Didn't last the distance

needhelp200 · 03-03-2008 3:19pm #1

Basically at the weekend i had sex with my girlfriend for the first time and it all was finsihed a bit too soon.. I'm 25 and have had other girlfriends and loads of one night stands and this hasn't happened to me since i first had sex at 18.. I was nervous cos it was the first time with her and waited a long time for it too.. Usually if i have sex with a girl for the first time, i like a few drinks first to settle the nerves especially if its someone i like but this was done sober and i was thinking too much... What can i do to calm myself down and prevent this... If i only had 2 drinks i could go all night long as it relaxs me i think!! Any advice out there... I dont want to have to have a drink before i have sex with her!!!

aye · 03-03-2008 3:22pm

i'd say you'll relax naturally over time as you get to know her sexually, so i would just go with the flow on it and wouldnt worry too much about it.

cowzerp · 03-03-2008 3:23pm

play with yourself before you go for it next time and you'll last longer
(and relax too)

john_aero · 03-03-2008 3:24pm

relax and remeber it happens to everyone, you wont last long all the time so plenty of other areas to make it up to her and dont stress over it as it will only make it worse. talk to her about it and you will both be able make it brill

Sherifu · 03-03-2008 3:26pm

Take your time with the build up. Thinking too much and being nervous seem to be your main problems. Relax into it.

john_aero · 03-03-2008 3:30pm

as they said just go with the flow. talking about things with your OH also makes it much easier and relaxed as you know the other persons limits, expectations and pleasuers

needhelp200 · 03-03-2008 3:34pm

I'm not too sure what the problem is or if its just a matter of relaxing.. I had to wait a few months and have been **** alot in that time... I know the next time i have sex with her i will be nervous so i think i better have a drink to get a few good rides in and then i might feel more relaxed then.. I dont know!!!

john_aero · 03-03-2008 3:37pm

drink actualy makes you less able to work. try talking about it, i did and worked wonders

nevaeh-2die-4 · 03-03-2008 3:43pm

i have had other girlfriends and loads of one night stands

talk about blown your own trumpet

john_aero · 03-03-2008 3:45pm

hahahah true true

Susannahmia · 03-03-2008 3:52pm

I wouldnt worry about it. You were probally just nervous. Next time should be grand if you just take it slow.

needhelp200 · 03-03-2008 3:53pm

Might have come across as been cocky but just looking for advice for my problem!!

john_aero · 03-03-2008 4:09pm

no worries it a male thing to do anyway so you wont feel low.

just relax, donk get drunk and talk to her about it. chances are she is nervous too

marthaclark · 03-03-2008 5:53pm

i think its great. least she knows she turns you on!!

as long as you're not leaving her completely unsatisfied I wouldn't worry about it!

Overheal · 03-03-2008 5:58pm

nevaeh-2die-4 wrote: »

i have had other girlfriends and loads of one night stands

talk about blown your own trumpet

STI examination FTW.

TequilaMockingBird · 03-03-2008 10:54pm

View your initial 'ride' as the support act, which will warm up the audience for the Main Act!

Enjoy it!

Talliesin · 03-03-2008 11:27pm

First, drink less. No more than maybe a glass and a half of wine.

Second, if penetration comes to an end, just have sex some other way. Apart from it being better sex if you lower the percentage of penetration, you'll soon enough be able for penetration again (I normally find the second or third bit of penetrative sex lasts a good bit longer than the first time I have penetration in the course of a sex session, though after that it drops down a bit).

Didn't last the distance

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