Happy couple arguing

LegacyUser

Hi Guys

I am 24 and my boyfriend is 26 we have a great relationship and can't stop smiling at each other, we really are so in love and both have said we can see our futures together.

Recently we have been arguing over such petty things, and some are normal couple arguments i would say. But in the last 3 weeks its just constant argument after argument, are flights are never really that heated though but we still fight alot, we spend a huge amount of tim with each other so maybe it could be this i don't know. Could you please give me some advice neither of us want to break up cause when we are not fighting we make each other so happy, We need help.

Thanks a mill xx

Sarah

Jigsaw

Maybe it is the fact that you are spending too much time together. In my opinion, two people can love each other very much but nevertheless need the odd time away from their partner. It is no indication of lack of feeling, it is just something that I think is needed in a healthy relationship.

Gumbyman

Completely normal. Try not to worry about it. All couples argue. Just make sure you resolve things before you go to sleep every night. Try not to let them brew. It is a healthy sign that you are strong enough in your relationship to argue. You will be fine!

Liam Byrne

As Gumbyman said, it's good that you can actually argue - you're being yourselves and not pretending.....as long as the arguments are over something worthwhile, it's healthy.

In addition, bear in mind that if you don't give a **** about someone or what they thing, you'd just walk away from an argument saying "who cares".

So stop for just a quick sec and see if you can see why the "petty things" are causing arguments/issues, but don't analyse it to death or fret about it.

Dragan

Do either of you have anything going on that might be adding a lot of stress?

The best solution is a 4 step plan

1) Find your fella
2) Sit down with him
3) Ask him what he thinks about the fights and why they might be happening.
4) Hug it out.

pwd

too much time together usually leads to fighting alright. Tiny things that annoy you about the other person all accumulate when you don't get a break from them. People get irritable when they don't have enough personal space.
Do you call each other names, or put each other down at all when you fight?

Wibbs

I agree that arguments per se are not the problem. It's how you resolve them that marks out the good relationships from the bad. I know couples that argue all the time, but they actually resolve those arguments. I know couples who very rarely argued and they went under, but they didn't resolve those rare problems.

Weidii

It's probably just a case that you're seeing a little too much of eachother. I was in this situation too a couple of years ago, where I really got along with my partner but we spent a mite too much time together, which led to silly arguments.

If you see eachother a bit less it'll make things easier. I'm a strong believer in the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder"

vorbis

have a similar problem with my gf sometimes as well. If we see each other say 5/6 days in a row, we can start to have little arguments. No one says anything nasty per se but comments can be taken the wrong way. I agree, a little personal space is good. The more time you spend with someone the more the little stuff starts to add up.

Marksie

I am always wary of couples who say we have never had an argument. It is rarely becuase they are so tuned they can read each others thoughts, but mostly because one or the other or both is afraid of expressing what they are feeling.

As has been said, arguments are part of the ins and outs of a relationship. They can be a very healthy sign when not taken to extreme.

if teh frequency is increasing however, then you have to see what is lying behind it. Whether its familiarity or lack of space whihc would just need a little time out