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Boyfriend Before Best Friend???

  • 26-04-2008 6:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'll be as brief as I can here. We're both 18, leaving cert students. We met back in September and are definately best friends. Thing is, she met some guy about a month ago and our relationship has really changed from my perspective. I doubt shes noticed any changed though. This is the situation...

    I've been begging her to go out on weekends etc. but she always refuses saying how lazy she is or just how she can't. But since shes been going out with this guy shes always going to the cinema, going out etc. I've still to meet this guy but she always passes a comment about how I may feel like a "third wheeler" which I would and clearly she feels as though I would too if shes passing this comment. Whenever we go on lunch aswell she continuoslly texting him and barely says a word to me! I've passed a few comments like "jeez talk about been antisocial" etc and she just laughs.

    I'm becoming pretty down about this. I just feel lonely, like shes possibly one of my only friends and if I'm going to a gig etc shes definately the one i'd feel most confortable with. I can't stand how shes putting her boyfriend before me. I'm afriad that if this continues our friendship is going to break and then I'll be left with no one!

    I'm sucha sociable person and love going to gigs, going out etc but none of my mates are into this. It's really stressing me out to the stage where I'm getting headaches every day.

    What should I do? I'd really appreciate the advice. Sorry for rambling...

    Jenny


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  • #2
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    Relationships generally ruin these types of friendships. She sounds like a bit of a user & you're now surplus to requirements.

    When they break up things will go back to almost normal but will never be quite the same.

    There's nothing you can do, if you make a big deal she'll probably not take much notice & you'll get really hurt.

    If she's blanking you like this it shows you how much regard she really had for you. She's not worth your time.


  • #3
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    Anony_mous wrote: »

    I just feel lonely, like shes possibly one of my only friends

    I'm sucha sociable person and love going to gigs, going out etc but none of my mates are into this.

    Jenny

    These two sentances don't really match up....

    Especially with you being in leaving cert and college coming up, friendships get strained, especially when you go from seeing someone every day to maybe once a fortnight. Your friend sounds like she's very passonate about this guy but in my expereince, this doesn't usually last. Point out to your friend that you don't have that much time left together and see where her loyalties lie. She might need time to come around, she might realise immediately but trust me, at some stage she's gonna realise she made a mistake


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