Facebook Dating - Tips? Girls I need advice...

LegacyUser

I tried the online dating thing a while ago, one of the pay sites, nothing came of it really... Anyway, recently I've been introduced to the world of facebook dating. There are loads of apps like "hot or Not", "Are you Intersted", "Make new friends". So, I've bene having loads of fun with it recently... the make new friends thing has a great flirting thingy.

Anyway, I've got plenty of flirts from girls myself, and have been sending out plenty, and getting lots of replies... but apart from a small few, none seem to progress more than a few messages back and forward...

I try to be different and interesting... not just saying "hi" but give them a compliment, say I'd like to chat, and ask them to write back as I'd love to chat... Maybe try to say something funny. If they do write back I'll try to ask questions about them to get to know them better, and share some stuff about me etc.

I'm wondering how 'forward' to be. I mean at the end of the day I'm interested in dating, but don't want to suggest meeting too early and scare them off. Most girls, bar a small few, really have feck all to say for themselves. Maybe its better I move on to the ones who are intersting and solciable, but I'm wondering if I have the wrong approach. Maybe the best looking girls get so innundated with guys messaging them its easy to get lost...

Anyway, can anyone offer me advice as to how to best work this for me?

I've heard of guys I kinda know who are getting dates all over the palce, and I certianly would not consider them good looking guys, so they must be doing something different!
Thanks

St Bill

newonlinedater wrote: »

Maybe its better I move on to the ones who are intersting and solciable, but I'm wondering if I have the wrong approach. Maybe the best looking girls get so innundated with guys messaging them its easy to get lost...

There might be a bad attitude coming across in your messages, that you can't be arsed with sociable/interesting girls and just want to chat with good looking girls (they're not mutually exclusive by the way!!). That's just the impression I got from your post anyway

scoot on

newonlinedater wrote: »

I tried the online dating thing a while ago, one of the pay sites, nothing came of it really... Anyway, recently I've been introduced to the world of facebook dating. There are loads of apps like "hot or Not", "Are you Intersted", "Make new friends". So, I've bene having loads of fun with it recently... the make new friends thing has a great flirting thingy.

Anyway, I've got plenty of flirts from girls myself, and have been sending out plenty, and getting lots of replies... but apart from a small few, none seem to progress more than a few messages back and forward...

I try to be different and interesting... not just saying "hi" but give them a compliment, say I'd like to chat, and ask them to write back as I'd love to chat... Maybe try to say something funny. If they do write back I'll try to ask questions about them to get to know them better, and share some stuff about me etc.

I'm wondering how 'forward' to be. I mean at the end of the day I'm interested in dating, but don't want to suggest meeting too early and scare them off. Most girls, bar a small few, really have feck all to say for themselves. Maybe its better I move on to the ones who are intersting and solciable, but I'm wondering if I have the wrong approach. Maybe the best looking girls get so innundated with guys messaging them its easy to get lost...

Anyway, can anyone offer me advice as to how to best work this for me?

I've heard of guys I kinda know who are getting dates all over the palce, and I certianly would not consider them good looking guys, so they must be doing something different!
Thanks

tbh I think you're going about it completely wrong. You're trying too hard. You're posting msgs with the intention of trying to find a partner. I know your intentions are good but try to be yourself. Don't TRY to be funny or think too much about what you're asking. I honestly believe that it is the people who are not completely full on with the internet dating thing that succeed in finding someone. Take it for what it is, a bit of a laugh, and if you meet someone, you meet someone and if you don't, you don't. Stop taking it so seriously, relax, and be yourself.

RedXIV

scoot on wrote: »

tbh I think you're going about it completely wrong. You're trying too hard. You're posting msgs with the intention of trying to find a partner. I know your intentions are good but try to be yourself. Don't TRY to be funny or think too much about what you're asking. I honestly believe that it is the people who are not completely full on with the internet dating thing that succeed in finding someone. Take it for what it is, a bit of a laugh, and if you meet someone, you meet someone and if you don't, you don't. Stop taking it so seriously, relax, and be yourself.

+1

When ya go on to these kind of sites, asking a million and one questions makes you seem like a bit of an oddball. Go online and take the piss out of people. If you want to talk to the hot girls, send them a message, but don't compliment them, EVERYONE is complimenting them. Be original, be different and be interesting. And keep talking to everyone, and don't try to make it sound serious

BubbleWrap85

Try it out on me, send me a message. I don't mind! Wouldn't say no to a date meself

UnregGirl

I'm thinking pretty much the same as the other posters here. You're definitly trying too hard. That can all come across as a little desperate, which is kind of coming across in your post. Just play it cool. Don't take it too seriously or girls will wonder what your after. Failing that, stop spending so much time infront of the computer and go out and meet girls face to face. Its a lot easier for conversation to flow that way, and if looks is really what You're after then you'll get a far better picture than you would from an online profile.