hating myself

LegacyUser

yeah gonna go unregistered for this one.
Firstly i just want to apologise if this turns into a rant or is so rambly that noone can understand it.
for the last few years (Im 19) i've been feeling really down. it hasnt been constant and i could go for months feeling fine and then it just hits me an is worse than ever.
it usually only lasts for a few days at a time.
mostly this happens for no reason, last week i had a fight with my friend however and i've honestly never felt as low.
I live at home with my parents but they dont know anything about it. my boyfriend does know however and when i told him he was genuinly shocked and he couldnt believe how much i hate myself.
I really do hate everything myself, from how i look, to how i get on in life (EG School work - even though i know that my school results generally aren't that bad, i still feel that i could have done better, despite always doing homework and studying as much as is possiable)
I feel that having this level of hatred for myself really isnt healthy and is beginning to effect other areas of my life, i feel that im not good enough for my boyfriend and have started to push him away and its the same with some of my friends.
Just wondering if anyone has any hints as to how i could try start liking myself or just any advice in general....

LegacyUser

Have to say you sound a lot like me except I'm a guy.

Only advice I can really give you is to find one thing you like about yourself. For me it's my height for God's sake

Other than that, find a friend you can have a good whinge with, feels good to get it out once in a while. Maybe see a counsellor if you wouldn't feel comfortable talkin to a friend about it.

AARRRGH

Do you have anything in your life you can be proud of? For example, do you do any charity work or anything creative like painting?

Lots of girls your age have low self esteem. That's pretty normal.

Therapy would definitely help. If you can't afford it, try to think about what's causing your pain.

****ty parents?
Bullied throughout school?

Exercise will do wonders for your mood and body image.

Basically I don't think this problem will go away without tackling it head on.

So:

Exercise
Therapy if you can afford it
Fill your life with things you can be proud of
And don't wallow in self pity - it's pointless and depressing

LegacyUser

cheers

Wurly

Nice advice DublinDude.;)

Best of luck OP.x