Mate always forgets about my girl needs...

ansionnachclist

Hey there, I've a problem thats bothering me. Whenever I'm with one of my best mates and when there's always girls around and we're on the "pull", my mate always makes sure he gets in there first. Even when there's 2 girls, he always tries to take them both. He's not a player, but not really street wise if ya get me.
And when I do get a girl, and we're talking or kissing, he's always telling me to leave and go home and that she's not good. I do be drunk and he just makes me go. But when he's with a girl, I just let them be and respect their privacy.
It's really really annoying me, I can't have a proper social life with a girl. Is he jealous or something?

ARGH!!!!

Liam Byrne

From that description, it sounds like he's completely insecure and has a need to be seen to be top dog.....

Ignore it if you can, and if you score, ignore any comments; then if he keeps doing it tell him that the roles were reversed last week and you didn't interrupt HIS snog......

ansionnachclist

Well I don't see him that way or it could be possible that I'm blind and dont see it that way.
He's a really down to earth nice guy, great friend but a bit slow on the uptake. I don't see the "Want to be Top Dog" side to him. I wouldn't consider him selfish. Maybe I've totally misjudged him but I'm positive I'm haven't.

The last girlfriend I've had was 2 years ago in 2006.
he's had girlfriends and even fcuk buddies in the past year. I've always supported him. Even before we go out he says.. "So you're on the pull tonight?" I respond with a "Yes" then he backs me up and preps me for the situation ahead. But when I do get the "bird" he doesnt give me space.
Once when I was a with a girl recently, he was hanging around me and her. The girl was telling me to get rid of him because she wanted to kiss me without him looking on. I couldn't get it through to him. After a while I had to tell him to "Fcuk off"!!!!.
He left, but jahsus he was outside waiting and asked "are you done yet". I just got her number and left. Now she's not interested.
Really pissed off about this. I might just take a few nights to go out on me own without him.

judas101

Liam Byrne wrote: »

From that description, it sounds like he's completely insecure and has a need to be seen to be top dog.....

bingo!

well said.

ignore! ignore! ignore!

Miss Fluff

Why don't you just say it to him? Some people, regardless of how nice they are, are socially inept numpties and he sounds a bit slow on the uptake. Tell him straight, he'll probably be mortified and just take it on board for next time.

Sherifu

ansionnachclist wrote: »

Hey there, I've a problem thats bothering me. Whenever I'm with one of my best mates and when there's always girls around and we're on the "pull", my mate always makes sure he gets in there first. Even when there's 2 girls, he always tries to take them both. He's not a player, but not really street wise if ya get me.
And when I do get a girl, and we're talking or kissing, he's always telling me to leave and go home and that she's not good. I do be drunk and he just makes me go. But when he's with a girl, I just let them be and respect their privacy.
It's really really annoying me, I can't have a proper social life with a girl. Is he jealous or something?

ARGH!!!!

You can;

-cut him out of your 'on the pull' adventures
-tell him what you've written here
-don't get so drunk and stand up to him

ansionnachclist

Oh boy, cheers guys. Can't wait till Friday now lol.
I'm just gonna have to explain it to him out straight.

Thanks .

Overheal

ansionnachclist wrote: »

Really pissed off about this. I might just take a few nights to go out on me own without him.

Sounds like a plan, tbh.

Maybe he doesnt want to be the Alpha Male but it sure sounds like he is insecure about something. Hence the constant pull-going and relations. It could be very well down to jealousy when you're successful and he isn't.

AckwelFoley

yea, ur friend sounds like a bit of a dick.

I think u chould play a little more hard to get - ie. a little more independent.

He has no right to tell u to go home.

ansionnachclist

lol all true.
We're both big boys now, we shouldn't need to depend on each other to go home.

jdivision

Sounds like he's trying to be an alpha male and failing spectacularly