quite good looking and a bit of laugh.

Im just out of a 7 year relationship with my gf, so basically I havent a clue on the whole chatting up girls front. Now I have absoutly no problem approaching a girl and talking away and having a laugh with her, but I just cant ever close it ie get a kiss/number etc - i just become to embarressed or something.

My mates have now started to make an issue of it, they cant believe that every night we go out I would chat away to loads of single birds and have a great laugh with thme but would never end up scoring them or anything. In fact since my break up in November i havent kissed a single girl!!!

Ridicoulous and its starting to get me.

Anyone any tips or advice? i need to get over this blockage I have

Look deep down for a moment..

Are you over your past relationship yet?

MagicMarker

here's a crazy idea....wait for it........ ask them for their number?

LegacyUser

Well i solved my own problem last night - my soloution - just make the girl want you so bad that she does all the work, haha!!

I think a big problem i have is my height, im 6'4 so tower above most girls. So if i keep at their face level its all a lot easier