Yet another question for the ladies!

OmegaRed

Straight to the point. Working at a pretty high profile client site at the moment, Gonna be here for a another few weeks. Very fancy open plan office and there is this girl who is really attractive that sits about 20 feet from me. A few weeks back she walked in to the common area where I was making coffee, which is a pretty small area. I started some small talk as I would normally do to anyone who comes into that area. ‘Morning, how are you, lovely day isn’t it. Will I leave the milk out for you, are you using it next?’ this kinda small talk. Her replies where standard ‘ Good morning, yes it is, Yes please, That would be great, saves me having to go back into the fridge for it’.

Thing is, since then, we are always smiling at each other. Each time she passes by I look up (because I like to check her out and think ‘man, she is hot’) and she is always looking at me smiling and has this kind of expression of ‘hey, hows it going?’ on her face. Anytime I walk past her I always say hello and I get a hello back.

So question for the girls is would you normally smile at a stranger all the time to show some interest or am I just reading to far into a girl around the office who is just being friendly?

Bendihorse

Eek its hard to know, i would probably smile and be friendly with you after you were friendly enough to chat etc... Its very hard to say yes or no, but i dont think theres any harm in asking her would she like to go for a drink or something.
If you want to be more casual about it you could say that your going out for a few to celebrate leaving and would she like to meet up with you and a few of your friends?

Victor

/checks calendar - its Friday!! You have two choices.

"Hey, you doing anything for lunch (fancy a sandwich) / after work (fancy a drink) / for the weekend (eeeeeeeh .......)?"

Or take-away for one.

Your choice.

c-girl

Just ask her out. You won't know if you don't try. The worst that can happen is that she'll say no but you won't have to see her again in a few weeks anyway.

OmegaRed

It at least means she doesn't hate you or find you obnoxious

Yes, this was also my first thought and is usually where I fail first with the ladies :pac:

Fiona24

Definitly try and ask her what she's doing for the weekend or ask her does she fancy a quick drink after work seeing as its Friday. The other way to see if she likes you is to try and go out in a group maybe for friday lunch. That way if she doesnt like you you've other people to talk to and if she does like you it's still kinda relaxed and your not under huge pressure coz there's other people around. If it goes well arrange to meet her then on your own for a drink or meal

Overheal

Hard to tell OP - sometimes people will smile as a matter of pretense or politeness (even though I find pretense awkward and vaguely rude..)

But hey you have simple choices here: do, or don't. Victors examples are plenty fine.

OmegaRed

Yeah, you guys are totally right.

The only thing is I am actually out of Ireland when I work and leave here at 4.30 on a Friday to catch my flight home. So not here on weekends either

I guess my main problem here is the initial sparking up the conversation. I have no problem asking someone out but its all just been very casual "Hello's" if you get me and I feel like walking up to her and saying 'hey you wanna go for a drink' is a little inappropriate.

Did I mention I don’t even know her name.....

LadyE

I think you should look at the way she treats everyone else - does she smile this way with everyone or just you??

jenga-jen

Am I right in assuming you have this girls e-mail address?

If you want to go for the group lunch option to ease the pressure, send a mail to a few people you both talk to and suggest a lunch out some weekday and see how you get on.

Alternatively, if you're feeling brave, send her an e-mail and ask if she'd like to go for a drink some evening after work (obv not Friday for you)

You'll find it easier to ask the question, avoids awkward face to face moment given that you're working together and (hopefully not!) she'll find it easier to refuse politely if it's not face to face if she's so inclined

Just don't ask her out for a 1 on 1 dinner, personally i think this is a disastrous first date option - too pressurised, nobody eats enough, can lead to super wine effectiveness :S

OmegaRed

LadyE wrote: »

I think you should look at the way she treats everyone else - does she smile this way with everyone or just you??

I'm gonna go with no, it seems to be just me. But hey, what do I know right?

jenga-jen - Nope, dont ahve her email. As I said, don't even know her name.

jenga-jen

OmegaRed- is there anyone in the office, mutual colleague that could provide it?

Otherwise, if you're brave just bite the bullet and go for it. I only voted for the e-mail option as it limits the potential awkwardness! If you don't have to have much contact with this girl (which i'm gathering from the fact she's so far remained nameless ) then there's no harm.

The way I look at it is, do you really want to keep wondering?

Curvy Vixen

Yeah I'd be smiley to someone who works in the office with/near me so I don't particularly think that this shows an interest or not tbh.

You can either bite the bullet and ask her out or maybe on Monday be in the kitchen at the same time as her again and ask how her weekend went. Nice and subtle tactics should find out if she's single or not and if she isn't then I'd drop in that you'd been out with a few mates which shows her you're unattached and then say sorry, I don't even know your name, I'm Omegared....

If this all goes well, then next time you get coffee ask her would she like one too....

OmegaRed

Curvy Vixen wrote: »

Yeah I'd be smiley to someone who works in the office with/near me so I don't particularly think that this shows an interest or not tbh.

You can either bite the bullet and ask her out or maybe on Monday be in the kitchen at the same time as her again and ask how her weekend went. Nice and subtle tactics should find out if she's single or not and if she isn't then I'd drop in that you'd been out with a few mates which shows her you're unattached and then say sorry, I don't even know your name, I'm Omegared....

If this all goes well, then next time you get coffee ask her would she like one too....

I like this advice. Good idea... Thank you!

Gumbyman

Hey,

You only live once. If you don't ask her out you will regret it! Go for it and the very best of luck to you. Carpe diem. Ask her out for a drink on Wednesday. Get her email address and say you are going to break up the week with a few beers after work.

Good man!

Gumby,

seahorse

OmegaRed wrote: »

So question for the girls is would you normally smile at a stranger all the time to show some interest or am I just reading to far into a girl around the office who is just being friendly?

Ask her out; the signals are good. In response to your question above, I make it my business not even to make eye contact, never mind smile, if I think a man I'm not interested in is interested in me. Wouldn't want to be giving him any ideas, you know?

justsomebloke

OmegaRed wrote: »

Working at a pretty high profile client site at the moment, Gonna be here for a another few weeks.

The words high, profile and client would always make me weary of doing anything stupid I have to say so unless there is any clear signs I would advise doing anything drastic and just try and get a group outing with her going, use the "I don't know anyone in the country and have nothing else to do" excuse to try and get a mid week event going

j4vier

be careful now.. i was just reading something on this very recently about the fact that its common for man to misunderstand women signals which could just mean been nice rather than been interested
obviously no harm in trying, but its probably best to expose yourself gradually and always keep it polite :rolleyes:

OmegaRed

j4vier wrote: »

always keep it polite :rolleyes:

I'm glad you put that in there as I usually like to be rude and insulting when trying to see if a girl likes me!:p