Cursed. Help.

LegacyUser

I don't know what to do. Every single thing has gone wrong for me. I feel like I'm really cursed or something. I can't believe how unlucky I've been in every aspect of my entire life over the last number of months. I'm usually really positive. I just want to give up. I've just been knocked back too many times.... help. Does any one have any advice, besides 'talking to someone' or 'confiding in a friend etc'?. Thanks.

Victor

I think you largely make your own luck through hard work.

You don't specify what has gone wrong.

Nevyn

givinguponlife wrote: »

I don't know what to do. Every single thing has gone wrong for me. I feel like I'm really cursed or something. I can't believe how unlucky I've been in every aspect of my entire life over the last number of months. I'm usually really positive. I just want to give up. I've just been knocked back too many times.... help. Does any one have any advice, besides 'talking to someone' or 'confiding in a friend etc'?. Thanks.

Wear 1 item of clothing inside out every day for a week and know that life is change and work to wards making things better for yourself.

Sherifu

Hard to give any advice, as Victor says there's not much to work with.

biko

If you really believe you're cursed see a wise old lady.
Otherwise, try to focus on the positive things around you. It's too easy to see the negative things that happen and feel sorry for oneself.
Can you give examples on what you refer to?

Aurora Borealis

I know where you're coming from. I've had one thing after another go wrong in the last few months. Some of which I had control over, emotional stuff..some of which I didn't, being assaulted. Life can throw some pretty crappy things your way sometimes but only you decide what knocks you down and what doesn't.
I really believe this and it did take a while for it to sink in but it's true and things are a lot easier now I've adopted this outlook.
As cliché as it sounds you really do make your own destiny so get out there and make it because no one else will do it for you!

Caoimhín

I dont really believe in luck but i did have a run of unfortunate incidents over a period of time. Things will come around for you in time. Maybe you have a touch of depression?? That can make everything look far worse than it is, and I know what you said about this, but it might be worth talking to your doctor if you think this is the cause/a contributing factor.

AARRRGH

Thaedydal wrote: »

Wear 1 item of clothing inside out every day for a week and know that life is change and work to wards making things better for yourself.

What?!

OP: If you're continuously making bad decisions, think hard about why that is. If you're getting no where, get therapy.

Stop the bad decisions now rather than hoping they magically go away.

whiskeyman

Sometimes things going wrong can actually lead to opportunities for the better...

Miss Fluff

biko wrote: »

If you really believe you're cursed see a wise old lady.

How do you go about finding one and what do they do?

Overheal

.... You're Irish. I've never met a race of people so immune to bad luck.

he's talking about a gypsy woman Fluffy. My dad went to one - complete skeptic - came out a believer. Must be something in the tea

OP you give us nothing to base a response on here.

RedXIV

try doing very basic stuff to regain the feeling of control. it can be something ridiculous like buying a video game and whupping it on easy mode or you can go for something a bit more meaningful. Find something you know you can make end positively and work from there. build a string of successes and you'll be good as gold in no time

Dudess

Yeah OP, please give us some more info.

If it's to do with career, well I know how you feel. I completed my masters in September 2006 and I'm still looking for a job in that field. Did an interview last Monday and I'm pretty sure there's yet another knockback on the cards for me - you know the way you can tell before you get actual confirmation. I'm becoming a bit of an expert on that so I'm 95% sure I don't have the job.

All you can do OP, is soldier on. I'm sorry. It's not a great answer, but there is no other one. You've gotta keep remembering that you go through bad times as well as good times, and the good times will return. To be fair, they always do. At the same time I reckon there's a good chance I'm destined to be an office lackey for good, but to be fair, I haven't completely lost hope. So hang on to some bit of hope for your own sake...

LegacyUser

in the last 3 yrs ive had my best friend die, my gf of 5 yrs / fiance leave me (only time in life i was ever dumped), ive gotten cancer and arthritus and im still only in my late 20's. At the end of the day though im still alive, i have great friends and life aint bad at all. Give yourself holidays to look forward to, exercise to stay positive, take up some outdoor sports, generally stay active and dont listen to any ignorant idiots who say u make your own luck, karma exists etc.

useful_contacts

givinguponlife wrote: »

I don't know what to do. Every single thing has gone wrong for me. I feel like I'm really cursed or something. I can't believe how unlucky I've been in every aspect of my entire life over the last number of months. I'm usually really positive. I just want to give up. I've just been knocked back too many times.... help. Does any one have any advice, besides 'talking to someone' or 'confiding in a friend etc'?. Thanks.

In what way

reltionships?
Jobs?

We need a little imput OP

BenGunn

caoibhin wrote: »

Maybe you have a touch of depression?? That can make everything look far worse than it is, and I know what you said about this, but it might be worth talking to your doctor if you think this is the cause/a contributing factor.

I really hate that attitude. "Depression" is bollox. Life is pretty crap most of the time, and people who recognise that are observant, not depressed. The word "depression" as if it is some fixable medical problem is used way too often by people.

