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Losing my friend..

  • 03-05-2008 9:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    In no small part due to men, I'm feeling really down and fragile at the moment. Early 20s girl, btw.

    I started sleeping with my best friend about a month ago. It was great at first and we'd waited a long long time to get together.. we agreed to keep things casual as we were both just starting out as singletons, but obviously that's all going to hell. He's seeing other girls, bringing them out on dates and telling me plenty of details. It wasn't so bad at first, but now he seems run off his feet with girls and sex. Not only that, but at this point we've had a complete communication breakdown. I feel like he's shutting me out a little bit more every day, he won't be seen talking to me in public.. he never tells me what's going on in his head anymore. It's like everything's become a bizarre painful act and I've no idea where my friend went.

    I feel like I need to end this before I hate him and hate myself even more. I just don't know how to approach it or what to say. I just want to go back to the way things were. Maybe that's niave of me.

    Anybody got any helpful suggestions on damage control?


Comments

  • #2
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    From when you started anything physical with your friend, it changed everything for ever. It seems he is going through some kind of phase. You have no choice but to let him be. You are both on different wave-lengths.

    You could ask him if he has time for a coffee, and ask him how he is, whats new with him. And you could let him know a little about how you feel too.


  • #3
    Weidii
    Closed Accounts Posts: 842 ✭✭✭Weidii


    Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Just make sure you both have the same idea of where you stand with eachother.


  • #4
    Kelly O'Malley
    Closed Accounts Posts: 147 ✭✭Kelly O'Malley


    You certainly need to stop sleeping with him!
    I've done what you are doing and seldom had difficulty getting the relationship back to the good friends track.
    He still thinks of you as a friend - talking to you about his other lovers is his way of letting you know that that is all you are to him - and he's thinking you're making more of the sexual relationship than he is.


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