Girl on the Luas

signalfire

Ok there is this girl I see on the Luas most mornings. Needless to say she catches my eye. I really want to start off a conversation with her, but the thing is there are a few barriers.
Firstly I am on the f*&kin Luas at 8:30 in the morning and am fully aware of the people around me listening in. Also I am not quite sure what to say.

One morning I discovered she works near enough to where I work. My work colleagus and I were ina cafe near too her, I saw here but was again stumped for words. Also I dont always get the LUAS to work (I get a lift in by a mate) so oppurtunities are rear to talk to her. I am fully aware that this may come across as a bit stalkerish. Does this look bad?

I guess what I am saying is,
What do i say to her?
Do I come across as a stalker? I mean if I talked to her on the way to work would she think thats odd?

Help

Helix

you could start off by saying hello whenever you see her

thatll make it easier to start a conversation a few encounters down the line about something incredibly innane like the weather if its lashing rain or something

no point lashing straight into a "hi i think youre really nice wanna hook up" conversation, coz that WILL seem stalkerish

Sherifu

You can always start with "I've noticed you around, I find you very atractive" and go from there. Would you like to grab a coffee etc.

raemie21

Watch this......

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-chat-someone-up-on-the-train-bus-or-tube

darsar

Sherifu wrote: »

"I've noticed you around, I find you very atractive"

"would you, would you go to bed with me" .

Of course, you should sing this to her:p

signalfire

Thanks raemie21 i may struggle with step 2, cant belive something like that is around but plan b is very good.

signalfire

Helix wrote: »

you could start off by saying hello whenever you see her

thatll make it easier to start a conversation a few encounters down the line about something incredibly innane like the weather if its lashing rain or something

no point lashing straight into a "hi i think youre really nice wanna hook up" conversation, coz that WILL seem stalkerish

yeah but dont always get the Luas was looking for something speed up process.

Predhead

Sherifu wrote: »

You can always start with "I've noticed you around, I find you very atractive" and go from there. Would you like to grab a coffee etc.

Do NOT say that!!!

Just like another poster said. Start off by saying hello from time to time and go from there. It'll be a lot more natural to continue a chat after a while...any plans for the weekend etc..enjoy it..then maybe the week of the week after ask her out.

wandatowell

whip your doodle out, might work, but then again it might not

LegacyUser

Gotta be careful with this.

If a gorgeous girl started talking to me on my way to work, I'd think she was odd, even if she wasn't.

It really isn't the place to do it - plus you don't know if she's single or whatever.

Saying hello is probably a good start, but no flirting. You'll scare the sh1t out of her.

Best of luck though!

Let us know how is goes.

Lipraloof

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qfKj6HDWOKA

Do it

1. If you make eye contact with her, smile
2. Gauge her reaction after you smile, if she smiles back then theres a small chance
3. say hello to her one day, then the next, don't jump into anything too quick
4. when you do talk to her, try to avoid any nervousness
5. just be yourself
6. eventually ask her out for a coffee

Lipraloof

Deleted User wrote: »

1. If you make eye contact with her, smile
2. Gauge her reaction after you smile, if she smiles back then theres a small chance
3. say hello to her one day, then the next, don't jump into anything too quick
4. when you do talk to her, try to avoid any nervousness
5. just be yourself
6. eventually ask her out for a coffee

Yea dude jus go for it! What have u got to lose? The worst thing that could happen is she could say no and she won't if u play it smooth cause chicks love attention....

Gordon

wandatowell wrote: »

whip your doodle out, might work, but then again it might not

Helpful replies only thanks.

Gordon

Gordon wrote: »

Helpful replies only thanks.

.. it could be helpful.

But then again, I've never taken my mickey out on a LUAS.

Look, OP, just go for it!

af_thefragile

raemie21 wrote: »

Watch this......

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-chat-someone-up-on-the-train-bus-or-tube

haha!!
This one is brilliant!
Actually there's a cute chick i sometimes see on my bus too who gets on at my stop... maybe i might try it with her!

Nevyn

Deleted User wrote: »

.. it could be helpful.

But then again, I've never taken my mickey out on a LUAS.

Look, OP, just go for it!

You can be arrested, charged sent to prision/ fined and have your name put on the sex offenders register.

wombat

You're probably better off figuring out something to strike up a conversation about, like if she's reading a book (not easy on the luas at that hour I know) or listening to music you can overhear then it might be a better point to start a conversation. Find something *anything* to talk about that isn't a more or less sophisticated version of "You're purdy" because "Pretty" isn't much of a basis for a relationship and you're already off to a bad start by approaching someone first thing in the morning, surprising them and possibly putting them on the defensive. Asides from anything else, you're not going to end up sleeping with her after one of your luas trysts so you might as well get to know her.

As to being stalkerish, I think you're fine, it sounds like a crush and that happens everyone at any age. Its hard to say where the line is but you'll know you've crossed it when you're outside her house in the bushes at three AM crying into one of her used napkins.

af_thefragile

I think best would be to ask her some sorta question like...

maybe like...

"I am new in Dublin, do you know how i can get to Parnell Square from here?"
or
"Do you know which Luas stop would be closest to the Dundrum Shopping centre?"

or maybe ask her if she's got a pen or something... Then you could go off explaining to her why you need the pen.
Or maybe ask her if she's got some change for 5eur... then tell her about how you need change for the bus and all you've got is the 5eur note... And then bitch bout how the buses here only take coins...

