Just quit my job

channaigh

Just told my boss to stick her job i was quitting.
Started by me leaving the job for ten mintues to get a sandwich got a phone call with her shouting down the phone telling me to get the **** back to the salon that one of her friends wanted her hair done. Told her not to speak to me like that and she just hung up (boss is my sister by the way) rang her a couple of times she wouldn't answer theneventually she did she scream at me again so told her to shove it.

Now i'm scared have to find a new job but this isn't the first time stuff like this has happened. I feel scared and excited all in one.

sorry for rant just needed to get it off my chest feel better now

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Go out and get pissed,you gotta do it when you quit a job

Agent Smith

jackncoke wrote: »

Go out and get pissed,you gotta do it when you quit a job

seconded

Burnt Toast

"Go out and get pissed, YEA, BLEEDIN RAPPEH"

I'd wait a few hours, let your sister calm down, give yourselves some time to think about it. I've been in this position before, its down to working with family at the end of the day. She probably wouldn't have spoken to you like that, if you weren't her sister, you probably wouldn't have went to get a sandwich without telling your boss if she wasn't your sister..

My sister is a hairdresser and she found it awful hard to find a decent salon to work in, so think about what you're doing here, is quitting really the best option?

zAbbo

What kinda sandwich was it?

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Ham (hopefully)

Jigsaw

I'll guess roast beef & mustard.

On the basis of the facts given I would have done the same. I have no problem accepting discipline but being shouted at like a dog is another.

JuliusCaesar

When your boss is your sister, it's never going to be a normal employee-boss relationship.

dudara

Be serious please posters.

dudara

heavyheart

I love love love my siblings to absolute pieces but would i work with, let alone for them ?? No way in hell.. maybe this is a blessing in disguise a chance for you to get your own job get more confidence etc....

channaigh

well thats what i'm thinking a blessing in disguise. plus i would leave the salon without telling her i was on my lunch was in the salon by myself so just ran down to the shop to grab something. wasn't even going to take a lunch was going to head back to the salon with lunch. don't care if she does cool down sick of the way she speaks to me. bring on the bulmers:)

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If it makes you feel any better i ****ed up in work here today and its cost the company anything up to 500,000 dollars (were a very large american company)
My boss doesnt go shouting at me though!
Now,can you imagine if she was my sister?Thats the way it is and always will,it has its pros and cons

Abi

JuliusCaesar wrote: »

When your boss is your sister, it's never going to be a normal employee-boss relationship.

Exactly. Years ago I started helping out at a beauty salon to back up my other job (needed the €'s at the time). Well similar situation, older sister owns the business. Younger sister comes into work with no lipstick because she wanted to heal a small cold-sore. The older sister tore strips off her in front of the other staff. So I told her she was unprofessional, and told her I was off. You don't want to work with someone who speaks to you like that, and especially in front of others.

OP, it is a blessing. As tempting as it sounds nipping off for drinks sounds, I don't advise it. This is only going to work if you start actively seeking other work. Think about it, you start running out of cash.. sister comes back with apologies because shes really feeling the heat.. you are bound to take the easy way out, and just go back.

Take a stand, and stay out. When you get the new job - then go on the p*ss.

channaigh

am not going back and not going out on the piss have sent my cv off to 3 places so far and left messages with another two so i'll see what happens

Abi

channaigh wrote: »

am not going back and not going out on the piss have sent my cv off to 3 places so far and left messages with another two so i'll see what happens

Fair play to you. Are you going to stick with the same line of work, or are you going to try something new?

Might be a bit scary now, but once you are settled in a new job you will know you've done the right thing. Everyone is entitled to get some lunch, I just think that your sister knew that she could get away with a stroppy fit with you simply because you are related. Working with family / friends should always be avoided if possible, its a very grey area.

Best of luck!

Victor

channaigh wrote: »

I feel scared and excited all in one.

Anxiety and nervousness is close to expectation / anticipation / giddyness.

Slutmonkey57b

jackncoke wrote: »

If it makes you feel any better i ****ed up in work here today and its cost the company anything up to 500,000 dollars (were a very large american company)
My boss doesnt go shouting at me though!
Now,can you imagine if she was my sister?Thats the way it is and always will,it has its pros and cons

Note to self: Don't employ jackncoke.

Seriously though, I'm amazed since I changed from a real job into an office job the difference between attitude to mistakes. Tiny mistakes in my old job would lead to the owner screaming the place down in front of customers. Huge mistakes in the new job lead to an "Oh" from the manager.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

channaigh wrote: »

am not going back and not going out on the piss have sent my cv off to 3 places so far and left messages with another two so i'll see what happens

Well done. Best bit is when you get a new and tell everyone in the family how womderful it is compared to the old one.

Kanoe

when I started working first my sister was my boss too (restaurant manager) and I know just how it is to work for family. even on my rostered days off I would get the call to come in and saying no was not acceptable, I was threatened with my job if I didn't and my parents who had greater consideration for her position, would make me comply. I spent three years doing what I was told knowing full well I would never even have been considered for progression there. I did eventually find something else which paid better and it was a totallly new experience working for an employer who I didn't feel obliged to on a personal level too.

ShawnRaven

I just jacked my own job in on Tuesday as my job description was slowly (but surely) no longer what it was in the description. I called my boss and aired my grievance. Asked him what his long term plans were for me, and i wasn't too happy with the answer. I finished up my days work and didn't go back.

I just took a couple of days off to relax, then banged out as many CV's out as i could (which was tonight), i'm pretty positive i'll get another job. I'd recommend you do the same, take some time out to recharge the batteries, then go on a CV blitz (which you've already started).

The bottom line is not to worry about it, you did what you felt was right as you weren't willing to be miserable just because of your work life.

Life's too short, so live it.
VR!

channaigh

cheers for all the replies have an interview next week so its a start at least. haven't heard a word from her yet. wonder will she ring me

Singer73

Maybe she was hurt because you didn't get HER a sandwich?

Wurly

Embrace it - this is what life is all about. How empowering and exciting for you.

You can do what you like now and will prob get some sh*t hot job now.

Plus you stood up for yourself - good for you!!

Now, go and get drunk, there's a good girl!! ha ha

channaigh

Still haven't heard anything from her send her a text earlier to tell her our aunt died and still haven't heard anything back from her.
I'm really upset over it all. plus can't see any other jobs know its only two days but can't afford to be out of work too long.
I really just want her to say sorry, not that i will go back to work just so we can be sisters again:(

Abi

channaigh wrote: »

Still haven't heard anything from her send her a text earlier to tell her our aunt died and still haven't heard anything back from her.
I'm really upset over it all. plus can't see any other jobs know its only two days but can't afford to be out of work too long.
I really just want her to say sorry, not that i will go back to work just so we can be sisters again:(

You are worrying too much about this. You will always be sisters, regardless of what goes on. The fact of the matter is she has learned to lean on you just a little too much because of who you are to her, and that you are younger. You have nothing to feel bad about here. And as I predicted, you are getting panicky about work.

I think if you stuck with this and went your own way, she will learn to take you seriously and in a completely different light.

If you let her away with this kind of behaviour, you are destined for more stroppy-sister fits. She lost it with you over wanting to get a sandwich..