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Pushing myself away

LegacyUser · 2008-02-29 15:19:24

Hi, I dont really know what to say and what replies I want, this is just more of a ramble. Im just wondering is this some form of depression. I know your not doctors but I still respect opinions I am not working at the moment and have been told about a job I will most likely have. This job is something I would have dreamed…

29-02-2008 3:19pm

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Hi, I dont really know what to say and what replies I want, this is just more of a ramble. Im just wondering is this some form of depression. I know your not doctors but I still respect opinions
I am not working at the moment and have been told about a job I will most likely have. This job is something I would have dreamed of throughout my early 20s and my teens. And now i feel not interested in it and am interested in maybe pursuing something else(not sure what).
I havent had a girlfriend in years and have met someone recently who im pretty sure is very into me. We've kissed a few times,She is great looking, really good sense of humour, has cool interests, is very mature but really cool and i seem to be pushing myself away everytime it looks like we might plan on meeting up (when txting) or even when we start really getting on with each other and having a laugh. Now I think I know why that is (see my other thread reagarding viagra/performance anxiety). http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055225666

But overall I cant seem to get out of my comfort zone. I want to visit a gp regarding the problem above and I cant bare to do it. Its just too embarrassing and would nearly prefer to stop seeing that girl. And I know she is starting to wonder whats going on and is starting to think i dont like her.

I am by no means an alcoholic, i go drinking maybe once every 2 weeks but its only then when I seem to feel good and want to take on things and get confidence.
Like for years I had a passion for music, its now pretty much gone in the space of a few months. I have no interest in it whatsoever(unless drunk).
I seem to have any excitement in anything. Like recently I had the old classic thought of what it would be like to win the lotto. Then I started thinking , ok, Id get my big house, my cars, my cool holidays, but then what ? after 2 years id be right back where i am. Like, even the very basic dream of winning the lotto isnt appealling to me!!!

Sorry I know theres no real structure to this post but I guess i just wanted to write what i was thinking and no better place than here.

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#2 29-02-2008 6:18pm

AARRRGH

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Do you do much physical activity? Exercise is great for lifting your mood and making you feel motivated. Try a long, fast paced walk and see how you feel after it.

It does seem like you're going through a low patch. At least you've recognised it early enough so you can nip it in the bud and sort it out.

I know you're not working at the moment, but if you can afford it, treat yourself to some new clothes and a nice haircut. Try to arrange to meet the girl that night, so it's when you're feeling handsome and fresh. Maybe the excitement of a new relationship will be enough to lift you out of your current comfort zone.

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