Head wrecked!!

LegacyUser

Kissed a guy in college a few months ago. Mad into him.

He said that he wanted to go back to friends as he's just recently been dumped and doesnt want to hurt me. He says he really likes me. Was with him once after that, drunk. Ive only ever kissed him, nothing more.

I have a date next week and he knows about it. He said that he was jealous over it.

Over lunch during week with our group, he was going on about how talented I was etc to group, which was nice.

I was moving on so to speak by dating this other guy. Truth is, I want guy in college. Now he's in my head again cos of the jealousy comment.

Am I wasting my time? Sometimes I think he likes me, other times no. I feel helpless over the situation.

He's amazing and I just want to be with him. But I cant make a move again and make a fool of myself.

Please help - any suggestions or opinions would be much appreciated. thank you.

Toots

I'd say give him some space. If he's just been dumped, he may not be in the right space for a relationship yet, even though he likes you. Have fun with this other guy and see how it goes. If the college guy wants to pursue something with you he will let you know. Don't hold yourself back for him.

Wagon

I'd say give this other chap a chance. The bloke in college had his opportunity and passed it up and for good reason too. (I made that mistake before and it ended very badly).

It's not fair for him to say that he's jealous though. And nor is it fair to ramble on about how great you are to everyone in the group (unless he was drinking in which case you can put that down to the booze). My guess is that he likes the idea of a safety net in case he gets lonely one night sometimes people don't even realise they're doing this, maybe point it out to him. Anyway, probably best to leave it and see how it goes with this other bloke.

Mixedup

go out with the other guy, see how you get on, even if its brutal at least you did it, and if nothing else he'll see that you're not sitting around waiting for him.

If he makes more comments bout being jealous, put it to him that you don't want to hear it, you told him you liked him and he wasnt interested, is he interested or not? if he is, he should cop on, or else he'll stop making comments, either way you'll know and you're head wont be wrecked..

you never know you might have a great time with the other guy!:)

LegacyUser

Hey all,

Thanks for the replies. Truth is, im not too fussed about the other guy at all. If im honest, deep down I think I just agreed to the date to get this other guy out of my head.

I think if I knew that he really liked me and that he just needed time to heal, then I would be happy with that. But I dont know if its cos he likes me or as one poster said that he wants me as a security blanket.

Deep down I think he does like me. I just wish he'd ask me out.

I understand that break ups are hard and you need to get over the other person. But if you really liked someone, wouldnt anyone just go for it, rather than let them slip through your fingers? What do you think?

Thanks again all

kittensoft1984

Like Wagon said it sounds to me like the college guy is just giving you enough hope to make you stick around so that when he is ready to pick something up you will there.

dont you think you deserve more than that?

forget about the college guy and go on the date with the other guy....you never know you might have a brilliant time!

Good luck