What to think? Longdistance to Nodistance

LegacyUser

I've been going out with a guy (we're both 23 ) for around ten months now.
It's been a long distance thing for that entire time with various amounts of distance between us due to work commitments. However he just got a job transfer recently which means that for the next four months he's going to be in Kilkenny - the same city as me.

I was quite excited by this fact and told him I was at which point he started getting apprehensive about the move saying that he couldn't see himself wanting to be with me everyday and that meeting wouldn't be an everyday occurance. He basically said it would be too much for him and regardless of it sounding bad that this would be the case for our four months in the same city!

Now I'm not sure what to think - I know that I love him and I thought that he loved me but this has really shocked me - I mean a certain amount of space is understandble but the fact that he had say it out to me that he would need this and exactly how he feels about being with me everyday as "too much" has sorta hurt. I'm not an overly clingy girlfriend to begin with!

Anyone had similiar experience? Do I have something to worry about? Help

Yeah some people are like that. Infact i had this problem in the past with a girl. I am normally easy going and it wouldnt affect me either way. The girl i was seeing was one of these, that if you call her she would think you were checking up on her. She always talked about her space. Then one time we went away for 2 weeks. All was great , and she was surprised that we could spend all that time together. When we came home she was not afrade of spending more time with me.
Funny thing was during those 2 weeks , i was the one that got a bit jumpy about the situation and started to distance myself.
To be honest you wont really know what to think untill it happens .Things can change very quickly .

seamus

He's probably just worried about the adjustment - that is, that you may end up spending every spare minute together and that he would be under pressure to see you every single day. One of the (few) good things about a long distance relationship is that lack of pressure to be with the other person when you have free time. It affords you that little bit of extra freedom to do whatever the hell you like when you have some downtime.

So while you're thinking this is great, you'll be able to go and go to the cinema together on random nights, he's worried that some night you'll want to go to the cinema and he'll want to go out for a few drinks with mates and then he's under pressure. In reality, the situation will rarely arise - but nobody likes to have their options reduced.

It's nothing to worry about, he's just facing a period of adjustment. He'll get used to it quickly enough and the "seeing eachother" thing won't be an issue.

Mr. Incognito

Don't stress out- he's just saying that he doesn't want you too living in each other's pockets and him not being able to make new friends. Just leave it lie and enjoy each other's company when you're together.