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LegacyUser

Hi all,

I have something on my mind that is starting to worry me, and maybe you can give your opinions on it.

Myself, my boyfriend, my boyfriends best friend and his girlfriend are going on a surfing holiday in August. I can't wait, but I have just met this girl that will be coming along with us, and now Im really paranoid about how I will look next to her on the beach.

Im normally very confident and things like this never really affect me, but there will be a hugely stark difference between us 2 girls. She is a petite, size 8, blonde, astonishingly great looking girl... Im about 5'11 and a size 12/14... and I guarantee that standing beside her I will look like a monster! My thighs and bottom will look like tree trunks beside hers..

I know that I shouldn't compare, and as I said usually I really wouldn't mind, but I just keeping picturing the two of us on the beach and it just really gets me down.

Any opinons would be welcome.... Cheers.

Miss Fluff

Lucy_000 wrote: »

I know that I shouldn't compare,

No, you shouldn't. There will always be someone thinner or prettier or more intelligent or funnier or more fabulous than you. Are you willing to starve yourself to get to a size 8 by August? I should hope you are not. You can't actually change the fact that this girl is petite and you are an Amazonian beauty of 5'11" so don't beat yourself up worrying about something you can't change and focus on enjoying the holiday:)

gerTheGreat

I doubt your boyfriend cares, and neither should you.

jon1981

its nearly 5 months away OP, if it really is bothering you, a couple a evenings a week working out and eating good would make a huge difference.

watna

I bet she feels the same about you. I'm a petite size 8 and would love to be 5 ft 11 Maybe she's worried she'll look like a midget next to you. We all have our hang-ups. The thing is to realise what's important and not let it affect us.

Beerlao

jon1981 wrote: »

its nearly 5 months away OP, if it really is bothering you, a couple a evenings a week working out and eating good would make a huge difference.

what he said. loadsa time.

biko

1 Don't stand next to her.
2 Get a tan and a nice new bikini.
3 You're 5'11 and proportional.

Morrigan

biko wrote: »

1 Don't stand next to her.
2 Get a tan and a nice new bikini.
3 You're 5'11 and proportional.

Ignore tips 1 and the first half of tip 2. The rest is good ^^

Balmed Out

"Im normally very confident
Im about 5'11 and a size 12/14... "
Perhaps this is just what your boyfriend likes in a woman?


"She is a petite, size 8, blonde, astonishingly great looking girl... "
Perhaps this isnt what your boyfriend looks for in a woman.

I can never appreciate what makes us men attractive to women but i just shrug my shoulders and say how bad that shes into me. If you are very worried about this then maybe your unhappy that you dont think your looking your best at the moment. If so then the whole exercise, staying away from comfort foods etc is a good idea. If not then shrug your shoulders and be happy that its you hes into and not anyone else.

BraziliaNZ

You are being childish and pathetic. Grow up and get over it.

p.s. she does sound super hot though

Wibbs

BraziliaNZ Unhelpful posts are not welcomed here. The first part may be loosely defined as opinion, the second part is as you accuse the OP, childish. No more of it please.

chris_oc

Balmed Out wrote: »

I can never appreciate what makes us men attractive to women but i just shrug my shoulders and say how bad that shes into me.

+1, I dont get it either! I think all men are god damn ugly tbh and really dont understand why women would find them attractive in the slightest!..but they do...:p
dont worry bout it OP, a lotta men like tall girls more than short girls anyways, i wouldnt lose any sleep over it.

the eatin healthy and stuff is always a good idea though,try that out, 5 mths is plenty of time!;)

buckfast4me

Just don't go if it bothers you that much.

bobbi

OP you sound like ur body is in proportion for being 5 ft 11'. You have a different body type to this girl and that is NOT a bad thing.

If you want to feel better maybe try eat healthy and do a bit of exercise 3/4 times a week. I wouldn't suggest trying to drastically loose weight you don't need to.

Accept yourself and don't spend the next 5 months worrying about it. You'll end up ruining your holiday over it.

milod

OP, I reckon you're fretting about something that probably only concerns you.

