Should i be concerned

LegacyUser

Hello

I recently had protected sex with a girl i did not know, one night stand thing we were both drunk.

Anyway when we were going for it i felt a largeish fleshy lump on her vagina with my fingers that is not normal (it was not her clit). I said it to her and she said se had it since birth and it was not a problem. I never saw it properly but it did not seem to cause her any pain or anything.

Im just a little worried ive never seen or heard of anything like that before? Are my worries justified or was i very insensitive saying it to her? Is this thing more common than i think?

Thank you

Carrigart Exile

doodlemeister45 wrote: »

Hello

I recently had protected sex with a girl i did not know, one night stand thing we were both drunk.

Anyway when we were going for it i felt a largeish fleshy lump on her vagina with my fingers that is not normal (it was not her clit). I said it to her and she said se had it since birth and it was not a problem. I never saw it properly but it did not seem to cause her any pain or anything.

Im just a little worried ive never seen or heard of anything like that before? Are my worries justified or was i very insensitive saying it to her? Is this thing more common than i think?

Thank you

yep. it sounds like a wee cyst under the skin, quite common.

gogglebok

doodlemeister45 wrote: »

Are my worries justified or was i very insensitive saying it to her?

As long as you you didn't jump back, clutch your face in horror and shout "It's ALIVE!"

It wasn't news to the girl, and probably just a harmless fatty deposit. (Although you should come up with a more romantic name for it than that if the relationship progresses.)

spurious

Women come in all sorts of shapes and sizes down there. If she knew about it and was not concerned, then it's nothing for you to worry about.

Abi

doodlemeister45 wrote: »

I recently had protected sex with a girl i did not know, one night stand thing we were both drunk.

I dont have to tell you that this wasnt a great plan..


Now, it could be as she said - it was there from the get go. But you could also consider it could have been a genital wart.

Q: What are genital warts?

A: Genital warts are flesh-coloured growths that appear on the external genital area or near the anus of both men and women. Although less common, they can also appear inside the vagina and on the cervix. Removal of the lesions can be difficult and painful and they often recur. Genital warts can also cause people to feel uncomfortable in new or existing relationships.
In 2004 there were approximately 4,174 cases of genital warts in Ireland

aoife000

Abigayle wrote: »

I dont have to tell you that this wasnt a great plan..


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why not?

Chinafoot

Abigayle wrote: »

Now, it could be as she said - it was there from the get go. But you could also consider it could have been a genital wart.

A "largeish fleshy lump" would most likely not be a genital wart. Gential warts are usually quite small and, like warts on your hand, they wouldn't feel "fleshy".

OP, as already mentioned, every woman will be different in that area.

AARRRGH

If you don't know if someone has an STI, having protected sex with them still exposes you to Herpes, Genital Warts and Syphilis.

This is a fact of life and whether or not you felt a lump won't change this.

People have imperfections everywhere, including lumps on various body parts.

I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Your worrying is pointless anyway.

Abi

Chinafoot wrote: »

A "largeish fleshy lump" would most likely not be a genital wart. Gential warts are usually quite small and, like warts on your hand, they wouldn't feel "fleshy"......every woman will be different in that area.

I agree, of course women are different in that area. The quote wasnt my own though, its repeated on a few different websites. Example.

Gordon

Abigayle wrote: »

This is for you.

If you have to post that then there was no point in your initial comment.

Abi

Gordon wrote: »

If you have to post that then there was no point in your initial comment.

My post offered a little back up for a previous post of my own.

Chinafoot

Abigayle wrote: »

I agree, of course women are different in that area.

I didn't actually say you were implying otherwise.

Abigayle wrote: »

The quote wasnt my own though, its repeated on a few different websites. Example.

I think most people that are somewhat educated when it comes to sexual health will be aware of this. They will also be aware that what the OP has described does not sound like genital warts. He said it was "large-ish". Now unless he has a skewed sense of what is large, suggesting genital warts may be stretching it and cause some unnecessary worry.

At the end of the day, the OP had protected sex and there's not a lot that worrying is going to achieve. OP just keep an eye on your member and get it checked out if anything doesn't feel right...just like should be doing anyway

AARRRGH

Abigayle wrote: »

My post offered a little back up for a previous post of my own. I've edited the post to suit, and poster is reported.

