To dump or not to dump that is the question?

LegacyUser

Hi all,

My head is in a mess, i'm just looking for other peoples opinions on what they would do.

On friday night I found messages my boyfriend sent two different people looking for drugs. I was in shock (I wasnt sneaking through my boyfriends phone, we both look at each others) I am very against drugs and he knows this because of stuff that happened to a member of my family. He knew from the minute we started going out that I am 100% against drugs and would not go out with someone who had any involvement. We are together 3 years so i'm sure by now he knows my feelings on this matter.

I asked him what it was about and he said that he was getting it for a guy he works with and giving it to him. I went mad, I said if you are getting it from someone else to give to someone that makes you a bloody drug dealer!!! He said he was only doing a favour for someone!! I said to him that I was not going to be with him if he was going to act like that. He swore blind that he wouldnt do and agreed to text the guy to say he wasnt going to get it for him. He apologised to me. I said to him, how can I know that I can trust you after this? He told me of course I could and he agreed he wouldnt have anything more to do with the people he was going to get drugs off of. The two guys he texted are brothers. So I said fair enough we'll see how things go.

On Sunday he informs me that he gave brother 1 a lift, amazingly enough brother 1 had sent back a message saying he couldnt get drugs unless he got a lift to this place. I went mad but my boyfriend said that he couldnt pass him on the road so I said fair enough and let it go because I didnt want to fight.

Things were grand yesterday. he rang we got on fine.

This morning he rings me to tell me that brother 2 has moved into his house with him. A few months ago brother 2 was living with him. Refused to pay the rent on numerous occasions, left the house without paying rent or esb bills and left my boyfriend in trouble with the landlord. i lent my boyfriend money to get him through that time. That was 3 months ago and my boyfriend never got any money off brother 2. Brother 2 left all his stuff in the room never took a thing.

I was so mad when my boyfriend rang to say he was letting him back to stay, he owes him almost a thousand euro. He let brother 2 back in and he didnt pay him a cent, he said he'll pay him next week. I seen red, I lost my temper because my boyfriend had agreed not to have anything to do with this druggie family and now he is living with him!!! I am being unreasonable. I just feel my boyfriend has no respect for me whatsoever. I just dont know what to believe. I said to my boyfriend if he lets brother 2 stay there then we are finished. I haveny heard from him all day. I did get a message to say it was nothing to do with me.

I am with my boyfriend 3 years, I do everything in my power to help him and I just feel totally betrayed. I dont know if I should just walk away now or try fix this. I love him and this seems so out of character. He has always been so law abidding and now it just changes in a matter of days. I am sorry for the long post. My head is just wrecked, I'm thinking am i just old fashioned or am I right to stick by what I believe in and how do I know I can trust him when he doing this like this. For all I know it could be going on longer even when brother 2 was living there before.

Thanks for reading. Sorry its so long.