why would a guy bother to lie?

LegacyUser

Hi,

I'm hoping some guys out there can help me. I met a guy about six months ago. It was a bit of mistake but I was drunk and kissed him, nothing more. I had a boyfriend then and I realise I shouldn't have cheated but our relationship was in trouble and it ended up shortly after.

The guy I kissed, well I don't remember all of the details of that night's conversation. But we were together again and he claims he told me he had a girlfriend too. If he did it was irrelevant because he told me the second time for definite anyways. So I decided to leave things be. But he kept texting and I do like him so I guess I've been really weak willed.

My question is I've been looking at his facebook account and it seems like he's not going out with anyone. I know I shouldn't be I was nosing around on that for ages and he seems to be free every weekend out with friends but never with a girl. Plus my friend has seen him out numerous nights and he's only with the lads. And he texts me lots and is wanting to meet up and has no problem replying indicating to me that he can't be with someone.

I know it's a bit of daft question. But why would someone lie about having a girlfriend? It's confusing me a lot. I've pretty much realised I should leave things be with this guy, he's a bit wierd and only after one thing. I just don't understand why you would lie about something like that?

tbh

maybe he's worried that if you thought he was single, you'd want a relationship?
Maybe he's lying on facebook?
maybe he's a liar?

Zulu

Maybe he's not lieing.

Sherifu

Facebook = Gospel?


Maybe not.

cowzerp

He might like been single.

Mazeire

Unreg999 wrote: »

Hi,

. I've pretty much realised I should leave things be with this guy, he's a bit wierd and only after one thing. I just don't understand why you would lie about something like that?

You've answered your own question there with the bit that I put in bold. Who knows why he said it. Maybe just to get what he wanted and make it clear at the same time that there would be no chance of a relationship. Don't get your knickers in such a knot over someone you aren't going to bother with again.

denashpot

you cant be that this stupid.:mad: his single and he likes it. simple as! he just does not want to commit to anything. why dont just ask him anyway

aye

maybe his girlfriend is long distance?

zuroph

two things, either he's single and doesnt want to enter a relationship with you, just wants a fool around
or
he does have a girlfriend, he's a player, he likes his bit on the side, and his facebook is arranged to make no mention of his gf so he can flirt online, and he regularily goes out without her.

either way, its not great news.

vincenzo1975

someone has told him that girls are more likely to be interested in a fella if they think there is some competition. by him having a girlfreind, any girl he meets will think that he is safer normal and cool to be around. He just has to wring out the old story that they are not quite getting along and she is not really treating him well. Its just a chat up line really.

Text him and tell him your not interested if there is another girl and see how long it lasts. I bet he will text backstraight away and tell you its over between him and her.

AngryBadger

So this guy tells you he has a girlfriend, you then decide to snoop[ all over facebook and have your friends stalk him for you, ultimately coming to the baseless conclusion that he doesn't have a girlfriend and he lied to you about it.

1) Facebook does not equal truth. There's no law saying he has to proclaim his relationship for all the world on his facebook account.

2) Why are you bothering with a guy who told you he had a girlfriend? Most people would assume that was the truth and decide to leave the situation alone, but you decided to conduct an investigation and proxy-stalk him.

I think you need your head examined.

Balmed Out

you told him you had a boyfriend he took it as a sign you werent too on for him and he got defensive and pretended to be in the same situation.

AnonoBoy

If somebody read my girlfriend's facebook page I'm pretty sure they wouldn't know that she had a boyfriend either.

He isn't necessarily lying at all.

You're getting stalkerish on this guy OP. Stop it.

As people have stated - it may be a long distance thing. Or maybe she works weekend nights and he's out with the lads then. Or maybe he just goes out without his girlfriend a lot. Everyone's relationship is different.

ladd19

Ive a girlfriend but my bebo says im married with kids, and my other half on bebo(not my gf) says im her husband with kids, dude ya cant go on facebook or bebo or anything lik that.

Just take what he said at facevalue because it doesn't really matter since ya dont even lik him.

So basicall build a bridge and move on ha ha, only messin

Overheal

He might be wise, and know its best to stay away from an attached girl. Hence the barrier.

Personally if I know a girl is dating someone I squelch anything that might be perceived as flirtatious. This may be his own way of doing the same, especially if the interaction between the two of you is getting a little too hot under the collar.

edit: and if you've left your boyfriend to pursue this one, it would signal the same kind of reaction I think: he may not want to pursue a relationship, as everyone else is saying. And you sound as if you are signaling to him thats what you want.

Trust me OP I was in your shoes just a few months ago. I advise you let it go. They may never mean to, but when you try and pursue someone that doesn't want to pursue back, it can really toy with your emotions. You can PM me if you want to know more.

Wibbs

All of the above plus I think overheal may have a good point as you weren't single either. Let it go, especially if you think he's weird and is only after one thing. Why should you worry about it or is it the case of wanting someone you can't have? Common enough.

Liam Byrne

So, to summarise:

1) He might have told you that he had a g/f the first time
2) He definitely told you the second time
3) You still went off with him

Say, hypothetically, you become his g/f......will you be happy to be the g/f that he cheats on ?

And if he DOESN'T have a g/f, he's playing games.

Get your ass outa there, girl - this one's trouble! You've even said it yourself that he's weird and only after one thing!!!

Of course, from personal experience, lots of girls don't seem to want the trouble-free ones that won't treat them like ****, so maybe you think that would suit you ?

As for the validity of Facebook, Bebo, etc......I know my profile says Single, and for damn good reason - coz I am, but a friend of mine told me that my [most recent] ex's says "Down for whatever".....and even though she [my friend] is younger and knows most of the current lingo even she doesn't have a clue what the hell that's supposed to mean.......

Placebo

maybe he doesnt parade his girlfriend around on a social networking site and alot of people go out with and without their partner. I'm sure youre mates are not stalking him so they hardly know.

leave the guy be please.

AckwelFoley

hey.

Dont look too deeply into things like this too much, he may haves own personal reasons and again, to be fair i dont think he knows you enough to owe you too much honesty. Id leave it be for now. If hes interested in you he will contact you. If he doesnt contact you, dont take it to heart..

People are like flavours, and some people like one flavour more than others, but there are always people that will adore your flavour. You jst need to find them


-Brian