Ya know, something like that....

Once she gets talking, you can pick it up from there...

Fremen

raemie21 wrote: »

Watch this......

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-chat-someone-up-on-the-train-bus-or-tube

Weird, some girl "Plan B"'d me on the tube a few weeks ago. Unfortunately, I rang her and it turned out that she was drunk at the time. It also turned out that she was ten years my senior. Oh well.

OP, a plan B could honestly work here if you feel awkward striking up a conversation on a crowded luas. Worst thing that happens is you get a funny story out of it.

kowloon

I remember in my school days one of the lads tried chatting up some girl he had been eyeing for quite some time. Rejection followed and with all the slagging etc. he is now afeared of the wimmin folk. Lesson: If you're going to ask out strangers make sure you can take the hit and that none of your mates are around to remind you about it for years to come :pac:

RedXIV

I'd like to point out that Thaedydal's advice of a simple business card with "free coffee" on one side and my number on the other has been tried and tested down here with an 80% success rate (4 out of 5 women replied ) and if it's done with enough confidence (hugely important) it seems to work quite well

Energizeer

I was checking a girl out on the train to dublin once and she seemed unreal. Then her phone rang and she started to talk. She had the most annoying accent ever! It had a revolting scanger fair city twinge to it. She lost all hotness after that! yuck!

Overheal

RedXIV wrote: »

I'd like to point out that Thaedydal's advice of a simple business card with "free coffee" on one side and my number on the other has been tried and tested down here with an 80% success rate (4 out of 5 women replied ) and if it's done with enough confidence (hugely important) it seems to work quite well

noted

Velvet Vocals

Well... have you done it yet?

af_thefragile

RedXIV wrote: »

I'd like to point out that Thaedydal's advice of a simple business card with "free coffee" on one side and my number on the other has been tried and tested down here with an 80% success rate (4 out of 5 women replied ) and if it's done with enough confidence (hugely important) it seems to work quite well

I think it would be cooler if you ask her for a pen, use her pen to write your number on the card and hand her back the pen with your number, saying thanks and walking off the bus/luas/train/plane/ferry etc.

nkay1985

First things first, get the Luas a little more often. Instead of once a week, make it twice!

DO NOT STARE!!! Even if you are trying to catch her eye to smile!

Easy things are the likes of rushing onto the Luas, making a slight bustle as you do which will make her look (human nature, we're nosey) then smilingly roll your eyes as if to say (Jesus, what a hassle!). If she throws daggers you're probably in trouble from the get go.


If not, the next day you get on simply say "hello again" with a little smile. If anything's going to develop, it will from here. So realistically, you just need to make the slightest bit of personal contact and then be yourself if/when normal conversation starts.

Beruthiel

wandatowell wrote: »

whip your doodle out, might work, but then again it might not

Read the forum charter with regards to idiotic comments.
B

groom

Go for it. You only live once. She could possibly think you are a stalker but then she is a clown if she thinks this and you're as well off.

eoin-dubh

i broke the ice with a mars bar once...

LegacyUser

eh just be careful..cause if doesnt go according to plan, it could be embarassing getting the luas from now on..i know a guy who asked a girl out by writing on a piece of paper and gave it to her...she was listening to music....she gave it back to him and ignored him- embarassing!! but it was ok cause it wasnt a regular luas trip.you have a better chance by actually talking to people i think...any other method can be msiconstrued as being odd..!!!

moomoo2007

Well mister any updates??

I've always found that a simple smile always worked wonders.

Yeah, any updates?

Drift

spren122 wrote: »

she gave it back to him and ignored him

What a bitch!!!! Why wouldn't she just have taken it and not called. If a girl gave her number to me I'd always take it politely and even if I wasn't interested I'd text anyway to tell her so. It's only polite because it takes some balls (man or woman!) to ask a person out in the first place.

Don't be put off by this OP. I'd say it's rare enough to meet someone this rude.

lonely heart

Something similar happened to me years ago. I am female and I was getting the DART to work every morning. Apparently someone had been noticing me too, but he just started chatting to me - in a normal fashion as we waited for the dart. started with a simple hi, and then after a few days we'd chat a little more etc, and then eventually we agreed to meet in town to see a play in the Gaeity. It was a lovely way to meet someone. We are still friends - nearly 10 years later. Okay we were onlt just ever friends, but my point is that it was a lovely way to make a new friend, and there was absolutely no pressure, it was just good fun. So I would say, you have to get the LUAS more often, and just start off by saying hi, and build it from there over time. If you are not pushy, what can go wrong?

I have met some lovely people on the DARTS and on the train.

Jigsaw

I seem to recall a Wrigleys Doublemint advert where a piece of chewing gum seemed to do the trick on public transport.

Seriously though, as others have said, try to indulge in a bit of inane general conversation first to guage how receptive she is. Look for pointers for conversation topics, like if she is reading a certain book talk about it to her or as someone else said, ask her for a pen or ask her for the time (make sure you are no visibly wearing a watch - that would be schoolboy error!). Once the initial conversation has been done and ice broken you will be able to converse again without it ever seeming forced. If, however, it remains forced and getting anything other than monosyllabic responses is difficult, you're probably best forgetting about her.