Finding Family

Bloody_Rootz

Hi I am trying to find out how to find my dad, when I was younger my parents split up because he was an alcoholic but they were never married. I am 18 and live in the west but on my birth cert it says he lived in dublin but when i rang looking for his number he is either unregistered or moved..i searched his name in eircom online phonebook but nothing comes up.. Someone suggested personal detective but i have no money for this and I'am just wondering is there any other way i can find out were he lives because I want to meet him I never met him before.. any ideas?

Abi

Does your Mom have any info that could help? I would say she doesn't / wouldn't like the idea given the circumstances of the split.. ?

Bloody_Rootz

She doesn't really want anything to do with it and she doesn't seem to have any info all i have really is my birth cert and an old address that they used to live in..i mean he could still live there but its been 18 years so im unsure and i tried looking for the number for that address but there is none..its possible he doesnt have a phone too anythings possible..

Leeby

I know it's not like you were adopted or anything but the people over on the adoption forum might be able to give you some good advice, as a few of them have experience of searching for their natural parents. Just a thought.

jos28

Does he have an unusual surname? The reason I ask is that if he did, it might be worth spending a day at the Registar of Births, Marriages and Deaths in Lombard St. You pay about €20 for the day and you can search all records.
It's easier to find someone with an unusual name.
You could also try http://www.familysearch.org or http:// www.genesconnected.co.uk
Good luck

Abi

Why don't you write to him? Maybe just a brief note saying you would like to meet with him, leave a contact number too. You could put a return address on the envelope in case hes not there. If are worried your Mom might see it, then I wouldn't. The new resident would probably give it back to the postman.

Just try to bear in mind that your Mom probably wanted no contact for a good reason. A lot of water has passed under the bridge I'm sure, but prepare yourself in case your Dad isn't up to it, or it takes some time for him to reply.

I'm sure he has thought of you too, but bear in mind his life might have changed a lot too. He might have re-married, had more children etc.

Good luck with it anyway

Catari Jaguar

Does your mother have details of his parents? Where their family home is? If you find then they could help you, you are their grandchild after all.

Bloody_Rootz

He isnt irish hes from scotland so no idea about his side of the family my mum doesn't mind me looking for mum I told her I might..Im a bit nervous of writing a letter its something i never done before so I don't really wana do that Iam afraid if i write to him he won't write back and i'll never know..since hes from scotland i dont thing the Registar of Births place will be much help but thanks for info..would it be a bad idea to goto the last known address and see if he lives there or the if anyone there knows were he moved?

Abi

Bloody_Rootz wrote: »

would it be a bad idea to goto the last known address and see if he lives there or the if anyone there knows were he moved?

I think it would be a bad idea to be honest.. If you wrote to him, it would give him some time to think it over. I know you are nervous about writing a letter, but you won't know either way until you try.

If you just landed on the doorstop, he could welcome you with open arms or he may get quite a shock, and both of you would feel very uncomfortable. That is if he is still there..

I still say, put the ball in his court with a letter. If he wants to get in touch, he will. Again it may take him some time, but Im sure he will when he is ready.

Bloody_Rootz

OK abigayle ill try it thanks but if he doesnt reply after a long time ima hunt him down lol

Abi

Bloody_Rootz wrote: »

OK abigayle ill try it thanks but if he doesnt reply after a long time ima hunt him down lol

No probs, best of luck with it by the way.

Jah Luff

Hmm i know this is like 6 months later but i'll update (im bloody rootz)
I went to my dads last address, i didnt write to him. I went there there was a pile of letters on the floor that i cud see trough the window looked like maybe they on holiday? I asked neighbours they said someone just bought the house and they didnt recognise the name..I asked a few of them nobody knew. So now i have no leads nothing to work with only a name..
There must be a way.. I even asked the cops but they weren't alowed give out info like that.. Although someone told me I could view his criminal record? (If he has one) would that be true? Thanks for any replies

buckrodgers

He maybe gone back to Scotland, if this is the case the salvation army do a tracing service and they maybe able to help you. If you google them they have a website. Do you know his date of birth, if so you could get his birth cert and find his parents names and home town from that. You could also try the register of electorates in Ireland and Scotland. Barnardos in Ireland also do a family tracing service, info is on their website. Also try googling his name on the different versions .ie .co.uk and .com Good luck.

spurious

Talk to some of your mother's friends from the time she was with him.

Victor

Have you tried seaching for him on google and ther search engines?

If you seach for "firstname lastname" instead of firstname lastname, it will cut down on the number of results to sift through.

Jah Luff

Thanks alot for those replies! I'll try em all out and see what i come up with thanks!