Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Lonely too

  • 08-05-2008 9:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Similar to the other post about being lonely, this is how things for me. Many of my friends have drifted to other parts of the world and I only meet up them occassionally anymore and never together.

    I have a decent job and get on well with most of my colleagues but the chanes for solcialising are limited there.

    Im 25 now, never had a girlfriend of been with a girl. I feel like im getting old now and life is passing me by bigtime.

    Like, I basically have no friends, never go out (& on the occassions I do find it very hard to meet new people, even in a nightclub, i find it hard to strike up a conversation).

    Maybe its time for me to stop feeling sorry for myself and just get out there and try new things. Like joining a lub and walking straight up to a girl in a pub and introducing myself. Putting myself out there. These things arent easy though...


Comments

  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hey, I'm 25 also. In your last paragraph, you have already said what I was about to say now: Get out there and create a new life for yourself. Friendship doesn't last forever and it's wrong of people to expect it to. Don't linger on the past when it has already gone. Rather, embrace the future.

    Take care,
    Kevin


  • #3
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Misternolife wrote: »
    Maybe its time for me to stop feeling sorry for myself and just get out there and try new things. Like joining a lub and walking straight up to a girl in a pub and introducing myself. Putting myself out there. These things arent easy though...


    You have the answer to your own question right there. Hell, i live in the sticks and have a long commute so my socialising is limited in the extreme, but I realsied the danger of such isolation and did things about it. I am 44 BTW.

    It may at first appear daunting as you are not used to it, but the more you look around the more you will find to explore. You have nothing to stop you, have a look at anything that takes your fancy, even if its short term, it will expand your range of experience and thus put you in more contact with people, will enable you to ecpand your ability to have conversations.

    Always tell yourself, life is about experiencing things and that the only thing holding you back is yourself. You are correct in one thing: life is too short to sit and wonder.
    Get out there and live it, if you make mistakes in doing so, dont worry its part of growing. But stop navel gazing and thinking and actually do!


  • #4
    mrsdewinter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,184 ✭✭✭mrsdewinter


    Listen, the key is people. Get involved in some sort of activity or club. And take a few risks. Not grabbing a woman off the street, but just do things differently for a change. Like, if you're not the type to go to a party where you won't know anybody, tell yourself that the next time you're invited anywhere, you're going, no matter what. Or instead of lolling around the house this Sunday morning, find a hillwalking group and turn up.
    Don't say to yourself, I'm going to buy a whole wardrobe of new clothes, get a new haircut, and hit the clubs 7 nights a week. It's too exhausting and intimidating.
    Small steps, small changes to your behaviour.
    It'll take you out of the comfort zone, into new circles of friends.
    You'll be a hit.


Advertisement