Telling my Manager to go F**k herself

bibbly

I am on a 12 month contract, and 6 months through my manager has told me that she doesn't think "I have a future in the department",
and unless i can turn things around my contract will not be renewed.

I do think i get treated differently because im a young male, no one else gets asked to do certain jobs i get asked to do, and i feel im not respected or liked by her. I do my best in the job but i can accept it might not be good enough.

Im outgoing and like talking and getting on with everyone, she has a face like a slapped arse and never smiles.

I think at this early stage she has already made her mind up about me.

Unfortunately i am not eligble to apply for other positions in the organisation as you have to be there 12 months.

Or should i finish out my 12 months and put up with her? either way i think i won't be getting a good reference. I have no morgage or kids, so i could survive a few months without a job.

Should i put up with her crap and finish out my 4 months left of my 12 month contract, or should i tell her to go F**k herself..

Any comments Welcome!!!

FruitLover

bibbly wrote: »

or should i tell her to go F**k herself..

Could be damaging for future employment. Is there anyone above here that you could speak to (this is the least you should do if you're seriously considering packing it in)? You should also ask her directly what problems she sees in you, and how she thinks these problems might be remedied (try not to be confrontational - you should be aiming to give her as few things she can complain about as possible). If she can't give you a proper answer, this won't look good for her if you do go and speak to her superior.

Personally, if I wasn't happy about where I was working, I'd try to get out of there with as little damage to my CV as possible (but I suppose this depends on how far along your career path you are).

laoisfan

well did she specify in detail the areas in which she expected you turn things around? if not, did you ask? have you missed deadlines or performed some of the work in a shoddy manner? you say she has a face like a slapped arse - maybe she wants to.......:D (before any mods reply...i'm only kidding & i'm taking this seriously...just being light hearted!!)

watna

We all have bad managers at some time. I'd say stay for your last 4 months and then take a break and look for a new job. You're likely to get a better reference if you stay and it looks better on your CV if you didn't walk out of a contract. Ireland is a small place and leaving on bad terms has a way of coming around to bite you on the ass.

She may be a b*tch and unprofessional but you shouldn't stoop to her level. Just quietly get through your 4 months and move on. That's what I'd do anyway!

Mr. Incognito

I'd go over her head and have a chat with the head of the department or you could make a compalint to HR.

Ger the man

I'd leave now - I know what your going through. I went through the same - the day I finished my manager e-mailed me (and copied everyone in the dept) asking me if i was having leaving drinks, i replied saying i would rather drink with satan instead, he tried to shake my hand in front of everyone and I politely refused. He never asked where I was going and I never told him either. I just slipped out when everyone went on the afternoon break, i didnt get a reference and have gotten another job since without it.

prendy

you probably shouldnt post on internet forums during work hours either!:D

homeOwner

bibbly wrote: »

I am on a 12 month contract, and 6 months through my manager has told me that she doesn't think "I have a future in the department",
and unless i can turn things around my contract will not be renewed.

Maybe you are not performing up to standard she expects and she is giving you a heads up to shape up or ship out.

Why dont you arrange a meeting with her and HR and ask for specific areas for improvement. This does two things, firstly if she is just trying to get you off the team it makes her quantify her remarks in front of HR and secondly it provides concrete instructions for you to be judged against when your 12 months is up. If you meet her requirements she cant let you go and HR wont let her. The main thing is to get your performance good points and bad points out in the open with HR so you have someone in your corner when 12 months are up.

Dont give up yet, if you do end up moving to another department in 12 months you could get on really well.

halkar

Don't take too personal, go with the flow. Finish your contract and move on. Nothing to gain from telling feck off to anyone

newestUser

bibbly wrote: »

I do think i get treated differently because im a young male, no one else gets asked to do certain jobs i get asked to do, and i feel im not respected or liked by her. I do my best in the job but i can accept it might not be good enough.

Im outgoing and like talking and getting on with everyone, she has a face like a slapped arse and never smiles.

