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breaking up with GF

  • 03-04-2008 11:18pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been going out with my girlfriend now for two years and I have finally decided that I would like to end the relationship after dwelling over the idea for the past couple of months. The problem is, is that even though it has been obvious that we've been distant with each other for the last few months, she thinks we can still work things out. I have almost recently started to resent her, as I don't feel I'm living the care free life that I expected to at this stage in my life. I'm 24 and she's 29 so there is a bit of an age gap. Recently she has bought an appartment and this has become the major focus in her life, whereas I cant (or neither do I want to) relate to that quite yet. Despite everything I just typed I still care for my GF more than just about anybody but I'm just not happy being in what I believe is a serious relationship. I feel that I should be living a little more before I decide to get a mortgage, settle down or even before I'm in that frame of mind. Basically I don't think it is good for either of us if, we are not happy in this relationship but I want to cnvince my GF this to make the break up feel a little softer.
    I'm not too sure what I'm expecting from this post, maybe some of ye posters may have been in similar situations and ye might let me know how things worked out for ye or maye ye could give me some advice.
    Thanks


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  • #2
    axer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,517 ✭✭✭axer


    You will not be able to make it any softer for her so there is no point trying. If you feel the way feel then you did the right thing. Once you start resenting someone it is hard to go back.

    The best thing you can do for her now is to stay away from her and let her deal with it. Cut all communication as it is hard to get the other person out of your mind if they are in front of you or on the phone to you or even texting you.

    Good luck.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    As I said on a different thread, my boyfriend just dumped me after approx. that amount of time. I think it was for the same reason as you have mentioned. It probably is best to just get it over and done with. THe longer it drags out, the more she'll remember the bad stuff you put her before breaking up. I'm sure that if you have cold feet, she probably knows that deep down.


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