Working with women

thejuicemaster

Hi All,
I’m looking for some work advice, I’ve just started a new job which is great, however all my colleagues are female and I’ve never experienced working extensively with women before. I was wondering if anyone out there has some good rational advice on how to not only work alongside but also share jokes, witty stories and, well establish an excellent working and personal relationship in an office of this kind.....please help
A lonely office boy

NoQuarter

well if your trying to devise a plan to do it your gonna fail for starters!

just be yourself, if your not a witty person your not a witty person ya know!

but if you can crack the jokes id say keep it to a minimum, as in dont overdo it, if your gonna be working with them for long then dont try rush getting to know them, there is no rush, just be down to earth and chilled out and give a little bit of personality every day so you dont get old fast!! try be the sound mysterious bloke, keep them guessing!


PS, you lucky git!!!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Flirt...?!

Seriously, though, listen. It'll give you the best idea of what wavelength these women work on. Failing that, football.

Spud83

thejuicemaster wrote: »

Hi All,
I’m looking for some work advice, I’ve just started a new job which is great, however all my colleagues are female and I’ve never experienced working extensively with women before. I was wondering if anyone out there has some good rational advice on how to not only work alongside but also share jokes, witty stories and, well establish an excellent working and personal relationship in an office of this kind.....please help
A lonely office boy

Start watching all the soaps, celebrity shows, reality shows, the "talent" shows. Nah only joking. Just be yourself, if you try to be someone body else you will get found out soon enough. Amazingly I found most woman can see through bullsh*t quicker then men.

You have only just started there, in any new job no matter waht kind of people are there it takes time to "fit" in and get the feel of the place and build up realtionships.

Just try be pleasant, say good morning in the morning, make sure to say goodbye in the evening, if you are making a cup of tea or going ot the shop at lunch make an offer if anyone wants anything while you are at it. But these are things to do in any new job. Oh obviously dont go making sexist jokes or ordering them into the kitchen to make you tea.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Play it gay?

Wibbs

Pretty much the same as any work environment. Get a feel for the place first. In general I prefer dealing with women in business TBH. They're less single minded(yet get the job done) and chat more, but that's just me.

CrazyNoob

Same as any work place,
except get logic and reason and put them in the bin,

also talk about trivial soaps and other lowest common denominator TV trash such as big brother :D:D:D


Seriously though, there is no plan to get on with people just be yourself - you cant be anyone else

Bendihorse

I would say dont get drawn into friendship with if you can, other wise you'll get drawn into bitchiness if anything happens among them.

Mikel

Invest in some earplugs

Buzz Buzz

No matter how much you want to do it... dont sleep with any of them!! Does'nt matter how stunning 'she' may be, I can guarantee you it is'nt worth it if you want to stay as the flavour of the month.

JDLK

Do NOT, I repeat DO NOT get involved in the "bitching behind her back" stuff that women love to do- stay neutral at all times

billymitchell

I'm working in a place where its 90% wimmin. In fact nearly all my jobs have been in have been female dominated!! People might say be yourself, but dont do that straight off the bat, all it takes is one or two wagon's to not like you at the start and the whole place will have the daggers out in no time!!

Just be curteous and pleasant at the start, it might be stating the obvious, but some people need to be told that. After a while you'll get the lie of the land and get a feel for what would offend people and what wouldnt offend people. Once you know that, you are away in a hack

Oh yeah, try keep it in the pants as well!! If you start going out with someone it might be ok. But if it gets out that you were with a few different ones, no matter how nice you are, it could get very lonely in there!! Unless you are hung like a horse and a dinger in the sack

thejuicemaster

thanks people, all great ideas as bateman says "i just want to fit in" I'll let you know how it goes over the next few weeks...

dodgyme

I worked with a bunch of women before. They made my life difficult until they accepted me, but up to that they were horrid. My missus works in an office with nearly all men and also would rather a few more of female variety in there also.

Overheal

1) dont play it gay. No need.

When I first worked it was with 2 womens. it was grand. One was my age one was a mum it was a great gig. You learn to tie in with their gossip and they learn to tolerate your love of sports/gore/violence/computer-gadgetry.

seriously theres nothing to think about just be yourself and settle in.

Mighty_Mouse

Women have smaller brains than men so talk slow & loud to them.
Constantly bring up topics like housework, knitting, bingo and babies.
Finally a woman will get really annoyed if she isn't offered the chance to make the tea/coffee for you.

Stick to the above. You'll be grand.

BaZmO*

Mighty_Mouse wrote: »

Women have smaller brains than men so talk slow & loud to them.
Constantly bring up topics like housework, knitting, bingo and babies.
Finally a woman will get really annoyed if she isn't offered the chance to make the tea/coffee for you.

Stick to the above. You'll be grand.

LOL.

FFS, are people really serious about the advice they're giving or in fact, is the OP being serious. Christ! It's women you're working with they're hardly another species. Just be yourself and you'll either be grand or you won't. You can't make the whole world like you.

Spud83

Mighty_Mouse wrote: »

Women have smaller brains than men

You're just a woman with a small brain. With a brain a third the size of us. It's science.

ems_12

I agree with Bendihorse and JDLK - don't get stuck in any of the "clicks" or groups, even if you get along with a certain group better than others - females are worse for these groups in my experience. Then you won't get involved in any bitchin that goes on.

Otherwise it's all the same - the conversation won't always be about last night's football but there'll always be the ppl you get on with and a few you don't, just try your best to get along with everyone ::D

thejuicemaster

the only thing i can talk about is football & beer they never listen to me and sometimes i cry in my sleep and wet the bed even through my pj's

Gregor Samsa

thejuicemaster wrote: »

thanks people, all great ideas as bateman says "i just want to fit in"

Yeah, but don't go doing anything else he did (especially if you've read the book :eek:)

thejuicemaster

what.....like some kind of "mergers and acquisitions" type of dealy

gotta go and return some vidoetapes now

Puffin

should we be warning your colleagues about you?

biko

JDLK wrote: »

Do NOT, I repeat DO NOT get involved in the "bitching behind her back" stuff that women love to do- stay neutral at all times

+1

Overheal

Oh god yes: never take sides.

Miss Fluff

Be yourself OP, you will be fine.

mikemac

Yep, don't get involved in any bitching sessions EVER.

And be careful when you start. Lads often take the piss out of each other, their football teams, their dodgy backgrounds, etc just to have a laugh. All lads do it, it works fine.

Women might not find that funny at all. I've lost track of the amount of times I've cracked a joke and ended up offending the girls on my team. And I'm normally so quiet

So be careful OP