Invited friend on holidays, other mates dont want him to go

LegacyUser

Nothing major here but just something thats wrecking my head. Im going on a weeks holiday in june with 3 mates who i went to college with. Were a very close knit bunch, have our own "special" type of humour etc but while drunk I asked one of my other mates from another group of friends to come, he'd be one of my best mates but i just dont think he'll get on that great with the college lads and of course he accepted and is now mad to go 9I thought he'd forget I asked him!).

Now me college mates said they wouldnt mind him coming (I know they secretly dont want him to, they're happy with just the 4 of us like it always is) but this is purley outta politness. So in essence i'd rather my other mate didnt come as it may make things more awkward etc and id hate if he didnt get on wioth them.

How do I go about telling my mate that the lads dontreally want him, even though i said he could come. im trying to think of excuses that will leave everyone happy enough, any ideas?

LadyE

Are you sure you just havent changed your mind?? The other lads havent actually said that they dont want him to go have they?

Miss Fluff

Well you dug this hole yourself so I wouldn't be using my mates as excuses. Tell him that you were pissed and that it was both unmannerly and inconsiderate to have invited him without consulting your friends whom you had booked the trip with originally. Apologise and tell him that you will go on another holiday with him or something but that it is not fair on your mates to impose a stranger on their planned trip.

colly10

Your worrying over nothing, they'll probably get on even though they are different people. You can't uninvite your mate, thats bad form, if he's up for it then the thoughts of meeting new people interests him and he's not worried that he won't get on with them.
Im sure that ideally the college mates would like to meet him before going away (so may be a bit scetchy) but once ye's get over there all should be grand.

Edit - Just read Miss Fluffs response, if your going to uninvite him then thats the best way ye can put it really

brian_ire

obviously i don't know what type of holiday you are going on, but you could give the excuse that 5 is an odd number and that you couldn't book a room etc for 5... that it needs to be 4, just a suggestion!

colly10

brian_ire wrote: »

obviously i don't know what type of holiday you are going on, but you could give the excuse that 5 is an odd number and that you couldn't book a room etc for 5... that it needs to be 4, just a suggestion!

If I got bunked off a holiday with an excuse like that id wouldn't think much of the person who said it, it could also very easily backfire if he's stay in the hotel beside and also some are willing to crash an an extra person in a rrom

Phantasm

Explain to him that you were drunk when you asked him to come along.
Tell him that you would like to go on holiday with him sometime, but he'd probably feel left out on this particular occassion as it's you and your college friends.

He'll probably understand.

brian_ire

well i think tie that in with what miss fluff was saying about the college friends wanting to stick together, might let the person down easier than just saying it straight out

StormWarrior

Why not just take him along? For all you know they might get on like a house on fire. I've mixed groups of friends on holidays before and it worked out even more fun than sticking to one group.

RedXIV

I'd bring him along. the differences between my college friends and home friends is monumental but just about all of them get on well with each other when they are introduced. had loads of home friends and college friends together at my 21st and it was the first time most of them would meet and i was terrified at the possibilities (my home friends aren't really politically correct) but it was great!

LegacyUser

have the fights and accommodation been booked yet?
you best make up a lie of some sort but do it now before things gets outa hand