I need to seriously impress her!!

OoSKYLINEoO

So this saturday i'm going to hopefully take out my ex in Dublin city, i know i want to get back with her so there is no need to question about that but i'm hoping to show her the time of her life so i need to do something really special for her but i'm not from Dublin so i'm not sure where i can take her, i don't wanna do something easy like going to the cinema i'd rather take her to a show or something unexpected and different.

If anyone has any suggestions please let me hear them, this is really important to me! Thanks for reading

Gary ITR

Take her for dinner, at a show you can't really talk. Just listen to her, look into her eyes when she's speaking and that will impress her enough

topper75

Girls usually ain't knocked out by one big things in the way a boy might be.

Do lots of small considerate things instead.

You know the girl best so you can decide what these small things could be but you could 'casually' pass a flower shop/stall and get her a single flower or something. Browse in a book shop and if she picks something up ask her if she would like it. Go clothes/shoe shopping with her, excercise patience, and give opinions (not fawning but tactful though!). An icecream is always good or better still a packet of sweets to share. Sit on a bench in the Green and feed ducks with a halfloaf and chat. Give her honest compliments when you meet her and throughout the day (shouldn't be a hard task to think up things if you genuinely like her). It's not formulaic cos we are talking women after all but at the end of all this she should be in the right frame of mind for you to bring up the whole you and her thing again. Have a clear argument ready in your head as to how exactly it would be different/better this time round as if you were making a case in a court of law.

aye

Guinness Brewery. good tour and good views.
i wouldn't go overboard tho.

justsomebloke

If she is an ex, just show her how you have changed since the last time that you went. Cause chances are both of yous had your faults that led to the break up of the relationship

Dark Artist

topper75 wrote: »

You know the girl best so you can decide what these small things could be but you could 'casually' pass a flower shop/stall and get her a single flower or something. Browse in a book shop and if she picks something up ask her if she would like it. Go clothes/shoe shopping with her, excercise patience, and give opinions (not fawning but tactful though!). An icecream is always good or better still a packet of sweets to share. Sit on a bench in the Green and feed ducks with a halfloaf and chat. Give her honest compliments when you meet her and throughout the day (shouldn't be a hard task to think up things if you genuinely like her). It's not formulaic cos we are talking women after all but at the end of all this she should be in the right frame of mind for you to bring up the whole you and her thing again. Have a clear argument ready in your head as to how exactly it would be different/better this time round as if you were making a case in a court of law.

I'm sorry but this advice is absolutely terrible.

Mate, you're not going to get your girlfriend back by giving her flowers, buying stuff for her, complimenting her every waking moment and giving her a court-case speech for why the two of you should get back together. It doesn't work.

You talked about doing something unexpected and different, so you're on the right track. If you really want to get her back, then you have to give her a reason to want you back and realise what she's been missing.

My point here is that being overly nice to her is going to get you nowhere, because she can get a guy like that anywhere. It's uninteresting to women. Different is good. Act as if she's the one who should be giving you compliments and buying you stuff... be a bit cocky, tease her a bit.. bust her balls... be confident and funny, make her laugh, and she'll want more. Hope you get where I'm coming from here.

Kooli

Unfortunately we won't be able to advise you on the best way to impress her.

The reason for this is that I think the best way to impress her is to do something with her that is totally tailored to her and everything you know about her. In other words, to do something with her or for her that wouldn't make sense if you did it with or for someone else. Something that shows you really know her, or that you remember something small she once said, or that you have really listened to her in the past. That's the kind of thing that's going to touch her.

So unfortunately I can't offer any advice on that part!

But best of luck with it, I hope it goes really well.

zAbbo

Get two big bags of skittles, and a 2ltr bottle of coke. Impress her with your amazing feat of holding large mounds of skittles in your mouth and successfully drinking the coke without your face exploding in a rainbowed coloured snotfest.

Differing things impress different people, save yourself the hassle and be yourself.

RedXIV

Dark Artist wrote: »

I'm sorry but this advice is absolutely terrible.

Mate, you're not going to get your girlfriend back by giving her flowers, buying stuff for her, complimenting her every waking moment and giving her a court-case speech for why the two of you should get back together. It doesn't work.

You talked about doing something unexpected and different, so you're on the right track. If you really want to get her back, then you have to give her a reason to want you back and realise what she's been missing.

My point here is that being overly nice to her is going to get you nowhere, because she can get a guy like that anywhere. It's uninteresting to women. Different is good. Act as if she's the one who should be giving you compliments and buying you stuff... be a bit cocky, tease her a bit.. bust her balls... be confident and funny, make her laugh, and she'll want more. Hope you get where I'm coming from here.

