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not sure how i feel

  • 11-03-2008 1:01pm
    #1
    me2gud4u
    Closed Accounts Posts: 109 ✭✭


    mmm where to being. I have been goin out with a guy for a yr and almost four months and whilst it has been rocky at times i finally felt in the last while that things were finally beginning to come together. But lately I'm not sure. He seems incredibly flirty with some of the girls on his college course, one girl in particular but yet when I ask him about her he says i'm his girl and that he is just friends with this girl from college and that that is all. I always seem to be the one who has to iniate contact too like i would not hear from him at hours on end if I were not to send him a text. And yesterday he said his reasons for not texting where because of a hand injury. Today I rang him and he could not talk because he had a driving lesson (which is understandable). But there is always something. He is a lovely guy, we get on great and I find him so good-looking and he tells me the same. But I'm not sure if he really means it when he says he loves me........................ Am i just there for sake of him being able to say he has a girlfriend. I don't wanna break up though as he is my best friend and i'm lost without him, just I don't get things he does at times.

    Thoughts.................


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  • #2
    Mazeire
    Closed Accounts Posts: 453 ✭✭Mazeire


    me2gud4u wrote: »
    and that that is all. I always seem to be the one who has to iniate contact too like i would not hear from him at hours on end if I were not to send him a text.
    Thoughts.................


    Hours???!! Whole hours???!! Oh goodness no!! Sorry OP, but you sound totall OTT and posessive. Looks like he has a life outside of your relationship and you resent him for that.


  • #3
    gerTheGreat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 871 ✭✭✭gerTheGreat


    me2gud4u wrote: »
    He seems incredibly flirty with some of the girls on his college course

    It's ok to flirt, just as long as he isn't doing anything else. Does he flirt with these girls infront of you? If he does, you could ask him not to. Tell him that you don't feel confortable with it. He may not even realise that he's flirting, especially if it's suttle?
    me2gud4u wrote: »
    I always seem to be the one who has to iniate contact too like i would not hear from him at hours on end if I were not to send him a text.

    Some guys like their space. Personally, I can be like this too. Someone not texting you all the time isn't necessarly a bad sign. Does he ever text/ ring you?

    Have you spoken to him about this? Sit down and calmly explain how you feel. Try not to make it sound like it's all his fault and that he's abonding you, etc. as this is more likely to get a negative response.

    Ger


  • #4
    whiskeyman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,564 ✭✭✭✭whiskeyman


    me2gud4u wrote: »
    mmm where to being. I have been goin out with a guy for a yr and almost four months and whilst it has been rocky at times i finally felt in the last while that things were finally beginning to come together. But lately I'm not sure. .
    .
    .
    .
    Thoughts.................


    I can give you my thoughts from that alone.

    Been seeing my g/f for just over a year, and it's been non-stop 'honeymoon' period bliss. Sure, the odd snap at something, but nothing that's lasted overnight.
    Do you think it should have been like this during the early stages??
    You both should be having the time or your lives and enjoying each other.

    Have you had other 'proper' relationships?


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