Should I??

LegacyUser

Two years back I was working with this guy (I'll call him X). From the very first day I started we were getting on great, we were laughing and joking all the time. He was the type of guy you could tell anything, whoever I only thought of him as a friend and was convinced he thought the same of me.

Then few weeks later strange things start happening in work -people were gossiping and I had to face few conversations with my management.

It all got very clear one day when I was having yet another conversation with my manager in regards to what was heard about me. I told him it wasn't true and if he didn't believe me he could ask X as he was one of the supervisors in the place. How surprised was I when the manager told me it was X himself gossiping about me to make me run to him looking for support!!

When it all got clear I went over to X and asked him to explain what was going on, he didn't even speak to me and then he told everyone in work I was sexually phrasing him.

Even tho nobody believed it was true I was asked to resign.

Now X is working in the place I am customer in. Should I go over and tell X's manager what sort of person he is, or should I just forget the past and get on with it??

What do you think??

Thank you

MIN2511

Revenge is very sweet, especuially if you can taste it. Reporting X would bring trouble for him, is it really worth your bother?
It seems you are not over the whole issue, i think forget it and move on! If you see him, say hello and go about your business... no need to stir up old wounds

King of Kings

SpringDaisy wrote: »

I was sexually phrasing him.

i know i should get out more - but whats that?

and yes destroy him

FX Meister

Wow, sounds like the inner workings or Conduit. Dont say anything, no one will appreciate it and it can only do you harm

themadchef

My advice would be to forget about it and move on. Though not easy, i understand.

If you follow your head and do this, there is the possibility that he can swing this round to make you look like a ....well i hate to use the word stalker..but im sure that's what he'd call you.

Try to remember, he's the one with the real issues here. How low would you have to be to say something like that about a colleague? Worse still you lost your job over it. I know pay back would be lovely, but frankly, it's not worth it imo. Keep your head held high. He must be dying inside.

Mrs_Doyle

I can understand where your coming from, I had a freak of a boss once who treated me very badly, and I was incredibly tempted to make trouble for him.
I could have done it, but it wouldn't have changed anything, and I was also afraid that somewhere down the line I might get the reputation of a bit of a **** stirrer.

Revenge would be nice, but if I were you I would let people come to their own conclusions about this guy.... if you give him enough rope, he will eventually hang himself.

SarahSassy

The only reason I think you should have a quiet word in the boss's ear is in case he pulls the same stunt again and someone else feels bullied into resigning....

Its often the case that the friendliest/ most foward people in a new work place are getting buddy buddy with you for a reason... I always take time to get to know all my colleagues and make my decisions after a while... You often find the friendliest ones are not necessarily the best friends for you....

You could always take a case against the company for bullying and them forcing you to resign. The burden is on them to prove that you were not bullied.... Not saying you go after them for the money but the principle.

Sherifu

SarahSassy wrote: »

The only reason I think you should have a quiet word in the boss's ear is in case he pulls the same stunt again and someone else feels bullied into resigning....

Its often the case that the friendliest/ most foward people in a new work place are getting buddy buddy with you for a reason... I always take time to get to know all my colleagues and make my decisions after a while... You often find the friendliest ones are not necessarily the best friends for you....

You could always take a case against the company for bullying and them forcing you to resign. The burden is on them to prove that you were not bullied.... Not saying you go after them for the money but the principle.

Good advice.

RedXIV

if you want revenge, just keep going to X's place of work and be very happy and smiley.

1) You will appear to have bounced back to a perfectly happy state
2) He'll start freaking out if your nice to him, i know i would
3) Let him crack under paranoia if he see's you talking to staff, even if its asking the time.

and all you had to do was go in and be extra civil, easy!

dr.bollocko

I wouldn't play it any way at all until you figure out what you are up against. You can already tell this guy has a strange way of working things out. And he has bested you before by essentially pulling rank. If it was me, I would get him the hell out of my life, and not worry about revenge, because trying to gain revenge with a guy as nasty as this is just a vicious path full of misery for the both of ye.

Aurora Borealis

personally I'd let it go. you are a customer not staff and as such have no dealings on a personnel level. Just be glad you no longer work with such a twat!

togster

Be the better person. Like a poster said up above just act like he doesn't exsist.

cowzerp

Tell his boss, he screwed you, screw him back-revenge is sweet. :pac:

Ginny

FX Meister wrote: »

Wow, sounds like the inner workings or Conduit. Dont say anything, no one will appreciate it and it can only do you harm

+1 to both comments

lordgoat

A eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth and soon the whole world is blind and toothless.(MG).

My advice is to move on, with the knowledge you did no wrong and he is an asshole.

cowzerp

lordgoat wrote: »

A eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth and soon the whole world is blind and toothless.(MG).

No she got sacked and his job will be onto him, no eyes lost!
he deserves worse to be honest!

Moojuice

Get a friend to become a customer of this company, get them to deal with this guy and then complain that he made very inappropriate comments. Just make sure that he never finds out that she (or he) is a friend of yours.

Splinter

Moojuice wrote: »

Get a friend to become a customer of this company, get them to deal with this guy and then complain that he made very inappropriate comments. Just make sure that he never finds out that she (or he) is a friend of yours.

im sorry but i find that a little petty and inappropriate.

i'd live and move on to be honest

Super Sidious

I dont think it would do any good, whos to say the new manager isnt his best friend? Or it would all be mad a joke off if some ex of his came in ranting about him...

On the other hand he could have done something like this in his new place, and this would justify suspicions about him to his new employers...

If your gona serve it serve it cold!

Ickle Magoo

I wouldn't. I like to think Karma will get them sooner or later. I think you should move on. You sound angry & bitter, which is understandable but I'd just use it as a learning exercise that you can't tell everything to someone you work with & move on...

pickarooney

Am I the only one who can make absolutely no sense of this thread?

Ickle Magoo

pickarooney wrote: »

Am I the only one who can make absolutely no sense of this thread?

OP thought X was her friend, X spread rumours, OP left job. OP is customer @ X work & wants to get their own back by telling X's boss what they are really like...I think.

pickarooney

And where does the 'phrasing' and forced resignation come into it? It sounds like it may be pretty serious.

Sherifu

That's pretty much it Ickle Magoo. Yep, sounds like it was messy.

Ickle Magoo

I don't know what sexually phrasing someone is - I took it that now X must have left too & we are talking about a different boss...

talullah

i've never heard of "sexually phrasing" before!!!

he sounds like a complete asshole..and as if he was just looking for attention..be it in a weird and twisted way!!

hes a freak and karma will come round and bite him in the arse sooner or later.

did he leave his last job? maybe people figured out what he was really like and he could have been forced to leave!!

LegacyUser

Yeah, he left too, either was forced or left himself not sure. He was working in some other place before I met him in the one I'm customer in. I'd say he is still on probation period. He saw me walking past looked like he just saw a ghost, knows bloody well what he's done. Thing is I just don't wanna go in to that place since I saw him there.