sex life

holdups

til now my sex life was fine if not spectacular. last night i lost it with my husband. he loves me to wear lingerie but last night i was not in the mood and told him so. he said it was 3 weeks since our last time and got into a huff. i told him i wanted to be seduced and he threw it at me that i at one stage had a bit of a fling which involved a sex act in the kitchen, which he maintains was not romantic or an example of being seduced. should i forget it and dress up for tonight or let him stew in it

neuro-praxis

He is angry with you still, and you are using sex as a weapon ("let him stew in it"). You have issues that need to be resolved with love and care.

Work out your problems, and deal with sex as one of them.

Wibbs

I agree with neuro-praxis, you're both not communicating the way you should. He needs to let go fo the past and get some self respect as I suspect your level of respect for him as a man is quite low at the moment, which will turn you off him more. You need to not use sex as a weapon as that'll get you absolutely nowhere and he'll get less turned on by you as well, unless it's angry sex.

You both need to start talking and more importantly listening to each other.

Wibbs

On second thoughts something doesn't quite fit here(and in your stripping post elsewhere) so I'm locking it. PM me if you want it reopened.