Problem

LegacyUser

Hi guys am looking for advice on a problem I'm having. I'm currently on meds for depression but one of the side effects is it takes avery long time for me to ejaculate if I do ejaculate. My g/f is refusing to have sex with me now because it is 'never ending'. Now I don't mind having sex for a normal amount of time and then stopping without finishing but she refuses to do this either as it makes her feel she's doing something wrong.

Now I am all frustrated because I'm not getting any now and her answer is for me to stop taking the anti-depressants but I'm not on them that long and am only now atarting to see an improvement in myself so to stop taking them would just send me into a spiral.

What do I do?

Overheal

Take it up with your doctor who can alter your medication accordingly.

In the mean time you can always fall back on masturbation. You might even try this before sex just so you are that much closer to climax before involving your girlfriend.

Marksie

Well now.
Firstly, you are on medication, while you have explained this to your g/friend i get a real impression she is not understanding this.
Her reply of stop taking the antidepressants would tend to confirm this.... its shows a lack of understanding.

Now, i take it by the fact you say it takes too long you are talking about penetrative sex?
Thats not the be all and end all you know, and you could explore lots of other techniques to get you a lot closer to the end point if that is what you desire.

But sex isnt race and its the enjoyment of it thats important not the end point really.
So define what is a "normal" amount of time.... its does sound like the pair of you Have actually got it going as a basic function rather than an ecstatic experience.
She does seem to be missing the whole point though... seems like a catch 22.

She doesn't think she is "doing a good job" (my parentheses) unless you ejaculate, but you cannot ejaculate for the reasons you have oultined.

Thus its her fault? stop taking the meds and she will feel better, but you wont.

You know its entirely possible for a man to orgasm without ejaculation, and ejaculation in itself isnt important really.

try to talk to her and get her to think differently, and you yourself, if you cannot ejaculate, then juts enjoy the whole experience. try and communicate this to your partner.
Personally i do communicate this across and ejaculation, penetration and all the razzamatazz that we commonnly associate with "good sex" are stripped back. That allows for more and more ectstaic and intense experiences.

So i am saying i guess, is to use the opportunity to really explore each other and go back to the core of what lovemaking is about.

You will have to try and communicate this across though as it will need a shift in focus from the western idea.

But hey thats only my suggestion and attempt to get you to both think differently and to see this as something positive to tell her so you can get the best of both situations