You reported aoife000

Whether the OP was drunk or sober is irrelevant; he still had protected sex. Condoms don't fully protect from Genital Warts, but he did the best he could, considering the circumstances.

The OP should not be given out to for having safe sex with someone he doesn't know. That kind of thing is a part of life.

I think aoife000's comment is valid.

doodlemeister45 wrote:

I recently had protected sex with a girl i did not know, one night stand thing we were both drunk.

Abigayle wrote:

dont have to tell you that this wasnt a great plan..

aoife000 wrote:

why not?

Abi

Chinafoot wrote: »

At end of the day, the OP had protected sex and there's not a lot that worrying is going to achieve.

I see what you did there Thanks!

I suppose when I saw this:

I never saw it properly

I hit the panic button, but with that said, one thing I'd like to add is; the condom will protect this penis itself, but not the surrounding area.

DD: I've posted a mod re same.

Chinafoot

Abigayle wrote: »

the condom will protect this penis itself, but not the surrounding area.

The guy used protection. What more would you like him to have done? Wrap her in cling film before he put it in? Unless you're going to start preaching abstinence, stating the obvious isn't of much help now is it.

OP, if it was me I wouldn't be concerned. Just get yourself checked regularly like all responsible, sexually active people should.

AARRRGH

Abigayle wrote: »

DD: I've posted a mod re same.

Could you clarify what you mean by that?

EDIT: On re-reading this, I think you mean you modified your original post, rather than reporting me (as well as Aoife) to a mod

Marksie

dublindude wrote: »

Could you clarify what you mean by that?

EDIT: On re-reading this, I think you mean you modified your original post, rather than reporting me (as well as Aoife) to a mod

She PMed me dublindude apologising for the reporting of the post by Aoife00. It was a mistake simple as.
you name did not appear anywhere.

AARRRGH

OK, cool, thanks for clarifying.

andyl222

Abigayle wrote: »

I dont have to tell you that this wasnt a great plan..


Now, it could be as she said - it was there from the get go. But you could also consider it could have been a genital wart.

For god sake, here we go, the guy wore protection, short of dragging the girl to a clinic for an impromptu sti test he's pretty much covered all his bases. Yes HPV can be passed from other skin contact, but short of cutting a hole in a sheet and penetrating her through it there is not much he can do. This sort of patronising response grates on me no end,worries the OP needlessly and for what? I mean some people on this forum honestly would suggest 2 virgins get std tests before they sleep with eachother, but even then should use 'the pill and male & female condoms, but ya better throw in the withdrawal method just to be extra careful. At the end of the day ,it's sex and people want to enjoy it, not have a check list the length of their arm and to bow down to the idiotic rantings of the uber-cautious scaremongers.
OP i reckon ya have nothing to worry about, you rubbered up.

Abi

I suggest you read the rest of the thread.

andyl222

Abigayle wrote: »

I suggest you read the rest of the thread.

I have.....

Abi

andyl222 wrote: »

I have.....

Abigayle wrote: »

I see what you did there Thanks!
I suppose when I saw this:
I hit the panic button, but with that said, one thing I'd like to add is; the condom will protect this penis itself, but not the surrounding area.

Really?

andyl222

Abigayle wrote: »

Really?

Yeah, I've read all this, and noted that you initially & incorrectly assumed the OP had unprotected sex. However in your next post you still clung to the assertion that in some way he still hadn't done 'enough', because as you pointed out HPV can be transmitted in other ways. It still counts as scaremongering in my opinion.

Gordon

Enough, back on topic for goodness sakes.

Abi

andyl222 wrote: »

It still counts as scaremongering in my opinion.

Aside from the fact that this may not be the OP's case after all. This can realistically happen. Now I've spoken to Marksie about this.

And this, I count as trolling.

//Edit:Just saw your msg Gordon.

andyl222

Abigayle wrote: »

Aside from the fact that this may not be the OP's case after all. This can realistically happen. Now I've spoken to Marksie about this.

And this, I count as trolling.

//Edit:Just saw your msg Gordon.

A difference of opinion is now seen as trolling??? Well that seems like a weak attempt at abandoning a losing argument.

apologies to the OP for the OT responses.