Could all this be interpreted as:

"I'm immature and unprofessional, and go to work to socialise instead of doing my job. I'm poor at handling interpersonal conflicts, and have difficulty relating to and getting on with people of a different disposition to me."



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Incidentally Watna, what's bitchy and unprofessional about a manager telling someone their performance isn't up to scratch, and if they don't pull their socks up, their contract won't be renewed?

Xcellor

Definitely don't tell her to F herself. Regardless of if she deserves it or not this is not a professional attitude.

Everyone has to deal ( at least once in their working life) with a boss who just has an attitude and sometimes you just have to suck it in... In your case I'd ask specific questions to your boss... Even ask for a development plan, in this way you are showing yourself proactive. Maybe you have a work performance issue maybe you don't. If you don't your manager will have to shut up if you do then be man enough to admit it and just put your head down.

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watna

newestUser wrote: »

Could all this be interpreted as:

"I'm immature and unprofessional, and go to work to socialise instead of doing my job. I'm poor at handling interpersonal conflicts, and have difficulty relating to and getting on with people of a different disposition to me."



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Incidentally Watna, what's bitchy and unprofessional about a manager telling someone their performance isn't up to scratch, and if they don't pull their socks up, their contract won't be renewed?

because the op didn't say the manager told him his performance is not up to scratch. If she'd sat down with him officially and discussed it like managers are supposed to then I'd be saying something different. According to the op she just said she couldn't see a future for him in the company and nothing else. That's hardly constructive. He can't see any reasons why she feels this way and she hasn't told him.

She may not be bitchy and unprofessional. I'm only going on the OPs description because that's all we have.

Raskolnikov

Getting yourself into trouble for absolutely no reason is a terrible idea. You never know if this might come back to bite you in the ass.

Bite your toungue and either stick the contract out, or leave now.

inforfun

OP, i haven't a clue what age you are or how many jobs you had before but from what i read i guess it is one of the first, if nor the first, jobs you ever had.
Where i work i have seen people coming, almost straight from school and what i noticed quite often is that a lot of them do not have the slightest idea what it means to work.
Where in school coming in 5 minutes late is not a bother to anyone, at a job it is unprofessional. Chatting at every opurtunity you see is unprofessional.
You might think you can do all of that as long as it doesn't hurt the work you do but when managers see you chatting away all day they think you are not busy enough and indeed they might start to give you tasks no one else gets.
Just because you seem to have the time for it.
Your colleagues are busy or at least look they are busy.

I guess the first thing somebody needs to learn in a first job is what it means to have a job and how to behave at the workplace.
I would just finish the 12 months, maybe even get that interview with HR and that manager. If you finish your contract at least it shows on your CV you can finish things. Too many short term jobs on a CV doesn't look great either.

Dont take above as a personal attack, i am just talking about first timers in general.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Dundhoone

to follow on from that, some first jobbers dont realise that you will get all the crappy jobs no one else wants for the first year or so, until you are not the "new guy" and until you can prove that you are tyrst worthy and can do simple things well. I've met a few who think they are above that and ist someone elses job.

Obviously cant say that this is the case here.

Hitchhiker's Guide to...

OP think it is important that you think if there is any reason why what she is saying might be correct.

If you are sure there isn't, then finish up your contract and move on. Although there is no harm in looking for a different job starting now, and taking it if offered.

SerialComplaint

bibbly wrote: »

Should i put up with her crap and finish out my 4 months left of my 12 month contract, or should i tell her to go F**k herself..

Why the drama? Seems unprofessional to me.

damnyanks

Ask her what she means by the comment.

Having someone say you arent good enough at your job and responding go **** yourself just backs her claim up. If she cant explain it then she's just a hoe

Clytus

OP...you say that your manager approached you after 6 months. Has she spoken to you about your work preformance before this time? Has she needed to coach you more than the others? Has she found that she needs to double check your work??...do you forget to do things your asked to do and are requested to do them multiple times??

For managers there is nothing more frustrating than having to ask people to do things many times over. OP...take a long hard look at your work preformance before jumping ship or telling your manager what you really think.