TEDDYBEAR90

givinguponlife wrote: »

I don't know what to do. Every single thing has gone wrong for me. I feel like I'm really cursed or something. I can't believe how unlucky I've been in every aspect of my entire life over the last number of months. I'm usually really positive. I just want to give up. I've just been knocked back too many times.... help. Does any one have any advice, besides 'talking to someone' or 'confiding in a friend etc'?. Thanks.

I think what the OP is saying is that its not just one specific area of his or her life that things have gone wrong in. When everything goes wrong at once it can be really hard.
Don't give up. PLEASE TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT HOW YOU'RE FEELING

AARRRGH

alwayslookon... wrote: »

in the last 3 yrs ive had my best friend die, my gf of 5 yrs / fiance leave me (only time in life i was ever dumped), ive gotten cancer and arthritus and im still only in my late 20's.

alwayslookon... wrote: »

dont listen to any ignorant idiots who say u make your own luck, karma exists etc.

:eek:

I think it's fair to say your case is extremely extreme!

In general I think it is true that you make your own luck. I recently read an academic study which proved certain people are lucky and others are unlucky. It was always down to some small things (such as being an optimist/pessimist) the individual was doing.

TEDDYBEAR90

dublindude wrote: »

:eek:

I think it's fair to say your case is extremely extreme!

In general I think it is true that you make your own luck. I recently read an academic study which proved certain people are lucky and others are unlucky. It was always down to some small things (such as being an optimist/pessimist) the individual was doing.

I'd have to disagree with that statement. I find that when I'm the most optimistic about things the more likely they are to go wrong

Dudess

alwayslookon... wrote: »

in the last 3 yrs ive had my best friend die, my gf of 5 yrs / fiance leave me (only time in life i was ever dumped), ive gotten cancer and arthritus and im still only in my late 20's. At the end of the day though im still alive, i have great friends and life aint bad at all. Give yourself holidays to look forward to, exercise to stay positive, take up some outdoor sports, generally stay active and dont listen to any ignorant idiots who say u make your own luck, karma exists etc.

Well doesn't that put things into perspective! I know a handful of other people who have been dealt a similarly tough hand in life and they are utterly inspirational. Fair play to ya, already I'm realising the job thing isn't everything. I've wonderful friends and a great family and that's enough.

BenGunn wrote: »

I really hate that attitude. "Depression" is bollox. Life is pretty crap most of the time, and people who recognise that are observant, not depressed. The word "depression" as if it is some fixable medical problem is used way too often by people.

But maybe the OP does have depression? It's an illness and one of the classic signs is hopelessness and extreme negativity.

TEDDYBEAR90 wrote: »

I'd have to disagree with that statement. I find that when I'm the most optimistic about things the more likely they are to go wrong

+1. You have to prepare yourself for the worst too, otherwise you'll have disappointment after disappointment.
It's as if there's some sort of force that, if it were a being, would probably say "they're really happy and confident things will go to plan... well I'll teach them not to be so cocky - MUHAHAHAHAHA!" I definitely believe in fate and destiny and all that stuff.
That said, wallowing in misery isn't gonna do you any favours either. I think being positive isn't thinking "yeah, it'll all definitely work out", it's more making the best of things, seeing the positive in things rather than the negative, remembering the blessings you do have etc.

Wreck

Op, there is no such thing as good or bad luck, or curses etc. Things just happen, and in an attempt to make sense of the world we interpret them in a certain way. My advice would be to do whatever you can to make your life improve. Decide on your goals and set about achieving them. Things may never get any better for you, but at least if you actively try to influence your future you have much better chance than if you simply wait for your 'luck' to change.

One thing that I would almost guarantee will improve your life is regular excercise (provided your not excercising already), even a brisk 30 minute walk will work.

BenGunn wrote: »

I really hate that attitude. "Depression" is bollox. Life is pretty crap most of the time, and people who recognise that are observant, not depressed. The word "depression" as if it is some fixable medical problem is used way too often by people.

Depression can be a serious problem, and for you too belittle it like this is a disgrace.

Liam Byrne

I've had a really tough few months too, with family, home, finances, job and relationship all having some major changes and in some cases a complete hammering (my niece died and a potentially great relationship went completely arseways for no apparent reason and nearly affecting my sanity)

It felt like one more small thing would be enough to push me over an edge; fact is, though, I'd felt like that over Christmas BEFORE my niece died and when she did it hit me very hard but - surprisingly - didn't push me over the edge.

So I've felt similar to the above, but I'm coming out the other side; not going to equate what you went through because you haven't said enough, but I do know the feeling....family, home, job, finances & relationship are probably the five big things, and they all got a hammering. But I've gotten through it; true, there are occasional/regular bad moments and bittersweet memories and nostalgia and "why" and "what ifs", but they're gradually waning from affecting my life to being occasional momentary lapses.

Take control. Make changes. Hopefully you can pull through too. Best of luck!

Zen 2nd

givinguponlife wrote: »

I can't believe how unlucky I've been in every aspect of my entire life over the last number of months.

To beat "bad luck" all it takes is hard work and guts! If something unlucky happens, strive to be made stronger by that event and gain experience from it so that your not phased as much when it happens again.

davyjose

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