condom slipped off

LegacyUser

Hi All

Any advice on this would be great i am very worried

I was with a girl last night, she is not on the pill and i havnt had to use condoms in years having been in a long term relationship.
Anyhow, the condom slipped off a couple of times, i put a fresh one on straight away of course, and am pretty sure i noticed it as soon as it happened, the ring of the condom was outside her, (sorry crude i know). we had sex a 2nd time and it happened again . I definitely did nt come inside her but i have a sick worried feeling all day that i have done something really stupid.
Should i ring her and offer to take her to the doctor for the morning after pill, she seemed unworried about it at the time once she knew i had nt come inside her.
I cant stop thinking about it and the consequences it would have as we have no future together,
thanks for any help.

Miss Fluff

Call her and air your concerns and offer to pay for the doctor and morning after pill.

PeakOutput

shes more than likely not pregnant but tell her and let her make an informed decision

Mazeire

Wow she's a cool customer I'd have been beating down the doctors door screaming for the morning after pill!:D
Yeah, I think talk to her and offer to with her is a good idea.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies,

Yes tried calling there, hopefully she will get back,

I have been physically sick thinking about it, what was i thinking i am usually over cautious, if one can be about these things, had been with anyone in a couple of years i was so stupid.

It is worrying that she was so cool about it, i dont know what i would do if she was pregnant.

I also very quickly now realize how great it is to be in a relationship, i was thinking of trying to get back with my former long term girl friend, but something like this would put an end to that and so many other things so stupid!

LegacyUser

Unreg0808 wrote: »

Hi All

Any advice on this would be great i am very worried

I was with a girl last night, she is not on the pill and i havnt had to use condoms in years having been in a long term relationship.
Anyhow, the condom slipped off a couple of times, i put a fresh one on straight away of course, and am pretty sure i noticed it as soon as it happened, the ring of the condom was outside her, (sorry crude i know). we had sex a 2nd time and it happened again . I definitely did nt come inside her but i have a sick worried feeling all day that i have done something really stupid.
Should i ring her and offer to take her to the doctor for the morning after pill, she seemed unworried about it at the time once she knew i had nt come inside her.
I cant stop thinking about it and the consequences it would have as we have no future together,
thanks for any help.

first of all dont worry once you did not ejaculate inside her. dont worry i am a girl and i know it happend to me so many times, theres no possible way. there only a few days in amonth were a girl can fall pregnant its very unlikely anyways. so dont worry but be careful the next time. at least u wore a condom.

LegacyUser

thanks for reassurance, yes have gone into panic mode all right prob a bit overboard,

i m in my 30s and have only been with a few girls in my life i never do this sort of stuff, so have my self convinced of the worst, looking around my house thinking of all the changes i would have to make etc

Anyhow she said she thinks all will be fine but will take the morning pill if i want her to, she actually has a prescription for it because she the actual pill does not agree with her so im going to try find a late night pharmacy tonight with her,

What a mess i feel awful if and when she takes the morning after pill i will be very relieved and have been givin a huge kick in the ass
,

owlwink

I was with a girl last night, she is not on the pill and i havnt had to use condoms in years having been in a long term relationship.

I havent bothered using a seatbelt as I have been driving for years:D

Victor

owlwink wrote: »

I havent bothered using a seatbelt as I have been driving for years:D

Please stick to constructive and on-topic advice.

Das Kitty

She sounds like a nice girl willing to put your mind at ease by taking the morning after pill like that, it's not a nice hormonal rollercoaster to be on for a couple of days believe me.

As others before said it's very very unlikely for her to get pregnant if you didn't ejaculate inside.

Weird the condom coming off like that, my feeling is that there wasn't enough lubrication and the friction was dragging it off. Never underestimate the power of lube!

Marksie

Das Kitty wrote: »

Weird the condom coming off like that, my feeling is that there wasn't enough lubrication and the friction was dragging it off. Never underestimate the power of lube!

It can happen. Its happened to me once or twice. I have them on the bedside locker so can get to a new one fast enough. Its not necessarily due to lack of lubrication, it can depend what postions at times or even if there is a slight lessing of the erection.
though at other times it quite happily stays on for an hour or so.

Das Kitty

Happening 3 times in 2 sessions though, surely that's out of the ordinary? Then again nerves maybe and lack of practise.

Marksie

Das Kitty wrote: »

Happening 3 times in 2 sessions though, surely that's out of the ordinary? Then again nerves maybe and lack of practise.

Hard to tell.
The last time was on withdrawl which is more easy to understand as ejaculation had taken place and i wasn't fast enough to grab the base, the ough the codom was outisde when it ahem came off.. It is unfortunately one of the reasons you shouldnt stay inside a partner (which is nice) when ejaculation has occurred when using condoms

LegacyUser

Yes it was down to being out of practice i would say! No lube, and all of the above. It happened when she was on top, i was worried about the 2nd time in particular as i had already come and it would have been still around so to speak when the condom came off, and on my hands etc.

Anyhow, we got the morning after pill last night and she took it, she felt i was over reacting and everything would have been fine, she was angry with me, saying i could take a photo of her taking it as proof, i feel very bad about it, its not how i do business at all. I realize that it is not a pleasant experience for her, i don't think she will be calling me anytime soon.

what a bad experience, and much worse for the poor girl, I have been single for a couple of years and this was my first real adventure back in to the sex thing, not a good start! Doomed to being single i think, thanks for the replies.

dudara

I think that it was fairly silly of her not to want to take the MAP. Even if you did not ejaculate inside her, there is always a chance, no matter how minute. One trip for the MAP is much easier than a trip to the maternity ward 9 months later.

Well done for being responsible and good luck with future adventures

StandnDeliver

im sure if you told her that your anxious and that you respect her and you would not like to put her or you in the position of an unexpected pregnancy,however slim the chance.
maybe offer to bring her to dinner,go on a date,get some romance or else move on from the experience and dont worry too much.

gamblitis

lizerb wrote: »

first of all dont worry once you did not ejaculate inside her. dont worry i am a girl and i know it happend to me so many times, theres no possible way. there only a few days in amonth were a girl can fall pregnant its very unlikely anyways. so dont worry but be careful the next time. at least u wore a condom.

Ok so he might be unprotected inside her for a second but as long as he didn't ejaculate its fine!!!WTF!No possible way!Seriously how naive are you?Stop talking crap.

TouchingVirus

gamblitis wrote: »

Ok so he might be unprotected inside her for a second but as long as he didn't ejaculate its fine!!!WTF!No possible way!Seriously how naive are you?Stop talking crap.

Somebody said what I was thinking - w00t!

But nice job on getting her to take the MAP OP, twas the right thing to do to settle your mind and make sure you didn't get any surprises