+1

If you want the girl back you basically need to show her whats she's missing, not how nice you can be. By all means take her somewhere you think will impress her but don't be the perfect gentleman. Shame you don't know much about Dublin, if ya could go to places where you have friends or aquaintances, the constant stream of "hello's" and "hi's" make YOU look popular and therefore make YOU look more like a catch.

LaVidaLoca

Ehhhh nope.

Wibbs

LaVidaLoca read the charter especially about the part about unhelpful posting. Keep this stuff in After Hours where it belongs.

chuci

zAbbo wrote: »

Get two big bags of skittles, and a 2ltr bottle of coke. Impress her with your amazing feat of holding large mounds of skittles in your mouth and successfully drinking the coke without your face exploding in a rainbowed coloured snotfest.

Brilliant:D
op when you meet he tall her she looks well and all of that. dont fawn over her. take he somewhere you know she would be interested in and hasnt been before.

LaVidaLoca

is this place run by Germans? Surely a bit of humour is alright isnt it?

Wibbs

RedXIV wrote: »

+1

If you want the girl back you basically need to show her whats she's missing, not how nice you can be. By all means take her somewhere you think will impress her but don't be the perfect gentleman. Shame you don't know much about Dublin, if ya could go to places where you have friends or aquaintances, the constant stream of "hello's" and "hi's" make YOU look popular and therefore make YOU look more like a catch.

Have to agree with redXIV and Dark Artist. I would single out topper75's line "Have a clear argument ready in your head as to how exactly it would be different/better this time round as if you were making a case in a court of law." as especially the wrong tack IMHO. Logic and considered argument won't bring a woman(or man) back, emotions and attraction will. When that angle has worked it simply meant they had made their minds up already anyway. How many people do we know that have left an objectvely logically good relationship only to shack up with someone objectively awful by comparison? I knew one woman who left a guy who was kind, goodlooking, strong, with a prosperous and interesting life, basically a hell of a catch as it were. She left him for a short balding doley with a drug habit, a nasty side and an impotence problem. Go figure, but it was emotions and attraction that made her choose that. That and ""good catch" dropping the proverbial ball in the first place.

Think of this as a first date kinda thing, only you have an uphill struggle because she has made her mind up about you from the previous relationship. Now she fancied you and was emotionally involved with you once so that's the advantage you have. Something upset that apple cart. Figure out what that is and reduce or eliminate it. EG if you were overly clingy, avoid clingy like a rabid rat with the plague that's been set on fire.

Be an independent man, who is happy to see her, who would consider a second crack of the whip with your relationship. Be exiting and fun and keep the conversation light. Avoid relationship talk unless she brings it up. Even when she brings it up don't get too heavy about it and let her do the talking. Listen to her. If she's suggesting "let's be friends", then I would indicate to her that you would want more and that would get too complex for you. Throw in it may get confusing for her too. Unless you actually want to be her friend without ulterior motives. Unlikely I would imagine.

Again treat this like a new relationship. Maybe not a first date like i said before, more like the emotional level of a third or fourth kinda thing.

Now all this sounds like too much planning and it is in a lot of ways. Basically be the guy she fell for with less of the parts that changed her mind. Show her you're the man she wants, don't tell her. Talk is cheap.

Wibbs

LaVidaLoca wrote: »

is this place run by Germans? Surely a bit of humour is alright isnt it?

Humour is fine if in the context of advice and adds not subtracts. This was not and it didn't so hence it's "verboten" if you like. Read the chapter. No more off topic posting about this issue. End of.

Redpunto

Id say dinner would be nice but it has to be in a nice quiet romantic restuarant and just be a gentleman and obviously pay for everything. Listen when shes talking to you and give her your full attention. and dont get pissed.......unless shes pissed too:D and dont force anything, put her into a taxi at the end of the night and give her money for the taxi fella then text her to make sure she gets home ok and then give her a bizz the next day.

Redpunto

sorry buzz not bizz:p

ballroom blitz

Hey OP I think a romantic meal is your best bet. Give you a chance to chat etc. La Peniche on the canal is supposed to be nice and romantic!!
http://www.lapeniche.ie/

zAbbo

ballroom blitz wrote: »

Hey OP I think a romantic meal is your best bet. Give you a chance to chat etc. La Peniche on the canal is supposed to be nice and romantic!!
http://www.lapeniche.ie/

Oooh I was wondering what that was called, thanks.

OoSKYLINEoO

Thank you all for your replies thus far everyone, lots of good advice i must say