Friends

Lipperes

Hey all.
Well I just wanted to see what people think about this.
I have a couple of friends who i think are a bit self-absorbed. I mean this in the sense that if I meet up with them for coffee they seem to just talk about themselves all the time.
Anyway I have not been feeling so good for about 4 months, mainly my job is getting me down and don't have a whole to say for myself at any rate, but all the same I still feel like its unneccessary for someone to constantly talk about their lives.
So this brings me to a place where I sort of am not bothered about meeting them, one of my friends in particular, I was worn out listening to her because it was quite repetitive.
Its not all one-sided of course, maybe they keep talking because I don't say much but I was just wondering if anyone has ever been in this position where they felt that they wanted to distance themselves from their friends for this reason?

flibbertyjibbet

The next time you ring them,make sure to tell them expressly that you're feeling really down and would like to meet up to talk about how you're feeling. You could drop into the conversation that you feel a bit isolated because you dont get to talk about how you're feeling and what's going on in your life too much.
Be sure that you don't come off as too angry or agressive when you're telling them this, because that'll make them feel defensive and it might just end up in an argument, you should be clear but calm, work out in your head what you will say beforehand, maybe writing it out would help you get your thoughts in order. If you tell them this, and their behaviour still doesn't change them I say drop them, because it sounds too one sided.

Talliesin

Lipperes wrote: »

mainly my job is getting me down and don't have a whole to say for myself at any rate

Well, "my job is getting me down" seems like one place to start.