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Relationship in trouble or not?

  • 30-03-2008 5:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    So I’ve been with my partner 3 years now and I find myself more and more thinking how great it would be to be single again. Constantly looking at other people and imaging myself with them.

    I mean it’s not like I’m in a horrible relationship, in fact, it’s the best I’ve ever been in.

    My partner is kind, considerate and always has my best interests at heart, but for lack of a better way to describe things, I’m bored.

    I keep thinking about how I’m not getting any younger and I’ll like to be free a little and explore life more but yet I know I’d miss the love and companionship of my other half.

    I guess I want my cake and eat it. I don’t think this is fair on my partner.

    I don’t know if I should try forget these feelings and try get on with things or do something about it.


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  • #2
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    help?! wrote: »
    I don’t know if I should try forget these feelings and try get on with things

    Yes you should. Good partners are hard to come by and you are just stuck a in rut... Do something to put some spark back in the relationship and count your blessings.


  • #3
    smiler26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 169 ✭✭smiler26


    OP, how old are you?


  • #4
    Dizzyblonde
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    If you love your partner it could just be a question of 'far off hills are always greener'.
    As Sarah said, do something exciting - actually for all you know your partner might be bored too.
    Being in a relationship doesn't stop you exploring life, in fact it enhances it. You have to work hard to keep your relationship interesting so I say give it a lash, it'll be worth it.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm going to go against the grain here with all the previous posts.

    If your bored in the relationship i reckon you should end it. Why? Personal experience says its the best way to go.

    I was in a 3 year relationship with the ideal girl. She really took care of me, worshiped the ground i walked on, all my friends liked her and above all she was a very gentle soul. Money was never an issue, when i was short, she picked up the slack, and vise versa. I reckon it was a perfect relationship. We had the same interests in music, tv and gave each other space when needed. We looked after each other. I couldn't flaw the relationship in anyway really. The sex was great too.

    However, its not that i felt i was taking her for granted, i just didnt really feel that i was in love with her anymore, i did how ever love her dearly. I eventually broke up with her, and she was devastated. I can still hear her breaking down, her voice crumbling. It was torture to me. Even as she asked for us to try again, she couldn't understand why i was ending it. I still feel horrid for doing it to her to this day.

    I have a new girlfriend and im very happy. Shes away for 5 days at the moment, im worried sick about her, even tho shes keeping contact. Thats something i never really did with my other gf. Its not that im worrying she'l be faithful, i know she will.. im just missing her etc.

    This shows me that although i was in a great relationship before, and was happy.. i just could have loved her more.. which is what im doing with this new gf.

    So again, to reiterate my point, if you think that it should be over, that your not being the way you should in a relationship.. if the relationship needs work.. end it. No relationship should be work, and above all, no relationship should be kept together to keep your partner happy, its not good for you.


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