7 Year Itch?

LegacyUser

Will try keep this as short as possible... Been married 7 years this year and lately everything turns in to an argument. This morning we had a row over something stupid, he stormed out of the room and went into the spare room for 4 hours!!, comes out and says sorry. This happens quite a lot, he loses his cool then comes back says sorry and thinks everything is fine. I have told him that this sh** has to stop.

We are both in our early 30's and have been trying to conceive for the last 2 years which doesnt help matters. We both want children so much. I am also in a highly stressful job and like to chill out at the weekend, but today I actually considered walking out and not turning back.

I really dont know what the future holds?

Any advice

Pherekydes

Hey, my wife walked out after 7 years. If it's really that sh1tty, do it before you have kids.

Not a great reply, so sorry for that.

Loopy

It could be just a bad patch.. Are you both feeling the pressure over wanting kids?

Sorry to say this but my previous boyfriend and I split after 7 years too, like slowcoach.. I thought at the time, bloody 7 yr itch!

He seems to be in a strop over something, kinda childish the way he is going on. If you love him, try and make it work, express to him how your feeling. If you come to the conclusion that you don't WALK now..

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If you don't love him, ask yourself why you fell out of love with him? Is he completely responsible for that reason? also do think or know that he no longer loves you (and if so, are you solely responsible?)

I believe that a lot of us live in very a demanding, complex and stressful world that needs managing. We are not prepared for all that life throws at us, it doesn't matter how many times we see other people go through crap, it doesn't compare to when yourself in the ****. Your post was not very long, but in it you make some striking remarks...

I am also in a highly stressful job

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everything turns in to an argument

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we had a row over something stupid

I know if I have a very stressful day at work I will come home and the "little things" will make my heart pound in my chest and snap and argue. The "little things" are not the cause, my inability to manage the stress levels incurred at work are. Also if something bothers you and it is not addressed, and just bottled, then of course it will just sit on your shoulders, poking away at you making you much less tolerant of other things. Now I'm not saying for a second that you spend your life tolerating accepting unwanted behaviour, but does arguing over "something stupid" really warrent a reaction such as "Walking Out"?

he stormed out of the room and went into the spare room for 4 hours!!, comes out and says sorry

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This happens quite a lot

I know loads of people that do this sort of thing, and every time its based on allowing pressure to build to the extent that they have arguments and say things that they wouldn't have otherwise if they just took the time out to calm down before speaking. Basically when he heads off to the other room and ye take out a timeout from arguing then, of course he's going to regret things he said. I bet he was in that room for only a short amount of time when he eventually started to regret it.

both in our early 30's and have been trying to conceive for the last 2 years which doesnt help matters

Allowing yourself to be immersed in stress as opposed to managing it is not going to help this. It doesn't have to be a vicious cycle.