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Caoimhín

Hay all.
This is going to sound say/bad, but I'm just wondering if many more are like this.
I'm a 30 year old guy, 5'11 and reasonably good loook. Thing is I spend most of my time at work, always have. Thing is now i find my self as a CEO in a large company but all my mates are either in long term relationships or are married. Yeah Ive had a number of relationships before and there all ended for more or less the same reason, i considered my career the most important thing at that time. (and one or two of the girls were a bit loco)
I was in a club last week and the girls in there seems to just want to be a "celebrity" if you know what i mean? Hardly the type youd want to sit down and have a discussion about the Middle East...
Im stumped really, this mainly came up when i decided to head away for a week to a family members penthouse apartment some where on the Med. And when I thought about it, I had no one to bring.

Mmmmm Maybe I should have hung around and partied in my 20's like the rest of them???

scoot on

You're only 30 and you have a great career. Now that you've realised that you might want more out of life I think you should take up a sport or a hobby. Think of something that you've always wanted to get involved with but have never had the time. Go and do it, enjoy it, and make new friends. Personally I think this is the best way of meeting like minded people and developing friendships that may become more in the end.

muletide

Hey man,

Dont get down about it, You are 30 not 60. If you look at any of the problems on this forum it is all girls your age looking for a guy who is not gay or married.

Also most guys your age are working so hard on their careers that they have no time for their partners, whereas you have that sorted. My advice is to relax - join some clubs (Tag rugby season is coming up always good for meeting ladies).

Another approach that has worked well for some friends of mine is to meet and chat to ladies early on in the night and then ask for their phone number early (before you or they get drunk) Give them a ring and meet for lunch - its only an hour.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Mule.

Craft25

best thing i ever did was go back to college late.. so many girls around and you really get to know them, realise whats right for you.. I know youre probably up to your eyes as a ceo but a night course might open some of the same doors.. cookery course, art or somethin to take the head of work

bars and clubs arent really the best startin point imo

St Bill

OP, some of your married/attached friends might look at you and wish they hadn't wasted THEIR twenties going out on the p*ss. You were right to follow your nose.
You're probably at the stage now where you know what you want in a partner, which makes looking that little bit easier . As others have said, take up a few hobbies you're interested in, go to evening classes (if you have the time), don't expect to meet someone in a pub/club situation....just go out, meet your friends and enjoy the night.
Good luck

Dizzyblonde

OP you're not past it by any means but it sounds as though you really do need to get a better work/life balance. It's marvellous that you're so successful professionally but it can be lonely. As others have said, find a hobby you like.

smiler26

Hi OP,

Am in a similar situation where I don't have a good work/life balance. (i.e. it's Sunday afternoon and I'm logged on working atm lol).

Anyways, I think that you're prob in a good position, which means you've learned a lot and got where you want to be. That's a lot more attractive to us women than a party-boy who still hasn't grown up.

I think it's all about balance. I love my job and have a good career. It's vital to let your hair down every once in a while. You just need to make sure that happens, and everything else (i.e. meeting someone) will soon follow. I hope so anyway

Good luck!

Smiler

How Strange

caoibhin wrote: »

Hay all.
This is going to sound say/bad, but I'm just wondering if many more are like this.
I'm a 30 year old guy, 5'11 and reasonably good loook. Thing is I spend most of my time at work, always have. Thing is now i find my self as a CEO in a large company but all my mates are either in long term relationships or are married. Yeah Ive had a number of relationships before and there all ended for more or less the same reason, i considered my career the most important thing at that time. (and one or two of the girls were a bit loco)
I was in a club last week and the girls in there seems to just want to be a "celebrity" if you know what i mean? Hardly the type youd want to sit down and have a discussion about the Middle East...
Im stumped really, this mainly came up when i decided to head away for a week to a family members penthouse apartment some where on the Med. And when I thought about it, I had no one to bring.

Mmmmm Maybe I should have hung around and partied in my 20's like the rest of them???

As others have already said, you're only 30. So you've just had the realisation that you're single and your friends have all been paired off and married while you chased your career. Well look at it this way; you've achieved an incredible amount in your life for someone whose 30. That is something to be proud of.

Regarding girls in niteclubs; it's the most superficial place to try and meet someone. Even if you were to stumble across someone with a reasonable IQ the chances are she would be too drunk to even bother starting a conversation about politics or whatever. I know if I were in a club the last thing I'd want is to get into a heavy discussion with some guy.

I think you should try and think about the things you would like to do in the evenings and at weekends; do a self indulgent nite course. Maybe enrol in a night diploma or degree in something you'd always wanted to study but didn't. This is a great way to widen your circle of friends and you'll be mixing with likeminded people.

Think of what sports clubs you'd like to join, preferably group sports so you can join in the social element afterwards.

If you start doing things like this you'll meet new people and are more likely to meet a girl who is on your wave length.

chuci

your only 30 by no means over the hill your just at the foot of it looking up. op well done on concentrating on your career why not ask one of the lads to head away with you bet one of them would be free. or would you go alone? might meet some people out there to hang out with. every girl in the whole of ireland are looking for someone with a job not gay not married and without too much baggage. maybe you could take it easy at work a bit more take up a few hobbies like salsa dancing loads of girls are heading to classes of that nature cant promise you a conversation about the middle east though. sounds like you would be a good catch to the right girl.

TheDriver

Mate, had this problem too where no one to head away with coz all the friends are settled etc. So go on hols yourself, theres loads of tours you can join up along the way, a great company was GAP adventures so you wouldn't be on your own except maybe the flghts and everyone would be dead jealous. Don't feel sorry for yourself and just go on hols and enjoy life.

Caoimhín

TheDriver wrote: »

Mate, had this problem too where no one to head away with coz all the friends are settled etc. So go on hols yourself, theres loads of tours you can join up along the way, a great company was GAP adventures so you wouldn't be on your own except maybe the flghts and everyone would be dead jealous. Don't feel sorry for yourself and just go on hols and enjoy life.

I might just do that.
Thanks

waves

Go away on your own for sure but go on an active holiday. I took up surfing 2 years ago and it has improved my social life no end (as well as keeping me fit). I go away for weekends and end up just chatting to other people who do the same.

If you book a week of lessons at a surf camp, you all go on lessons together and it's great fun. Portugal and Morocco would be good if you want to get away to the sun. Great way to meet people.

Free accomodation on one's own may not be much fun - I did it in Spain for two weeks years ago and although I read a lot of books and met a few people, it's not as enjoyable as meeting loads of people at hostels.

I've never had a problem travelling on my own - I've done it many times as friends either can't come or are too laszy