Pregnant in oz

LegacyUser

Hey,i'm 19 pregnant and on the other side of the world alone. I'm on a working holiday visa ,i've no job or money nowhere to turn, i cant tell my family,believe me. Where do i turn to? I'm embarrassed and afraid dont like asking for help/scabbing money.

Nevyn

http://www.pregnancysupport.com.au/

Drift

Hi Crikey. First of all regardless of where you are in the world you're not alone. I'd recommend getting some folic acid supplements at the chemist, regardless of what happens next this is a safe thing to do.

Secondly Australia like almost every other developed country has a number of different free crisis pregnancy agencies. You can find them on google. It's worth reading through each website to pick the one best suited to you because some will have particular agendas with regards to their views on abortion.

Finally I really think that you should pick a family member to confide in. As a guy I've never been in this situation but I know from the experiences of many of my peers that even the most "moral" of parents become very supportive and helpful when they discover their daughter (or son for that matter) is expecting. It may give them a shock at frist but they will very quickly focus on the important things which is your health and your baby's. Like I said though you don't have to confide in your parents yet but you should pick someone. My advice would be a family member who you know you can trust or a very close friend. You can tell them the position you find yourself in and they'll work out whatever assistance you need financially or otherwise.

The most important thing to realise though is how small this planet really is. Despite the fact that you're in Australia you are most definitely not alone. Phones, internet, cheap flights and the celtic tiger have made it impossible for you to be alone no matter where you go.

Best of luck OP. It may not be what you wanted to happen in oz but much worse things can happen.

Edit: Forgot to say please tell the father. It may go very well or he may be a dick it's hard to know but I do think he should be told.

Irishcrx

Hi OP,

Don't feel down you have options, if the baby's father still around, have you told him?. As above I would contact a family memeber and confide in them, also consider the possibility of coming home if your going to be stuck, you'll need all the help you can get and tracking around OZ while pregnant wouldn't be the best for you or the baby. Go to a free advice centre and look at your options.

Goodluck chicken.

Puffin

In Australia every pregnant woman is offered 3 options:

1. To parent, and should you stay in Australia there are both legal and welfare schemes to help you do this
2. To give the child for adoption.
3. To access a safe and legal abortion

Some further information on these:

Parenting
• Even in the (hopefully very unlikely) event that your family and friends will not offer you support, both Australia and Ireland have laws to protect your rights and help protect you from discrimination; along with social welfare systems and schemes to help you parent and achieve in other areas of life

Adoption
• If you are thinking of adopting the child out in Australia, it will probably be raised in Australia. If you give the child for adoption in Ireland, it will probably be raised in Ireland

Abortion
• In Australia, abortion is safe and legal. Australia has a series of medical and counselling agencies and legislation to protect and support you should you choose to have an abortion.
• Abortion is not legal in Ireland. While you are in a foreign country, you do have more options than if you were at home
• In Australia you can only access abortion for a finite amount of time, you need to find out exactly how long, and make your decision within that timeframe
• Irish citizens are not covered by the Australian national healthcare system HOWEVER they are covered for emergency medical treatment. If you are really stuck for cash, you MAY be able to enter the Australian medical system via a hospital emergency room and avoid paying.


As others have said, there are networks around you that will support you. Use them, and then make

the BEST DECISION
for YOU
for NOW

This might not be a perfect decision; or the best decision for someone else; or the best decision for a different time in your life. But at any given moment, all any of us can do is

use the information we have
to make the best decision
for us
for now

Carrigart Exile

Crikey wrote: »

Hey,i'm 19 pregnant and on the other side of the world alone. I'm on a working holiday visa ,i've no job or money nowhere to turn, i cant tell my family,believe me. Where do i turn to? I'm embarrassed and afraid dont like asking for help/scabbing money.

how did you intend getting home if you have no money? If you were to get money from your family to get you home, what's to stop you getting that money now and getting back?