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am i mad?

  • 15-04-2008 9:38am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    So I'm madly in love with my boyfriend. Have the usual silly rows but everything's really fantastic apart from that.

    The thing is, I knew that in the past he'd taken a lot of different drugs, experimented and had a lot of fun. It wasn't an issue, to be honest was maybe even a little jealous that I'd never had those mad kind of days.

    But, here is it, I really thought he was past this until a month ago when we were out and he took coke. It scared the **** out of me, not what happened when he did it, just that he did.

    I've always smoked a good bit of weed and so does he and, if I'm honest, would probably try coke once if I got the chance. Just in case anyone thinks i'm just being oversensitive.

    It also made it worse that i walked in on him bent over, cutting a line and the image won't get out of my head. My stomach knots when i think of it, even now a month on.

    The thing is, now I'm really confused. Do I want to be with someone who's into this? Even if it is only done very very rarely?

    Or am I overreacting? It made no real difference to him on the night as I saw it. I think it's more the idea of it. I suppose it's because I don't identify with the desire to do it at all.

    please help. I can't stop worrying about this and whether it's something i can handle.


Comments

  • #2
    Puffin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 86 ✭✭Puffin


    It doesn't matter if it's taking drugs, eating mcdonalds or listening to westlife- if someone does something that you are really, truly uncomfortable with; and that you don't think you can 'handle' you probably shouldn't be a relationship with them.


  • #3
    AngryBadger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,251 ✭✭✭AngryBadger


    Puffin wrote: »
    It doesn't matter if it's taking drugs, eating mcdonalds or listening to westlife- if someone does something that you are really, truly uncomfortable with; and that you don't think you can 'handle' you probably shouldn't be a relationship with them.

    QFT


  • #4
    Femelade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,820 ✭✭✭Femelade


    i dont think you are being over sensitive atall! if i found out my boyfriend was doing drugs, i wouldnt be with him, i wouldnt like it, i would be totally uncomfortable with it and i wouldnt be able to understand why he does it.


  • #5
    Messed Up Mind
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 130 ✭✭Messed Up Mind


    If it makes you uncomfortable, even after a month, then it might be time to rethink the relationship. It's okay to feel uncomfortable with this. Maybe you should also think whether it's the media's perception of people taking cocaine, or if it's your own perception of your boyfriend taking cocaine and what it might do to him that makes you uncomfortable. My own boyfriend did this in front of me for the first time a few months ago and although it did make me feel uncomfortable at the time, I let it slide. Just make sure he doesn't turn into an asshole when he does it.


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