making my own decisions...

LegacyUser

I don't know if this is really a problem or just a rant.. I just need to say it anyway and hear what people have to say! Basically im a college student, independent, paying my own rent with a part time job. My job was driving me insane lately. The anti-social hours ment that I never got to see my home friends, I got NO satisfaction from it, Im just so sick of this particular job that I find it so hard to be polite to customers when im so unhappy and bored there. So after alot of consideration, planning (and worrying) I finally quit. I made sure Ive enough money saved to pay my rent for the rest of the college year and also have enough money to live on. Im looking for a new job but I do know that might not happen straight away so I think Im pretty prepared... ANYWAY im just really really sick of people going on at me now that ive done the wrong thing.. my parents keep making little comments, aswell as people i work with (or used to work with..). I handed out loads of cvs/application forms and applied online for aload of jobs. Even if it takes a few weeks to get a job, im ok for money until may or so, and even if the pay is less isnt it better that im in a job where im kept busy and feel like im doing something useful and also that Im not neglecting my old friends?? When I decided to move out and pay my own way my parents were doubtful but now even they admit im more independant and mature so why do they have so little confidence in me here?! I suppose I just want any reassurance/advice from people with more life experience than me!!

Marksie

Yep i would pretty much support you on that.
Life and how you live it is about making conscious decisions.

You ensured you had enough moiney to be able to pay your way and then left a job you hate.

In doing this you are setting yourself to be an independent mature adult. Its not the wrong thing but very much the right thing.

Its the nature of parents to worry and think their fledglings cannot look after themselves.

Oh for reference..when i was going to university i picked one at the far end of the country (nearly 180 miles away lol) for that very reason and at 18 was out of the family home.

Overheal

had the exact same problem last year: quit the night job and finished the school year with colors. youre sorted for money so you have nothing to worry about for a while. just keep the applications going around so you have something to pick up for the summer.

Corkgirl21

I definitely think you've done the right thing! It really sounds like you thought a lot about your money situation and how you would cope without a job.

Don't let people make you feel bad for living your life the way you want to. You're not hurting anybody with your decision and it sounds perfectly sensible to me!

Dizzyblonde

I think you've been very sensible about this, and you were right to leave the job you were so unhappy in. Your parents are probably just worried - sometimes parents don't realise just how mature and responsible their children are until they're shown.
Good luck.

Ishindar

OP if u were my kid i would be really proud of your initiative to strike out on your own. At this stage of your life i would be giving u a lot of positive encouragement. u certainly have earned the benefit of the doubth here to make your own decision, fair play!

MissHoneyBun

Well done OP! It's not easy to have the courage to stand up for what you think is right, epsecially when it goes against the grain of popular opinion. Im sure your parents scepticism was borne only from worry and concern for your welfare yet you had the strength to believe in your own instincts. Your sensible approach to this change is commendable and I'm sure your parents are proud of raising you to be an independent, forward-thinking individual. A true example of being master of your own destiny!