Help

LegacyUser

I know I've already posted about a seperate issue, but I need to get help with this.


Ok, well I'm 17, in 5th year in school. I'm a grand student, normal student! I can't describe myself very well!


But just over the last few months, things have been completely knocking me down.
I'd say I cry almost every night, sometimes I don't know why. I'm finding this really hard to put into words.... but it's like problems in my life are completely seperate to anything. I don't talk about them. And when I do, it doesnt make it better. I went out last night, and me being me, downed shots, and when i was lying in bed, i just wanted to kill myself. I know this sounds so dramatic, and I know im not actually going to, but Its like I've lost the ability to even deal with little problems..... Like you get knocked down so many times, you cant get up.

Things sorta getting to me are.. my grandad has cancer (my mums dad), my mums recovering from an eating disorder and im worried that if something happens to my grandad she wont cope, and I dont have a close family either so. Also my group of friends have split in two so I feel like I have absolutely no stability anymore.


Any advice or anything would be appreciated.

snowdaze

perhaps just having someone to talk to you or listen to you would help....
....a night out with friends where you can chat etc rather than just drink might help too - we all need to talk about stuff and sounds like you are not getting to do that..

FusionNet

Just knw you are never really alone, there are lots of people in a similar position to you. It always helps to talk but if you feel you have no one to talk to close to you maybe its time to tern to someone outside your imediate group. The stress people have to go through with school and relationships and family its no wonder you feel like you do, just know that there is always another day and with the right support you can get through anything, trust me i know oh to well.. Dont give up, itsw worth it once you get past the worst of it..

Overheal

Thats a lot to take in at once OP. I feel for you.

The only thing I can really advise is try and seperate yourself from what issues you need to be worrying about. Your first priority is getting through 5th year. I know that sounds callous because its what my folks tell me all the time about college even when I have all of my other problems floating around. But its the truth; you do need to keep your eye on the wheel at all times. When the certs are over and the summer hits you can find yourself plenty (if not excessive) amounts of time to deal with these issues. Every time i've taken my hands off the wheel to handle a personal issue I almost always get burned; especially with school.

If these problems are getting to be too much; I would talk to someone about it. a school counselor for instance. They dont always seem like the most approachable people (at times, even hostile >_> ) but go to them nonetheless, because they can offer you a great deal of help. Leaving Cert is stressful enough without external issues.

I hope it all works out. Keep us informed.

Overheal.

Dizzyblonde

OP please have a chat with your school counsellor or a teacher that you like and trust. You have a lot going on at the moment and it would help if you had someone to talk to.
Try not to worry about things that haven't happened yet - your mother might just surprise you and cope well when she has to. You can't take on her pain, only be there for her. Look after yourself. xxx

kittenkiller

Hi OP>
I felt like that at the start of 6th year. There were just so many things going on and it felt like I had no control over anything and that everything was passing me by.
Fortunately my problems were alot smaller than yours.

I spoke with my parents and my principal and ended up leaving school for a year and getting a job. I stayed doing some grinds in subjects I was strugling with mainly to keep me in the study frame of mind, but worked 9-5.30 monday to friday.
I felt more in control of things and like I could take a proper step back and really look at things.

Maybe you could look into doing something productive that you're in control of for the summer once your exams are over?
17's an age where you're in between everything, you need to take control of your life and give yourself a chance for a while.

Best of luck

Miss Fluff

Downing shots really isn't going to help at all OP so lay off the booze for the time being. Like other posters said, it may also be an idea talking to a school counsellor and discussing with them how you feel.

RedXIV

ah 17, a most awkward stage.
Don't feel too bad about all this lass, as stated above, you're smack in the middle of big changes in your life and that's usually alot of stress. You def need to find someone to talk to, be a counciller, teacher, or if you're not into the "official" side of things, a good mate that knows how to listen. I got told in school once that writing a list of your worries and problems and then simply crossing out the ones you cannot affect is a good way to unload worry but i never tried it, sounds like a good psychological trick though

Anyways, best of luck solving your problems!

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies everyone, I really appreciate it. Sorry I'm only writing back now.

I've sort of talked to people about things like this before, but everytime I do I feel like an idiot the next day, and always feel like I'm overreacting
One of my friends, I know I could talk to if I wanted, but I never know what to say, cause there not going to be able to help me. But I know I do take things out on my friends, and on top of everything that's going on, I jsut feel this absolutely crushing guilt. Everytime I slightly enjoy myself, i feel bad because of my mum and my grandad. It's on my mind 24/7.

Aswell in my family, we don't really talk about things like that, so to be honest I'd rather not go down that route of things.