My girlfriend is 5' 11" and is a size 16 - she's gorgeous, and if I was standing in front you and your size 8 friend, the petite blond wouldn't get a look-in. As an average guy, let me tell you thighs and bottom are a good thing! The majority of men prefer a woman with curves and there's plenty of statistical research to back that fact up.

Some guys like petite girls, some like tall girls, some like skinny girls, some like fat girls - beauty doesn't come in one size and one hair colour.

Plek Trum

I'm a regular sufer - trust me, a 5"11 girl, sized 12 - 14 in a wetsuit is FAR more attactive looking than a size 8 girl that yo could mistake for a child! Go and have a great holiday, enjoy it and have fun.

Jimmy Bottlehead

Plek Trum wrote: »

I'm a regular sufer - trust me, a 5"11 girl, sized 12 - 14 in a wetsuit is FAR more attactive looking than a size 8 girl that yo could mistake for a child! Go and have a great holiday, enjoy it and have fun.

Fact truth!

Curvy girls are waaaaay hotter than skinny girls, in my opinion at least.

Predhead

You're clearly conscious of your size/weight whether you admit it or not.

Eat right, get some exercise and never worry about these situations again. Easier said than done but I've been there and it's worth the effort.

Wibbs

What milod, Plek Trum and Jimmy Bottlehead said pretty much. And as milod said, the average guy in my experience prefers more meat on the bones.

Is it just the BF's reaction or is it more how the size 8 blonde will regard you? I mean you know your partner like you for you pretty much. If this is the case, put it out of your head. People make value judgements all the time. It shouldn't reflect who you are.

chuci

you sound totally in proportion for your body type you prob will look way hotter than her in a bikini i wouldnt worry about it really. if you are paranoid it is ages away so you could head to the gym or whatever but since your going on a surfing holiday i assume your already in good shape.just dont worry look forward to the holiday.

The Sweeper

OP, you've got a model's height and I'd say a head-turner's figure at a size 12-14 with all that height.

Walk like you run the beach and the child-midget will be insignificant beside you. If you hunch your shoulders, fold your arms over your breasts and hide yourself, people will look at the more upright girl.

You're going to have to own your body and your height if you're getting into beach-clothes - and if you pull it off I'd say you'll look fantastic.

seraphimvc

watna wrote: »

I bet she feels the same about you. I'm a petite size 8 and would love to be 5 ft 11 Maybe she's worried she'll look like a midget next to you. We all have our hang-ups. The thing is to realise what's important and not let it affect us.

+l

lol OP,relax and enjoy!you think too much!go have a nice sandwich!

MsFifers

Confidence and being happy are the most attractive things!

Get some flattering swimwear, stand tall and work it baby!!!

I'm really tall too so I do understand how you feel, but the worst thing you can do is to start fretting about the trip, and being insecure, covering yourself up, hunching up and generally trying to make yourself tiny by sheer force of will! Just decide - you are fab and you are going to enjoy the holiday!

StormWarrior

Get a spray tan, it will make you look slimmer and cover up imperfections. Go shopping and find a few really great beach outfits that you look hot and feel comfortable in. Right before the holiday, get your hair done and a manicure, you will feel great and much more confident.

Seraphina

StormWarrior wrote: »

Right before the holiday, get your hair done and a manicure

i'd agree with the other stuff, but hair and a manicure before a surfing holiday? total waste of money, don't bother, sun sand salt and sea will ruin them!

OP, at 5'11 you sound the perfect curvy shape for your height. if you were a size 8 you'd be a disgusting rake!!! i bet you'll turn more heads on the beach in your bikini, you have something to fill it with! i bet she's worried about how small her chest is gonna seem without her padded/push up bra!

Dudess

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

You are being childish and pathetic. Grow up and get over it.

p.s. she does sound super hot though

Lol - "childish and pathetic" for feeling bad about herself... and then he tacks on a comment to make the OP... feel bad about herself. Good work there!

OP, if you're a very active person (and surfers usually are) then it's unlikely you have any wobbly bits to tone up. But if you have, why not start working on them now? It's the perfect time of year. Winter's (finally) about to end and you've at least four months to do regular exercise and eat healthy food. Days are longer, weather is gonna improve (surely it will?!), this is ample opportunity to maximise your fabulousness. And don't go by the scales, just the measuring tape.