Lack of Friends at DCU

connacht100

[FONT=Verdana,Arial,Helvetica]OK I am in my second year here at DCU and I have to say that I dont like the place at all. Maybe its just me but I find the type of people who go to DCU are extremely competitive and are very much looking out for themselves. The people in my class are not that helpful and they all seem to think that if they offer someone help that they will get better marks than they will.

I thought that coming to DCU I would make friends for life and all that but I have found it hard to make friends within my class, as there are different cliques and groups who always hang around together. [/FONT][FONT=Verdana,Arial,Helvetica]Now i gotten to know some people very well but to be honest i'm not particularly close to them. I'm not saying its the college's fault, maybe its me, but i have found it really hard to approach people and make friends. If anyone has any opinions on this subject or feels the same I would really like to hear from them.
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dregin

Have you joined many clubs or socs? They're usually the best alternative for meeting people outside of class. I know it's known as geek central, but redbrick's where I've made my best friends since arriving in DCU.

dory

I have always found it difficult to make friends with people in my own class. People are generally pretty competitive in college, especially P.E. teaching, with a lot of sporty (naturally competitive) people.
I think joining clubs/societies are the way to go. There's one for just about everything and lots of people I know made their best college friends in those.

sunnyjim

A club or soc is your only way to go I'm afraid.

If you're on a teaching course, you'll be lucky enough to be in close contact doing microteaching etc. It's that bit harder I think if you're in a massive business course or such, as you're beside a different person in each lecture.

Good luck!

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Mad_Max

What course do you do? Some can be quite competitive alright but I think thats somewhat to be expected (not saying its right!) in terms of assignments etc.

As said already join a club/soc. This is where you'll most likely meet the "friends for life".

gamblitis

dregin wrote: »

Have you joined many clubs or socs? They're usually the best alternative for meeting people outside of class. I know it's known as geek central, but redbrick's where I've made my best friends since arriving in DCU.

I'm gonna have to agree with dregin on this one.Def get involved in some clubs or societies.They really are your best chance of meeting people with the same interests as yourself.And redbrick is pretty ok for meeting people too.I've met a few friends there myself.

Attol

Redbrick is a good way to get to know people, definitely. At the beginning I knew barely anyone and had I not been involved with Redbrick I would probably still be a bit lost!

cathald

Does you course do any group assignments? That was always a great way to get to know people in my course.

baker59

The NuBar doesn't help social aspects of DCU either.
But same suggestion here as everyone else, Clubs & Socs. If there isn't a club or soc set up for any of your interests, then you are a sick man with sick interests. :-p

Suaimhneach

As with everyone else I think that a club or soc is teh way to go. they've changed a lot since I joined but its a great way to get involved. I know if it wasnt for c&s I'd prolly have left college, my course is TINY and I prolly woulda went mad.

GavMan

Stop posting on boards and get there and make friends...

Monotype

It sounds you're just in a bad class. Certain groups of people are just like that. Chances are you're going to get the same kind of people in whatever job follows on from that course. Either change or stick it out till a postgrad. Or join societies to meet people outside that range.
I've come across the same and you can't blame the whole college of people when it's just one group of selfish, back-stabbing bastards.

chele

ah do not worry, just hang in there and make sure to not blame yourself. I do not particularly fit in with the people in my course as im real into outdoor pursuits and I hate wearing make up into college , nor do I spend my time looking at gossip magazines and tabloids or daydreaming about what outfit il buy from bt2! And I find alot of people in college (in particular humanities) are into image and for me it was real tough to find common ground - but iv learned to ignore it, be friendly with them all and I joined clubs that had similar people to me - it was the best thing!!

andrew163

chele wrote: »

im real into outdoor pursuits and I hate wearing make up into college , nor do I spend my time looking at gossip magazines and tabloids or daydreaming about what outfit il buy from bt2!

And you're humanities, you say?

/me studies this for a few moments


Get me the president.

InTouch

Hey, I'm just replying to the original poster, I am also in second year and ,like you, I don't get along with many people on my course (not because I'm not nice or anything, I am down to earth when compared to the air heads and wannabe Kate Moss crowds). I've found it hard to fit in on my course and still get worked up over the ignorant way I get treated by a lot of them, and it's such a small crowd of people (Around 25), that i've given up all hope of making friends there now.

So, for making friends i'd also agree with the above, go to join a club that interests you and don't be afraid to be the newbie, they'll probably treat you nice (so long as it isn't a fashion club...)

the square

I'm a first year student and i can relate. I have joined some clubs and socs and have made some friends. However I am finding it difficult to "fit in" as well as did in school. the people i know in college now are sound but we arn't really that close, maybe in time i dunno:D

Sexynurse

I'm in first year and i agree that it is really hard to make friends at DCU! I have joined clubs and societies and i really enjoy them but i still feel like i don't belong here!!!

chele

andrew163 wrote: »

And you're humanities, you say?

/me studies this for a few moments


Get me the president.

no need to go and get the president, but ya as u can imagine, being in humanities and not wanting to aspire to be a celebrity tv presenter - does not bode well but sure I am happy to say not everyone is like that (atleast two or three anyway are not).

Defenestrate

Well DCU is in Dublin, the city of cliques...

At least it's smaller than others so you have a better chance of being part of the community.